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Help- cleaner drank my gin!

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kayde12 · 19/01/2020 10:48

Hi all,
I’m new to mumsnet, but would really love some advice!

I’ve just signed up to a cleaning company and had my first clean, which I was thrilled about.
Then I noticed that half of my bottle of pink drink has gone!
I only got the bottle given to me as a gift last week from my sister in law.
My Dh doesn’t drink and I have my two ds in the house.
It was the cleaner definitely!
The company have been awful at getting back to me and sent me a poor email saying she said she didn’t drink it and was too early in the morning.

I feel really gutted and not sure how to move forward or get some sort of justice!!

OP posts:

Fernie6491 · 19/01/2020 11:40

@kayde12. Are you going to feel a bit embarrassed if the gin continues to disappear , now you've got rid of the cleaner ?

SarahTancredi · 19/01/2020 11:41

So you would tell someone who had a fiver stolen that its "only a fiver"

It's never about what's taken its about the trust that's been broken, the idea someone has been.tbrough your things, that you have been.lied to.

That would apply whether it was the ds or the cleaner.

BohoBunney · 19/01/2020 11:42

Why would the cleaner risk her job over half a bottle of gin? I’m sure she could just go and buy a bottle if she was really keen on it.

Muckycat · 19/01/2020 11:43

X post with Puds11

Liriope · 19/01/2020 11:43

OP, can you report back if a new cleaner has come in and the gin level has once again gone down?

Seriously though if you're worried, a nanny cam can help establish who did it if it happens again.

NiktheGreek · 19/01/2020 11:43

Op yeah the trust was broken when you accused your cleaner of theft with absolutely no proof.

Bluntness100 · 19/01/2020 11:43

The gin won't continue to disappear as the op is so distressed about it.

Op is your husband an alcoholic? Is that why he doesn't drinka. Again what's the reason for him being teetotal?

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 19/01/2020 11:43

Yes it cannot be proven but just feels crappy for me that this has happened. It’s not really about the gin, rather the principal.

I'm sure it does feel crappy, it's disappointing for so much of a gift to be gone... and it's probably the right decision not to continue with the cleaner, I'd imagine she'd feel rather awkward cleaning your home now, regardless.

BUT, I think you need to consider that it may not have been the cleaner. It would be a risky move to drink or decant gin as a cleaner, especially because a lot of homes have cameras if they have outside help, and for all the cleaner knew, you could have been a "mystery shopper" working with the company to assess her work, and to be honest, she'd be risking a lot to down half a bottle of gin in the morning - her driving license and her job, for a start!

It's worth considering that it was one of your kids.

SpamChaudFroid · 19/01/2020 11:44

I think I might be casting my eye towards DCs in this instance.

Cleaners do take the piss sometimes. Like anyone. I recently came home to the cleaner wearing my slippers.

fblake · 19/01/2020 11:46

@DoloresTheDonkey me too.

OP, more likely your 13 year old 😐

nowlook · 19/01/2020 11:48

@OhMeows

I once made the mistake of topping the pernod up with water many, many moons ago

Katinski · 19/01/2020 11:49

My schoolfriend and I used to have swigs from a bottle of cointreau every morning at mine before we left for school. Parents had bought it on holiday. It was a hard winter and it was nice and warming, oh! and we liked the orange taste.
We must have been 13 too.

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kayde12 · 19/01/2020 11:49

I’ve definitely considered that it may be ds, though more certain not. But also have considered that it may be the person that came into my home for the first time. Both are not impossible in terms of likeliness.

Not sure why people think that the cleaner decanting it drinking is impossible. Quite strange really.

Lessons learnt.

Thanks for the replies

OP posts:

MaisWeee · 19/01/2020 11:51

I'd say it's plausible that the cleaner decanted it into her water bottle to have later in the day.

Pannalash · 19/01/2020 11:51

Crikey OP ’justice’ give yer head a wobble

AriadnesFilament · 19/01/2020 11:52

What I’m reading is a lot of ‘the 13 year old decanted it’ vs ‘the cleaner wouldn’t have necked it first thing in the morning’

Those two things are logical inconsistencies.

If one can think to decant, so can the other.

As I said, I’ve no idea which out of the prime suspects did it, and I don’t really care actually.

What I am saying is that a lot of you have fallacious logic: if a teen can think to decant it, it is at least equally likely that a cleaner could think of the same thing. I do not understand why the immediate assumption when considering the teen is that he’d decant, while the immediate assumption with the cleaner is that she’d drink it. Inconsistent logic.

Someone has pinched the gin. OP has no realistic idea who, merely suspicions. She’s already accused the cleaner so there’s no way she can have the cleaner back now, so this is a completely pointless exercise. If more gin goes missing then we’ve got a real mystery on our hands and then things can get really interesting. At which point I predict colonel mustard in the library with the lead pipe.

AmazingGreats · 19/01/2020 11:53

When I was thirteen we used to all bring in something from our parents alcohol, mix it all together and drink it. So, gin, port, whiskey, rum, vodka and beer all mixed together (or similar). Then we would all have to drink it in shots using a bottle cap. The one who did the most shots won. If you were sick then you were ridiculed. The next week you made sure not to be sick. I was glad when the upper year kids moved on as the game ended and a new one took its place (spin the bottle, downing big bottles of energy drink and sharing one cigarette between 5 people if I recall). I do not Think times have Changed that much

Bluntness100 · 19/01/2020 11:54

Op, it's clear you're avoiding answering the question on why your husband doesn't drink...

Biscuitsneeded · 19/01/2020 11:56

Yeah i think the DH who doesn't drink may need to be asked a few more Qs too. Does he realise the cleaner may be losing her job over this?

starfishmummy · 19/01/2020 11:56

What's the timeline? Did you see a full bottle just before the cleaner arrived and spot the missing gin immediately afterwards? If yes, cleaner. If not then it could have been anyone including the allegedly non drinking husband. Or maybe the husband had some mates round??

notapizzaeater · 19/01/2020 11:56

My nephew used to swig the whisky And top up with water, wasn't discovered till the parents poured someone a neat whisky with ice and the visitor joked about it being watered down ! They'd not noticed as they had it with ginger.

Original poster

kayde12 · 19/01/2020 11:57

I am 100 per cent certain it isn’t my husband. He is doesn’t drink at all and would make him violently ill.

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Bluntness100 · 19/01/2020 11:58

Why would it make him ill? Is he on Antabause?

Geometricprince · 19/01/2020 11:58

Of course the cleaner could have decanted it but it would seem an odd thing to do. As an adult she could just go and buy her own (which a teenager couldn't). Half a bottle of gin (15 quids worth?) would seem a strange thing to risk your job over. That's not to say she didn't do it but it seems unlikely.

Feelingabitashamed · 19/01/2020 11:59

Biscuit got you. I'm not sure about everyone else but i think if she's done either she is more likely to have decanted than supped it, just that this is less likely than a teenager having done so.

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