Does everyone think their kids are beautiful?

[Hoolajerry]

Looking at my dd tonight and wondering how I produced something so lovely. She's 12 with long nearly black hair, very pale skin with a few freckles and grey/blue eyes. She's slim and toned and just lovely really.
Whenever you read about dc on here they are always gorgeous according to parents. Do all parents think their kids are gorgeous?

I thought DD was ridiculously beautiful but looking back at photos she looked like Winston Churchill. People used to comment on her eyes and eyelashes - she has stunning eyelashes. She’s utterly beautiful at 7, though!

DS was a cute little monkey baby who didn’t go chubby - he’s never had a pick on him, and he has blonde curls so can look angelic. Looks are only skin deep, though - he is a terror!

I think people are commenting on the blonde because most kids’ hair darkens as they get older. My two both have blonde hair but it’s probably going to be brown by the time they’re teenagers.

My cousin and I used to have this conversation as so many people would go on about how beautiful there babies and children are when they weren't at all, most were just plane and others funny looking especially as babies. We promised to tell each other if we had ugly kids 😂 We lucked out and our kids are alright looking and growing more lovely as they get up.

Like op I do wonder how our children got to be so lovely looking, my som especially is very attractive and I get told by so many people and beautiful he is. My husband and I certainly aren't like that and at his age just looked awkward!

FYI - all of those saying how everyone says your child is cute. This is what people do, not because it's true but because it's expected! As for the person saying all children are beautiful, they really really aren't. The vast majority of people are quite plain in term of objective aesthetics and this applies to children as much as adults. This thread is a perfect example of how parents are not able to see their children objectively in terms of attractiveness. Go into an average primary school and the vast majority of children will be extremely average looking.

No, my DD looked like a grumpy potato as a baby . She just never wanted to smile at all. I have this hilarious photo of her and DS sitting in front of the Christmas tree dressed in Santa costumes. She’s probably six months old in it and her face is like thunder while her brother is beaming with delight.

She is absolutely beautiful now, has striking long wavy auburn hair and deep brown eyes with olive skin. She’s a lovely looking girl but as a baby, no I did not find her cute at all!

DS1 was a gorgeous boy from birth......however he's now a greasy haired spotty teenager with a obsession with his dressing gown at the weekends!
DS2 was a funny looking thing when first born but is a beauty now.....teenage years commencing soon though so who knows

This thread is hilarious. This explains to me why when one of those 'model call' posts is put on fb for a child wear brand (blatant free advertising ofc) there are streams of posts underneath of pictures of absolutely average kids with their mothers giving their names and ages and how much they love the camera

DS shares my heritage with me which means he is a quarter of a not white mix as I am mixed race. He has the most beautiful skin tone, he is 6ft 5 and athletic with very long legs and incredibly thick dark hair, he also has high cheekbones. Others remark on how handsome he is and he has been chased by girls always. Both myself, my Mother, one of my sisters and two of my nieces have worked as models when we were young and though beauty is in the eye of the beholder we were paid for looking the way we did. It sounds crass but we are a physically beautiful family but a very messed up one if I’m honest. It was suggested DS model as a child but I did not want him to. Two of the ex models in my family have serious diagnosed MH issues, one directly linked to her experiences.

"There is one perfect child, and every mother has it" - old Chinese proverb. It's mostly down to facial symmetry, neoteny of features and how much hair they have at birth. DGS, who can be seen in Classics, is frankly better looking than his third cousins born in the same week. Neff³ looks like the Mekon, Niece³ has had a double chin since 6 weeks. Also they were both bald.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug Very true, as mentioned in my post I was in that world and it’s messy and no way did I want my child affected by it. I had to sign a contract when a teen staying I would not put on any weight nor have my hair cut without permission. It’s a really messed up world. My niece is anorexic and almost died her illness is linked to modelling as a teen for sure.

DD1 was born very underweight, and was not a very attractive baby, she got cuter as she grew up, the rest were all big eyes and button noses and typical 'cute baby' faced.

They are all adult now and I can be more objective. The family lack of chin afflicts DS2, DS1 is losing his hair, DDs are all pretty but not startling or eyecatching.

I did the best I could with the genes available. Love 'em all to bits (and they are all partnered up, so can't be TOO objectionable).

My DC are all very average looking, or maybe even below average. even though I am a stunner they are however all kind, clever, decent human beings.

DS is the more conventionally beautiful of my children. DD, the oldest, has stunning eyes and strong features that may or may not turn out to be 'beautiful' as she grows up, but I think will always be striking. Other than the eyes, she wasn't an especially beautiful baby I'd say. Nb, should add I don't massively care about this - I'm an acquired taste looks wise (though some men I know have found ne beautiful) but have always been happy with and confident about my appearance and this appears to be transferring to DD - I really hope she stays that way. She's 11 now and on the cusp of all the bullshit about looks, but it gives me hope that, like me at that age, she's had the confidence to wear her hair short for the last few years in defiance of expectations of what girls her age should look like.

DD1 is certainly striking, red hair and blue eyes, I do get lots of comments telling me she is beautiful. I have always thought that she is, however when looking back at her baby pictures, whilst she was definitely cute, she did have a stage of looking a bit funny! DD2 was definitely the cuter baby, but as she is more average looking in terms of hair/eye colour, I don't get the comments about her. In conclusion, both my DC are beautiful to me, and who knows if I'm right or not!

The level of self delusion on this post is hysterical.

Interesting how many also comment on how ugly/ weird their child used to look in old photos but how they’re gorgeous now. They don’t seem to realise that it’s easier to apply some modicum of objectivity when looking at old photos than comparing the living breathing child in front of them now?

DD has got a lot 'prettier' since she got some hair. She was almost entirely bald at birth and then had baby acne so she was not particularly bonny for the first few weeks! I still marvelled at her, of course. Now she's moving into toddlerhood she's got quite a lot of blonde hair and very blue eyes and lovely skin so she looks a lot more conventionally pretty than she did. But I don't think we can ever be objective about it so I won't try

@bartlet I think you haven't understood the comments , a lot of pp are saying exactly that, we all think our DC are beautiful and the common theme above is that most are fully aware that some of it is maternal instinct...did you not understand the meaning of the posts?

I'm the same as others I think both DC are beautiful (less so in the midst of snot or sick obviously ) but I'm aware that part of it at least is the awe that these little people grew out of me and frankly a genuine amazement I kept them breathing and functional (mainly through luck if I'm honest)

I dont know or If I'm honest care overly if they are objectively beautiful, i do get the odd comment but what's not to like about children who are usually telling you to have a wonderful day (No idea why ...but it's currently a stage ds2 is going through that i try to protect poor random strangers from being inflicted , my ability at that varies)

Well duh- of course mums think their kids are beautiful.

They adore them- its quite normal.

Objectively I could tell you some ways in which dd deviates from the usual standards of beauty (especially during that very toothy stage when her first adult teeth were coming through). But to me, that makes her even more beautiful than the boring old standard template.

My objectivity is clearly quite shallow.

@Shinyletsbebadguys. I have read the posts and although some people are admitting that they have the equivalent of parental beer goggles, many many others are persisting with the ugly baby but now an absolute stunner line. They seem to think that as they’ve claimed they can see how ugly they were as babies then we should believe that they’re now gorgeous just because their mum says so.

Of course parents are biased.

It's hilarious listening to parents on social media talking about their beautiful children, really convinced they have given birth to something extraordinary. The majority are plain and even funny-looking.

I'm always surprised about how confident people are talking about the beauty of their children. You know I have eyes, right? I wouldn't tell people my kids are amazing looking as I know I'm biased.

My cousin bored everyone to death for years constantly talking about her son's beauty and how incredible he looked. If anything it made people more aware of how unattractive he was. People would eye-Roland Rat and cringe.

We all adore our kids and think they're great but how many are truly beautiful really?

I mean to me my dd is scrumptious. I could kiss and cuddle her all day. Every feature of her face appeals to me more than any other child's. Objectively speaking she's quite a pretty little thing, don't think she'll ever have a weight problem, pretty eyes, nice nose, teeth seem ok so far. Her hair is mediocre not as thin as mine but not thick or luxurious. I predict that she won't find it hard to get a boyfriend/ girlfriend but she's not going to be a super model either.
I think some people do struggle to see their children clearly though

I always find these threads weird because

a) there certainly isn't a shed lot of beautiful adults in the world.

b) it's pretty difficult to not be gorgeous as a toddler/child

c) so many equate blonde hair & blue eyes with beautiful. A beautiful face is beautiful regardless of eye colour & having blue eyes doesn't make you beautiful. I say this as a blue eyes blonde.

people have often say

It is instinct, as said it's supposed to be to prevent us killing our young. If we found them ugly then when they became hard work we would behave like animals and off them.

Everyone thinks their kid is beautiful. But Walk into any school and no one is walking round marvelling at the beauty all around them. Let's be honest.

My daughter had exzema as an infant. So was kinda blotchy. She also has a natural Mohican. Fuck me I thought she was the most beautiful baby to grace the planet.

Objectively yes she has grown into a very attractive young woman, she's 22. I think it's easier to see our kids when they are adults.

For the simple reason we are no longer at risk of killing our young when they are babies and hard work...🤣

I am regularly told that I have a baby with beautiful eyes who should be doing baby modelling but I take it with a massive punch of salt aiming that people always say nice things about babies!

I genuinely do think my DS is gorgeous in looks and temperament (most of the time) but my rational brain makes room for the possibility that that I might not think so if he was someone else's!

so many equate blonde hair & blue eyes with beautiful

I have noticed this too and find it odd. Ive seen a lot of threads describing a "beautiful child/woman/girl" and blonde hair/blue eyes is often mentioned. Its a very western ideal.

Personally, I think dark hair/colouring is the most stunning but its curious that the default is always blonde.