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Does everyone think their kids are beautiful?

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Hoolajerry · 16/01/2020 22:47

Looking at my dd tonight and wondering how I produced something so lovely. She's 12 with long nearly black hair, very pale skin with a few freckles and grey/blue eyes. She's slim and toned and just lovely really.
Whenever you read about dc on here they are always gorgeous according to parents. Do all parents think their kids are gorgeous?

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sugarbum · 17/01/2020 12:06

If you're talking about skin deep beautiful, then no. I have never worn rose coloured glasses about my children. Especially when they were newborns. I mean they weren't hit by the ugly stick but neither were beautiful. Especially when the baby acne hit. However when my eldest got to toddler stage he was pretty attractive. All blonde curls and bright blue eyes and cutie pie face. He's pretty good looking now. My youngest is a lovely lovely person. He is cute and interesting looking. Not beautiful.

sugarbum · 17/01/2020 12:07

(I might add that when I say all blonde curls and bright blue eyes, I was enchanted because I'm dark (mixed race) so I couldn't quite grasp how I produced this)

spiderlight · 17/01/2020 12:09

Mine was born looking like a perfect little elf, with pointy ears and really delicate features. He even had little tufts of hair on the ends of his ears and I will kick myself for ever for not getting a photo of them, because they turned into normal human ears within days. The midwives raved about them though - the first thing I remember one of them saying was 'Who in your family has these ears?!' Within a few weeks he looked like Phil Mitchell, but he was stunning as a toddler, with huge blue eyes and loads of shiny red curls. He's currently a gawky pre-teen with pipe-cleaner arms and legs but a bit of a pre-growth-spurt tummy and a ridiculous fringe that he refuses to have trimmed, but he's still a beautiful-looking boy - one of the other mums at his sport club commented on it last night, in fact :)

Cuddling57 · 17/01/2020 12:11

No I don't think so.
When other parents compare their DS to mine my DS my DS is more gorgeous than theirs 🤷‍♀️

ConnorRipley · 17/01/2020 12:12

When DD was a baby she was, erm, interesting looking. Unbelievably cute, but not conventionally attractive. Now she’s older she honestly is gorgeous. Her colouring, her bone structure, her heart-shaped face and heart-shaped mouth. She’s going to be a stunner.

DS was born cute and gorgeous and has stayed that way.

DH is really fit though, so they’ve benefited from his good-looking genes.

vampirethriller · 17/01/2020 12:18

My daughter was not a pretty baby. She had 12 fingers, hairy pointed ears and full body scaly skin like a crocodile. My sister said we should start a sideshow.
Now the extra fingers have been removed and she's older, she's lovely. Long black ringlets, big black eyes and light brown skin. I always thought she was beautiful because she's mine though.

Usernamealreadyexists · 17/01/2020 12:19

No I don’t think all kids are beautiful in the superficial sense. DS’s obstetrician said he was gorgeous and I said he must say that about all babies. He resolutely said no as not all babies are beautiful.
I do think mine has beautiful features and has a twinkle in his eye to match his personality.

dkl55 · 17/01/2020 12:50

Yes most people think their children are beautiful. And no they probably aren't. 😂😂 Every person I know thinks their child is (spoiler alert - most look like the average baby/toddler). My sister is adamant my niece is stunning - even took her to a modelling agency. She's cute - but most toddlers are unless they're particularly unfortunate. Also to those saying - "people often say my child is beautiful / has beautiful eyes etc" ... I'm surprised that adults don't know this is just considered polite and what most people say about someone else's baby or child? I did say this to my sister and she just said - but why would they? HmmErm because it seems to be expected or at the very least good manners to say something positive about the child?

MsTSwift · 17/01/2020 12:57

I like the story Penelope Wilton told on woman’s hour when her baby was born he was so amazing and better than everyone else’s she was afraid he would be stolen - she looks at her photos now and sees a very ordinary looking child Grin

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 17/01/2020 12:57

I used to think DS was the most breathtakingly beautiful baby. I used to smile pityingly at other mums, and hope they didn't feel too bad about their own babies after seeing DS.

Looking back at the photos... My god, he was a horror. Like a badly made clay model of the offspring of Dr Evil and Tubbs from League of Gentlemen.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 17/01/2020 12:58

PS now he's 8 he absolutely could be a child model Wink

MsTSwift · 17/01/2020 12:59

My mother still insists that was the most beautiful baby ever Grin

MsTSwift · 17/01/2020 12:59

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Footle · 17/01/2020 13:07

My grandma, born in the 1890's, said "All the children are beautiful now. It wasn't like that in London when I was growing up".

bobstersmum · 17/01/2020 13:10

My two boys were very odd looking up to about 18 months! Neither were cute or beautiful babies. Dd was imo just perfect as a baby, when I look back at photos of her now I can't believe she's mine, she was beautiful.
I think all parents have this love for their children that means they think they are beautiful (my boys are very handsome now I think).

firstimemamma · 17/01/2020 13:12

"Beauty is more than just pure looks, it's a twinkle in an eye, a cheeky smile, a happy cheerful confidence. It's all the bits and nuances of our DC that we know that aren't obvious from a photo or to everyone else that make them beautiful to us"

What wonderful words!

My ds is beautiful and perfect to me. Smile

m0therofdragons · 17/01/2020 13:16

I do but also get lots of comments from other parents. They're all blonde with blue eyes and super cute (especially identical twins who know how to work their cuteness). Dd1 is now 12 and stunning. I wish they all knew it because they still think they're ugly!

olivehater · 17/01/2020 13:19

Beautiful stranger I don’t see why it should be looked down on that I think my blue eyed blonde children beautiful. How odd that in a country with a strong Anglo-saxon heritage a large number of their children might be blonde and some of those might be seen as attractive! Surely it’s just a numbers thing!?!? Are we only allowed to say our kids are beautiful if they are in a minority?

FlossieTeacakesFurCoat18 · 17/01/2020 13:29

This thread reminds me of those first-person articles in Chat magazines where the woman would be describing how she met her husband in a pub and he was "gorgeous, dark hair with a fit body and a sexy cheeky smile" and then you look at the picture and the guy looks like one of the monsters from Lord of the Rings 🤣

Ontheblackhill · 17/01/2020 13:35

My son was utterly horrendous looking as a baby. His head was all fucked up and mis-shappen and he was all skinny like a baby rat. My husband and I cried over how ugly he was ( sleep deprivation and hormones!). However, he has improved significantly as he has gotten older. His head is still a weird shape but it is covered in thick curls that hide this ( I pray he doesn't go bald early
) and he looks like his dad who I obviously think is a really handsome chap and was a truly beautiful looking child.

Batshittery · 17/01/2020 13:41

So many beautiful kids. Who do the unattractive ones belong to? Grin

evilharpyinapeartree · 17/01/2020 13:46

Mine was a normal looking newborn which is the best you can hope for really, there isn't a single photo of her looking like a potato. She became a very cute baby and small toddler. Her eyes went dark brown very soon after birth and she had dark hair, pale skin and lovely round cheeks and a tiny little nose and was just adorable, a bit like a Disney film. She's 5 now and I wouldn't say she was classically beautiful but she is a pretty little thing and is always smiling which makes her very appealing.

I was not a cute toddler (my mum says otherwise but she has photos and I have eyes) and my husband was just pretty normal looking, but I think she has taken most of our good bits and left the bad bits. She has nicer features than either of us do.

I have five nieces and nephews. One of them was a truly odd looking baby and that is being kind, but he's grown into a very cute child and looks nothing like his baby self. The rest were all normal looking babies and are now normal looking children, none of them are stunning.

One of my NCT friends gave birth to a beautiful baby boy who grew into a beautiful toddler and he's now the most beautiful 5yo boy who I am positive will be a gorgeous teenager and adult. Another NCT friend had a normal looking baby girl who has turned into a quite frankly bloody stunning child, incredibly beautiful with blonde hair and blue eyes.

Womenwotlunch · 17/01/2020 13:50

Two of my three dcs were definitely not cute as babies.
I knew that they weren’t objectively cute, but they were mine and I loved them

TiddlestheCat · 17/01/2020 14:09

One of my children is beautiful in a very conventional way. Huge eyes, beautiful curls, very photogenic and has been approached to do modelling. My other child lacks those same 'model' characteristics. Her face has more character. She's cute rather than beautiful. I adore her to pieces though, but can see them both objectively.

Starburst8 · 17/01/2020 14:15

DS1 as a newborn wasnt "gorgeous" as a toddler he was definitely cute. Growing into the teenager he is now he looks so much like his dad 🤔🤣

DS2 however was gorgeous as a newborn. He's 16months old now and he still gets stopped by everyone commenting on his cuteness, eyes and hair colour. He's such a cutie and a little cheeky boy! I am biased of course 😉🤣