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A place to say what you need but can’t have.

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biggirlknickers · 01/12/2019 19:58

I need (but can’t have):

A couple of moths off work to catch up with sleep and reset my body with regards to good food and exercise.

Another couple of months off work to sort out the grimy corners of the house, declutter and reorganise.

A couple of thousand pounds in savings.

A car that isn’t about to break down, a sofa that isn’t 30 years old, a wardrobe instead of a rail, a garden and a cleaner.

A chat with my mum (died 20 years ago) - I’d like to know what she thinks of her grandchildren and if she thinks I’m doing an ok job bringing them up. I’d also like her to cook me a lasagne, read me a story and tuck me into bed Sad.

I want all these things but can’t have them and can’t even tell anyone I want them, because I have to be the strong one, the wise one, the breadwinner and the capable one. So I’m saying it here.

What do you need but can’t have?

OP posts:
VanyaHargreeves · 01/12/2019 20:01

A cuddle from a specific person

An apology from my ex

My sister to permanently vanish

My toothache to fuck off

Winterdaysarehere · 01/12/2019 20:05

To see a Dr. Sat waiting for my 111 allocated appointment time of 7.15....
Out of hours centre is an absolute load of bolloclks...

cakestogo · 01/12/2019 20:07

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topcat2014 · 01/12/2019 20:08

For the child that I was going to have adopted not to have returned to their foster carers after 2 months.

OrangeTwirlGate · 01/12/2019 20:09

An NHS dentist

(I called all 19 dentists in my city and only one was taking on. When I asked to be put on their list they actually laughed and said ‘it will take at least 2 years before we call you with a place’)

RickOShay · 01/12/2019 20:11

My wider family to understand what love means

Biscusting · 01/12/2019 20:12

For my dog to still be here

Anxiety for fuck off

To never loose people

MulticolourMophead · 01/12/2019 20:12

I'm also someone who needs an apology from my ex, but it won't ever happen as he's too absorbed in his mememe rants.

A chat with mum, who died last year.

heidbuttsupper · 01/12/2019 20:15

To be snugged up in bed with late DH
To see my stepson again
For life to go back to the way it was
For my sister to actually give a shit

Nogodsnomasters · 01/12/2019 20:17

I need my mum and sister back, or at least a lengthy conversation with them both.

I need a 48hr spa hotel break, alone.

I need 2 weeks off work to get caught up on with Christmas shopping/wrapping/cleaning/posting.

I need my car not to be on the verge of breaking down.

I need my boss to like me or to at least stop showing her dislike of me.

I need my sons sleep apnea to disappear without needing adenoid surgery.

MaidofKent78 · 01/12/2019 20:17

To live 5 mins not 5 hours away from my parents, sister and best friends

Spied · 01/12/2019 20:23

To be able to properly relax and unwind without constant worry and stress.
A day off work to be an actual day off and not a day taken up with general things to do.
Need to go back I time and tell my deceased loved ones how much I miss and love them and how much I appreciated them.
Need to learn to put myself first.

ShowerOfShite · 01/12/2019 20:27

I want to see my Dad again and make him laugh.
I want my children to get along.

FeckaDecka · 01/12/2019 20:28

People to just listen to me, actually engage in a two way conversation not just one where I'm left nodding and smiling and going uh huh on repeat, work is the worst!!! ...My nightmares of talking but no sound coming out are metaphorically true these days Sad

Mamabear144 · 01/12/2019 20:36

An apology from my ex and for him to admit some of the things he has done.

Ds to sleep in his own bed.

To lose about 5 stone.

To be able to drive.

To be able to get to my dream job without years of college.

To have family members and my dog back.

And for a single day without any pain.

RandomMess · 01/12/2019 20:39

To have some extended family

For all my DDs to "happy enough"

To be happy myself

EggysMom · 01/12/2019 20:42

To hear my son speak, and to hear him say that he's happy.

TinkysWinky · 01/12/2019 20:50

A coffee and chat with my much loved (and long departed) maternal grandparents.

My fixer upper house to be fixed up.

Me and hubby both to lose significant amounts of weight.

Rhodes2015again · 01/12/2019 20:55

I need to go back 3 weeks today so I could have one last conversation with my mum. I visited but she was asleep on the sofa so I let her be as she had been a bit poorly.

She went into critical care 3 weeks ago tomorrow and died just over a week ago.
Wish I sat and waited till she woke or went back later.

SpringIsSprung1 · 01/12/2019 20:58

"Bigirlknickers" A profound and beautiful post.

rosie561 · 01/12/2019 21:01

My all day nausea and morning sickness to disappear Sad

Whatevaminga · 01/12/2019 21:07

My husband.
A little place of my own.
Real friends.
The truth from many people.
A real apology from one person.

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biggirlknickers · 01/12/2019 21:10

@Rhodes2015again so sorry to hear about your mum. Only a week ago Sad.

OP posts:
Gonewiththemadness · 01/12/2019 21:14

Good childhood memories and at least one parent who loved and wanted me.

A long chat with the first person I fell in love and had a relationship with. Not to reconcile but just to thank them for the part they played in my life now that I’m not angry anymore.
They helped to make me who I am today for the better.
I can see now my part in where we went wrong too where I think I unfairly placed all the blame on them before.
To tell them that I’m so happy for them for where they’re at in life and that I hope life always treats them well and they always feel loved and find happiness in each day.

Also sex (not related to the last one!) 😂

dappledsunshine · 01/12/2019 21:15

I need to know that my dh will find another job and that I can cope with the pressure of being the main earner in the meantime.

I need to know that the 2 years of one shitty thing after another is going to come to an end soon.

I need to know that my ds will get back to being his happy confident self and not struggle with anxiety.