Does your dh know what the dc’s have got for Christmas?

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Because I’ve just realised dh has neither asked me what they’re getting, whether they’re wrapped, no idea what’s going to be from Santa or what’s going to be from us. He hasn’t asked if I’ve got all the food in that we need or asked about booze or puddings or anything.

This isn’t normal is it? His parents are staying so he will be assuming I have also bought and wrapped they’re presents as well as getting their favourite drinks and snacks in.

I’ve spent weeks sorting this out and feel like a bit of a mug.

Dh cooks (including xmas dinner) because he enjoys cooking and probably getting the compliments for it . I do all the boring "invisible" non-enjoyable non-complimentary things like shopping, wrapping presents, washing up, cleaning the toilet, making up guests beds etc

My DH does not know and does not ask. He has, however, looked after the kids for extended periods whilst I shop, which I think we both prefer!

@Itsigginingtolookalotlikexmas I do take your point, but it was my choice of location and there wasn't really a material thing I wanted this year. Next year I will get something else though 🙂

I run ideas by DH to see if he agrees with the more expensive presents really. He doesn’t actually think of the presents usually. I buy everything for the kids and most of the other presents. He got a couple of bits for his Dad this year. I’ve been out and got all the food this morning but we did the list together, I hate thinking about what everyone eats all the time! He puts the outside lights up and sorts the tree.

Yes because we decided what to buy together and he was there when I ordered it all on Amazon. He has given me half the money. He wrapped some of the gifts. We don't buy anything for anyone else either but if he were to suddenly decided to buy a gift for his parents he'd be doing that himself. He sorted his own work's secret Santa thing. He bought all the Xmas food when he had a day off the other week and will cook most of it on Wednesday.

Oh and for the past 7 years he’s done Christmas dinner on his own. Not this year though, we’re going to family.

Well, I bought them. He gave me the money. We wrapped them together as he’s good at wrapping. I’ve used the Nectar vouchers for the food. The booze he got at the weekend.

Get twat to go out and get the booze. My dh enjoyed that task 😂
He should be pulling his weight. When he’s gone and got the booze he can run the hoover around the house and clean the kitchen —whilst you go to the pub—

Yep. You and me both OP. I bought and wrapped every present. He didn't ask if he could help, what I'd bought or even if they had been bought. I really begrudged signing the labels from "mum and dad". Made sure I put "mum" first on every one just to make myself feel better . (We both work full time btw)

Am I the only person here to not know what the kids have because DH has done it all?

I got them one thing and a couple of stocking fillers. He has done the rest and is
Also wrapping it all.

I have done his and my side of the family.

I have planned all the food and written a list and he will
Do the shop tomorrow.

I have made a
Christmas cake and 2 x batches mince pies.

I have booked the panto and another show for us to go to.

He assembled the tree and me and my daughter decorated it.

We each did our cards and I asked him to do
Neighbours.

I will cook Christmas Day and he will wash up.

I bought two big jigsaws for us and got the kids gingerbread house kits.

But the present buying and wrapping is a big task and I am grateful he takes charge of it. He is also very good at it and wraps beautifully.

I mean I have done
His gifts. He has done his side of the
Family.

We have also both cleaned and tidied up.

Yes my DH knows. We split the shopping so he gets some and I get the rest

We discussed all present buying but he managed most of it. He wrapped EVERYTHING (the fuckin legend) except his own pressies.

He decorated, we both tidied. I did the food planning and a chunk of the shopping although we did the big fresh shop together today.

I will cook. We will both clear up.

Yes, he bought most and wrapped them!

No he hasn’t a clue. Same every year. It’s fine though, I enjoy it, I’m very organised . I choose, buy and wrap. He only needs to get mine. He works full time in his own company. I don’t go out to work. I have the time to do it. And I enjoy doing it whereas he would hate it. It’s suits us 🤷🏼‍♀️

We have a tradition of taking a day off in Nov & going Christmas shopping. We have a list of everyone we need to buy for & talk through ideas beforehand. We treat ourselves to a nice lunch and have s fun day.

These days we do a lot on line but still have the day off together.

My dh hates this time of year,he had awful Christmasses as a child and tbh as an adult the whole thing he finds triggering. I on the other hand love it so I'm happy to see to everything. We've got to a point now where dh is happy with this and semi enjoys it as he knows we'll have a nice time. Unless anything similar is going on then YANBU( I know this is chat!) and he should pull his finger out! Actually,even dh and I will discuss what ds's present will be!

Yes, in fact he was responsible for a number of the purchases. I'd say I was on balance the one in charge of it, but it's a joint job.