If you are lesbian... what constitutes losing your virginity

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I’ll begin by saying I really don’t want to cause offence to anyone and am probably going to show my ignorance but this was born from a random thought and I can’t get my head round it. Sorry if it’s crude.

So. A Virgin is someone that hasn’t had intercourse. Right? I think? Penis in vagina.

Obviously a woman who has only ever had female partners has never had “this”... does this mean that she’s a Virgin despite being in a sexual relationship? Or does penetration count as sex and therefore mean the woman is not a Virgin. But then if you had a man and a woman who did similar things, would they not be virgins anymore? Or would the woman not be as she’s been penetrated but the man is as his penis has been kept in his pants?

I genuinely can’t think of the answer. Am I missing something? Being thick?

Fwiw my mum has been in a same sex marriage for 10 years, but was married to my dad before this... but (probably rightly so) I can’t ask her what she thinks.

Sorry x 100000000 if I’ve offended anyone, was just genuinely curious

Lesbian sex is not what you see in porn most of the time. Or read about. never "banal"

Losing your virginity = breaking of the hymen, often meaning a small loss of blood.

Popping the "cherry" eugh vile.

I guess it would be when penetration happens and the hymen is broken. So having sex with toys or fingers etc.

Some really interesting view points here. Glad I asked, I really think it’s one of those questions that there will never be a right or wrong answer. Apart from the poster said who said I wasn’t allowed to ask because I’m not a lesbian 🤨😂

I’ve been debating the whole virginity thing as
the first person I did anything with was a girl (long time happily married to a man now). I’d actually consider ‘scissoring/tribbing’ to be the point I lost
my virginity, the rest was just oral/fingering. It felt like ‘having sex’. Although if you’d asked me
at the time, I think I’d have said it didn’t count.

also… totally the best bit of FF sex for me. The sensations are incredible, it’s really intimate.

‘also… totally the best bit of FF sex for me. The sensations are incredible, it’s really intimate.’

I’ve always considered myself totally heterosexual but the way you describe that makes me curious actually.

what do you mean sex.. what defines sex as a lesbian?
im lesbian btw

Dose same gender sex count as loosing your vaginaty

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I suppose "technically" I am a virgin being a gold-star lesbian if you define losing your virginity as being penetrated by a man.

However I've been penetrated by toys wielded by other women countless times so I wouldn't consider myself one.

Good grief
Please don't tell children this constitiues losing one's viginity

😂😂😂😂 invented by men!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Jesus h christ

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Wielded 😁

Reminds me of the thread the other week when someone loudly proclaimed "Behold, Excalibur!"

Great question op. Been wondering occasionally this since I was a teen. I'd probably run with the technical piv.

Well some of us myself included, never had a "cherry" to
"pop". If I did, it was broken long before I became sexually active, probably with either a tampon, or during athletic activities at a prepubescent girl. It's totally possible that I broke it with a tampon but I'm not really sure how to tell since there was always blood everywhere. By the time I inserted a toy in there it was long gone if it ever existed. That said, not all girls have hymens. I definitely played with other girls before I used a toy on myself but I nor any of my partners ever noticed any kind of obstruction to speak of, other than them noting that it was very difficult to fit more than 2 digits inside of me..