Why can’t other mums ever met at weekends

[Notsogreen30]

I’ll start by saying I know a lot of people work ft and family time is precious and I’m kindof aiming this thread at parents of more than one kid as me and my dh found it easier to have downtime etc when we just had one dc and we were (in our case) a bit more insular.
I have a good group of really lovely friends where I live, we get on really well and in all honesty they are the nicest people you could meet. We all have a few kids each and in general we meet up the odd time with them. The thing I don’t get is that a lot if them just can’t seem to do anything recreational for themselves at the weekend. My dh and I have three young dcs and absolutely no practical support from any other family so reply on each other completely. We still exercise at the weekends , maybe go out for coffee or breakfast (on our own obvs) or just have some time out. We also just loads with our dcs and 90 percent of our time/activities is child focused etc. I don’t know what it is but I’d love to see my friends for an hour or so catch up without the kids but it’s almost impossible.
Btw before anyone says maybe they prefer being with their kids these friends often talk about how they are exhausted at the weekends , would love some headspace etc and they all spend loads of time with their kids and husbands anyway and I know what it’s like with young kids at weekends, I adore mine but it’s not hugely relaxing. Our kids also do activities at the weekends so I know that’s busy but it’s not every hour. I just find it frustrating and it would be nice to have some company sometimes.... A friend and I are trying to organize a monthly hike and loads of interest but then the “weekends are far too tricky “ etc come up and I just think in my head two hours early morning monthly?!
I get on great with all these mums so it’s not the case that they can’t stand me and don’t want to meet. And they all have husbands etc. I just don’t really get it tbh 🤷‍♀️
Just wondered if other people found it similar? ( I do have friends without kids but they don’t live near)

I think what pissed a lot of people off about OP is that she doesn't want an answer to her question, she wants to tell people of why it's no issue for her because she has everything set up so cleverly. So when I said that actually I thought 9.30-11 was a very inconvenient time because you lose the whole morning with the toddler she changed the time to 9-10.30 and then said that she can easily spend two hours on the beach between 10.30 and lunch, presumably because she lives right next to the beach. Well, great.

I actually run three times a week (including on a Sunday!) so I'm not jealous I just think that pretending to ask a question just so you can be smug about how sorted you are is a bit annoying.

Also surely everyone’s activities are at a different time? I can’t do 9-10.30 as the DC’s are at an activity at 9.30. So 2 hours on a Saturday morning would have to be 7-9 for me to get back in time to take them (DH looks after baby DC3 while I take them, or vice versa).

@LisaSimpsonsbff we live very near to a beach and rarely find the time to go to it. I actually honestly can't remember the last time I did... possibly in the summer holidays. I can only assume OP has some sort of time machine that her dc do loads of weekend planned activities yet she finds all this free time. It's not just the activity, there needs time to get ready and get there. Our horse riding is 35 minutes away or more depending on traffic . We then have to get home and washed as horse riding is mucky then both dc have birthday parties to get to, we still need to stop off and get presents so that's our day up. DD's best friend plays football all over east central Scotland so they can be gone for much of the day on an away day game. Her older brother is the same so their parents are off in different directions. That's just one activity each - not the loads that OP's dc apparently do. Sunday will be getting washing/housework done between catching up with my DB and DN&N's

Lisa , it varies between those times depending on each weekend. I’m not at all a smug person, I did want answers and I’ve said repeatedly to other posters thanks for those answers and it’s definitely helped me understand why it’s v difficult for some and given me a better insight as I was lacking it I think.
Think will leave it here. Thought it was a pretty benign question but obvs not to some. Think the level of defensiveness and rudeness from some is also really telling. So that’s helped me get it too.
Beautiful day here and going to spend it now with my beautiful boys. ✌🏻

That was the peace sign btw ( except to Lisa , she can have it the other way round)

here is a depressing read
www.theguardian.com/society/2020/jan/16/the-agony-of-weekend-loneliness-i-wont-speak-to-another-human-until-monday

I haven't RTFT yet but you asked a reasonable question IMO.

It's now 12.15 on a beautiful sunny day here. I'm sitting on the sofa in a bathrobe drinking a second coffee, DH is in bed with toast after a late night with a friend and my DD13 is also still in her PJs. Only our teenage DS is showered and dressed.

This doesn't happen every weekend but a fair few in the winter months - we just like hanging out and taking our time and doing stuff later in the day.

You sound like a very organised and sporty family - I salute you, but I think unfortunately for you most other families aren't like this.

I have commented before it would be nice to have time to myself on a weekend now and again. But I have a SEN child and a toddler. At the moment it’s just not possible, safe, or fair on the kids to be with one parent. Therefore I can’t just ‘nip out,’ even though it may not be obvious why. Kids stages, temperaments and abilities come into play in these kind of situations. Great that you are able to confidently, and safely, leave kids with one parent at points over the weekend. Not everyone can. Or will want to.