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Does everyone think their kids are beautiful?

223 replies

Hoolajerry · 16/01/2020 22:47

Looking at my dd tonight and wondering how I produced something so lovely. She's 12 with long nearly black hair, very pale skin with a few freckles and grey/blue eyes. She's slim and toned and just lovely really.
Whenever you read about dc on here they are always gorgeous according to parents. Do all parents think their kids are gorgeous?

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TheHumansAreDefinitelyDead · 17/01/2020 06:57

Yes my boys were like Gerber babies, so pretty everyone thought they were girls

That did not last Grin

SundaySalon · 17/01/2020 06:58

I watched a program once about this, effectively we are mentally programmed to find our children beautiful, something in the brain, it's to stop us killing our young.

I have read about this too when my hamster ate all six of her babies. Babies have all the right features and behaviours to make them more appealing so we want to protect and feed them.
It does make me wonder about those who neglect or hurt their children though, it goes against all our natural instincts as parents.

cobwebsoncornices · 17/01/2020 06:59

Mine are both distinctively average. DD has a disproportionately large forehead and the way her hair falls means it will be difficult to disguise with a fringe unless she is willing to spend hours with stylers. DS' features are more regular but he doesn't have that "wow" factor like a couple of his friends have that somehow enhances otherwise regular features.
I have a massive nose as do a lot of my family so am waiting to see if either of their regular snub noses change into that. Mine did in about Yr6 so it could be a couple of year yet. I hope that they don't! DH has big ears and, again, I'm waiting to see if the DC's ears to have a growth spurt. If the DC end up with my ears and DH's nose, they've won the generic lottery features wise!
Whilst I'm objective now, I wasn't when DD was a newborn, genuinely not knowing how to reply when other new mums complimented me on my baby as DD was clearly so much more attractive than their baby. Photos suggest that this wasn't the case! I wasn't as bad with DS.

Enb76 · 17/01/2020 07:01

My daughter is objectively good looking, she’s very obviously Northern European stock, tall, blonde, green eyed, longer in the limbs than the body. She looked like a little baby bat when born but she’s since grown into her ears.

FamilyOfAliens · 17/01/2020 07:04

Yes of course I think my DC are beautiful!

But I think it’s strange when parents say their child is beautiful because of his/her physical features - and I have to say, OP, your description of your 12-year-old daughter as “slim and toned” seems weird to me.

Oblomov20 · 17/01/2020 07:18

No. Most children I don't think are beautiful. I probably only see a few who are, each day at pick up, in the playground. Most aren't.

ColaFreezePop · 17/01/2020 07:18

@1forAll74 I've met a few people who are the exact image of an aunt or uncle. I have a cousin who looks identical to my dad except he's a few inches taller. People would go into shocked silent when they entered a room together. It would then have to be explained they weren't father and son.

gamerwidow · 17/01/2020 07:22

I think all parents think of their child as beautiful. Even if they are objectively not a beauty you always see the character in their face which makes then beautiful to you.
My DD was a really funny looking baby but I absolutely could not see it at the time I thought she was gorgeous. I look back at pictures now and think look at that weird looking thing Grin

ColaFreezePop · 17/01/2020 07:23

@Bluntness100 I watched a program that said all toddlers are cute so if they go off/parents died some other person would instinctively look after them.

NemophilistRebel · 17/01/2020 07:23

I didn’t think my baby was nice looking when he was born He’s nearly 3 and I think he’s gorgeous

Allthepinkunicorns · 17/01/2020 07:27

My ds is beautiful. He often got mistaken for a girl with his big beautiful blue eyes and blond hair when He was a baby. He has the worlds longest eye lashs as well. I think everyone feels the same about their own child.

corduroyal · 17/01/2020 07:29

I adore my kids and think they're scrumptious, but I doubt they'll ever win any modelling contracts. Not that I particularly want them to.

I think being really beautiful comes with its own baggage, I'd rather they were lovely but normal tbh.

Serpentine1717 · 17/01/2020 07:29

My children are not attractive. Not ugly. Just in the middle somewhere.

But I'm not a real baby/little child person. I don't find them cute. Even the good looking ones.

MsChatterbox · 17/01/2020 07:31

My friend actually admitted to me that she doesn't think her daughter is "anything special" just "average and plain". I on the other hand think my son is the best looking toddler on the planet 😊

golddustwomen · 17/01/2020 07:32

I honestly think both have mine have been beautiful from birth. My little girl is striking, long blonde hair and big blue eyes. She is truly beautiful. Except when she's in a huff she has the most awful scowl I've ever seen!!
My toddler was gorgeous when born, then he went through a really chubby phase and his forehead was too big for his face for a while. He's two now and the most cheeky cute little thing.
However saying all this, they are my children and of course I'm bias. I see some really strange looking children in the playground but hey other people might be thinking the same about my two. Although I doubt it WinkGrin

golddustwomen · 17/01/2020 07:34

I mean 'strange looking' very lightheartedly by the way!

LittleMissBrainy · 17/01/2020 07:35

I think the replies rather prove the OP's point really don't they! 😂

All children are beautiful, it's their inquisitive nature's and wonder at the world!

To the ones who say 'people tell me my child is beautiful so they must be', I always say that and if I don't find them cute, I tend to gush more as I feel guilty for not finding a child cute!! Blush

Pinkypie86 · 17/01/2020 07:35

No.. some babies are seriously ugly!! Its true.
Not mine, of course. Wink

Lweji · 17/01/2020 07:41

Mine has always had compliments for his blue eyes.
(After which he throws dirty looks, and I'm sure people regret the compliment Grin )

But after the toddler years I've usually been surprised at how well he photographs.

Chocolatedeficitdisorder · 17/01/2020 07:47

An elderly lady stopped me once to tell me to be very careful watching my toddler daughter. Apparently she was a retired police officer and my dd was exactly the type that the perverts would try to abduct.

So, that was nice.

Fredy45 · 17/01/2020 07:51

I remember waxing lyrical to family that Dd2 was the most beautiful thing in the world when she was a baby but looking back she looked like a scrawny fraggle.

I am fairly objective I think. Dd2 is averagely pretty but she has my nose and dhs chin and like me her looks reflect her wellbeing very much - if she's rested and healthy she's twinkly pretty and elfin but if she has a bug or is down in the dumps it really shows. She has beautiful very vivid colouring though (very blue eyes, very blonde hair).

Dd1 on the other hand looks like my SIL and my dm, both objectively the prettiest in our respective families. She has a very regular face unlike the angles most of the rest of us have (I am all nose and cheekbone). She also has striking colouring - she's a honey blonde with green eyes which is a cross of her grandmothers. She is also very leggy and is a very bubbly outgoing confident girl. She is growing prettier as she gets older.

Babybel90 · 17/01/2020 07:54

A woman I met at a baby group talked on and on about how gorgeous her baby was, how all her friends wanted their babies to look just like him, how he would be irresistible to women when he’s older.

I can honestly say he was the ugliest baby I’ve ever seen, ears like satellite dishes and he could give Ant McPartlin a run for his money with his giant forehead, so I must conclude that everyone thinks their baby is gorgeous, whether or not they actually are.

MustardScreams · 17/01/2020 07:54

I thought dd was the most stunning creature to ever have been created when she was born.

I look back at photos of her now and she’s a wrinkled, red, old man.

She is an exceptionally cute toddler though Grin

StopMegxit · 17/01/2020 07:54

DS was a beautiful baby and child. He is now an enormous, lumbersome, awkward teen, so I wouldn’t call him beautiful, but he does have amazing colouring and beautiful eyes.

DD was a scrappy, funny looking little one. She is now 12 and objectively perhaps not stunning, but she is tall, lithe and very sporty and I marvel at her lovely strong, flexible body and how energetic and fit she is. Makes me feel extremely old and creaky! I think she’ll grow in to a beautiful woman, too, as she has a very kind, serious face.

StylishMummy · 17/01/2020 07:54

My DC are gorgeous to me, but eldest is traditionally 'child model' pretty. Youngest is 'cheeky gorgeous' - always smiling and big eyes but not striking. We think they're the most beautiful people but their personalities are the things I fell in love with