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Phillip Schofield has come out as gay

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catinb0oots · 07/02/2020 09:59

Blimey. Married for 27 years.

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Figgygal · 07/02/2020 13:13

What I’m not sure of and I was home earlier so put this morning on was whether he’s known his whole life or only more recently.

I think it’s unfair for people to be saying poor wife, he’s lied for 27 years.......has he?

Sounds like she’s been very supportive over him going public. He’s not said he’s leaving her or their marriage is over maybe they will stay married as they still love each other but not romantically?

beckywiththeshithair20 · 07/02/2020 13:13

Maybe this is to distract attention away from the recent news stories about him being a dickhead to work with and falling out with his colleagues?

Halloumifriesforbreakfast · 07/02/2020 13:13

Does that mean children of abusive parents can't be too annoyed because you know grateful to exist 🤔

@dunnyplop, are you equating abusive parents to homosexual parents?

Jesus, some of these posts!

Gullible33 · 07/02/2020 13:14

People change, that is true. Also, we all have an idea of what intimacy entails. I think when sexual intercourse is involved, it's better for both parties to be aware of what they are undertaking, as for reproducing, that is a huge responsibility.

dunnyplop · 07/02/2020 13:14

i find it weird that people have to find reasons behind every single thing.

Your one of those... & clearly have no knowledge of PR.

YourVagesty · 07/02/2020 13:14

If there wasn't some pressure behind this, he would've respectfully divorced his wife and staggered the 'coming out' announcement.

So odd to rush this message out in this way. Somebody somewhere has it in for him big time.

getyourarseoffthequattro · 07/02/2020 13:15

Unless he and his wife had some sort of 'arrangement' then basically, he's come out as a horrid cheat..

sorry, how do you know he's cheated on her?

smotheroffive · 07/02/2020 13:16

Poor Stephanie.

His sexual preferences are noone's business except the consenting adult/s he goes with, particularly the wife he made promises to.

It's sad, but its hardly surprising that its still difficult to announce publicly, but he chose to do that so he could be in control of it all. Noone has made him.

He will be heralded as brave. Noone has to say anything about it, but he has chosen to do this very publicly, when I and others couldn't give a damn.

Why would anyone care whether its men he likes.

Its cowardly the way hes done this.

I can see that it may have been the best way to manage it for his family, by getting it out there in one hit, and maintaining control of that, but it is possible to behave with respect to others and get on with your life quietly. He obviously doesn't want to do that!

He should have split with his wife quietly, and got on with his private affairs quietly instead of making all his family's business public. What a shit thing to do.

Self self selfish.

In what world can anyone see.compassion in a statement like free to have other relationships. Thats whats at the bottom of it all.

Have recently heard about his poor treatment of all the crew including holly, so none of this surprises me.

getyourarseoffthequattro · 07/02/2020 13:17

@dunnyplop sorry, one of what? care to explain?

Everythings to do with PR, but why do you specifically care? Like what does it matter to you, really?

Have you nothing more important to worry about than why PS came out on a friday?

EmeraldShamrock · 07/02/2020 13:17

He claims they've always had an honest relationship in the interview, he talks about coming out to his daughters and mother but did not mention how or when he came out to Steph. My conclusion is she's known for year's.

Gingaaarghpussy · 07/02/2020 13:17

@getyourarseoffthequattro

Have you ever been in the middle of a family situation that makes no sense to you?
My dad made the choice he did because my mother devastated him. He loved her until he died. He always blamed the other woman.

It did happen because she was gay. That was the catalyst that fucked up my family.

dunnyplop · 07/02/2020 13:18

are you equating abusive parents to homosexual parents?

So tiresome & predictable. Show where I said that please?

I was responding to these posters, I can assume you agree then

Well if their dad hadn't lied to their mum for 30 years as you put it they wouldn't even exist! So surely we should be happy for them not sorry, as having life is better than having never existed?

You wouldn't have existed if she hadn't deceived your father in the first place.

getyourarseoffthequattro · 07/02/2020 13:20

gingaa yes my parents split up...

he made that choice because he wanted to, that was his choice, nothing to do with your mother being gay. Youre blaming the wrong person here. Him blaming the other woman was foolish too, it wont of been her that made your mum gay.

It was the catalyst, yes, but its how your dad dealt with it thats upset you and yet you continue to blame it on your mother sexuality.

SarahAndQuack · 07/02/2020 13:21

Yep, that clearly wasn't what @dunnyplop was saying. It's a fair comment. None of us should have to feel 'grateful' we were born.

SpokeTooSoon · 07/02/2020 13:22

He’s not said he’s leaving her or their marriage is over maybe they will stay married as they still love each other but not romantically

So what exactly I’d the purpose of the public declaration?

Presumably because he wants to have sex with men and doesn’t want endless leaked stories to the press about it.

His poor wife, having to be part of that. How is it different from him saying he loves his wife and nothing has changed, they’re not getting divorced, he just wants to have sex with other women.

How is it different, really? We’re lauding the fact that a man wants sex with someone other than his spouse.

Gingaaarghpussy · 07/02/2020 13:23

I was a child of someone who did the same kind of thing.
Granted my mother wasnt a tv personality.
I just thought I would give my perspective. I kind of shared a bit more than I should.

Whatever is said, it's not easy being the child in that situation.

dunnyplop · 07/02/2020 13:23

sorry, one of what? care to explain?
*
Everythings to do with PR, but why do you specifically care? Like what does it matter to you, really?
*
Have you nothing more important to worry about than why PS came out on a friday?

one of those posters who lacks critical thinking as demonstrated beautifully by the above.

Winstonwolfe · 07/02/2020 13:25

I felt quite sickened by that display this morning. Nobody gives a crap if he's gay. He comes across as an absolute narcissist. Imagine robbing his wife of 27 years! Of an opportunity to be happy with someone who would actually love her the way she deserved. It's not brave. It's selfish. I nearly puked when he said "I'm proud of myself ". Are you? You be destroyed that poor woman's life. Imagine the self doubt, looking back on all those intimate moments now knowing he was thinking of someone else.

I think Eamonn hesitated a little, Phil looked like he was waiting for a hug but Eamonn put his hand out instead. I'm glad Eamonn mentioned his wife and kids too. Holly made me sick too, fawning over him. Not a care for the wife. He in my opinion is an odious little man who seems to only care for himself.

yolofish · 07/02/2020 13:25

Everyone saying the wife is being supportive - where have they seen that?

Because what I'm seeing is that PS is SAYING that his wife and family are being amazingly supportive.

In the words of someone else "well, he would say that wouldn't he"

getyourarseoffthequattro · 07/02/2020 13:26

@dunnyplop theres no need to resort to insults is there?

i dont lack critical thinking at all, but it doesn't affect my life what so ever, and honestly i have no concerns about why PS came out on a friday, i really dont. It affects my life not one shit.

Nothing to do with critical thinking, more to do with i have more important things to dwell on than the whys and wherefores of a particular news item.

NumbersStation · 07/02/2020 13:28

For me, the telling thing about this interview is that he keeps going on about the pain he has caused.

His wife may or may not have known but to acknowledge that pain says to me that his wife was not aware for the duration of their marriage. Why would you feel pain if you were accepting of the lie?

You can’t throw away love easily. But my goodness the resentment for wasted years stings.

EmeraldShamrock · 07/02/2020 13:29

I'm glad Eamonn mentioned his wife and kids too. Holly made me sick too, fawning over him
Yes and Yes.
I am usually a fan of Holly unpopular opinion on mnet She made me feel ill treating him like a child.

Gingaaarghpussy · 07/02/2020 13:29

getyour
No, I blame my mother for the situation, the fact that she was gay is a side issue.
I took years to forgive my dad too.
To be perfectly honest there have been a lot of times in my life that I wish I'd never existed.

dunnyplop · 07/02/2020 13:30

Nothing to do with critical thinking, more to do with i have more important things to dwell on than the whys and wherefores of a particular news item

@getyourarseoffthequattro 🤣🤣🤣

kateandme · 07/02/2020 13:32

i think seeing him and his wife together it was clear he bloody adoredher and the kids.he might not have know what the unomfortable feeling was in him for a while,or denied it so much he actually believed it which is very common.
to live like that and then start to hate yourself on it must be difficult.
and who knows what hi wife and kids feels.maybe they do just ove their dad and want him to be ok,in less pain.yes it will be shocking and hard.but as people keep saying he has been a great dad and husband for so long that doesnt change.and it doesnt mean he didnt love her or the kids.he had a turmoil inside of him.
maybe they are ok.maybe the love and the family unit is stronger than anything else so they will get through.
we have no idea whats going on.but i know if i saw my dad shriveling like that id too want to scoop him up and help him.
and as a wife it wouldnt be more hate,more i will miss him because assuming they will split?
i think in every way he could have loved her.but over time new something just wasnt right.
if you go out with your wife you both often find others attractive.if she looks at a bloke and mention how good looking he is and he thinks so too one day? i can imagine that bring all sorts of confusing feelings.
anyway we dont no.but i dont think we should slate or presume.
they both deserve support.
after all this is a long fucking marriage why would he ever want to wreck that if it was something he could live with himself for.