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A place to say what you need but can’t have.

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biggirlknickers · 01/12/2019 19:58

I need (but can’t have):

A couple of moths off work to catch up with sleep and reset my body with regards to good food and exercise.

Another couple of months off work to sort out the grimy corners of the house, declutter and reorganise.

A couple of thousand pounds in savings.

A car that isn’t about to break down, a sofa that isn’t 30 years old, a wardrobe instead of a rail, a garden and a cleaner.

A chat with my mum (died 20 years ago) - I’d like to know what she thinks of her grandchildren and if she thinks I’m doing an ok job bringing them up. I’d also like her to cook me a lasagne, read me a story and tuck me into bed Sad.

I want all these things but can’t have them and can’t even tell anyone I want them, because I have to be the strong one, the wise one, the breadwinner and the capable one. So I’m saying it here.

What do you need but can’t have?

OP posts:
36degrees · 02/12/2019 00:16

To be the right temperature for a full 20 minutes at some point. I've had some horrible viral thing for the last three weeks and I'm mostly better except for regulating my temp and it feels never-ending.

Graymare · 02/12/2019 00:38

DH's mental health to improve.
To know how to help DS2 deal with his anger.
A chance to talk with DM (died very suddenly 3 years ago).
Dad to stop knocking back all my attempts to build a relationship with him.
A good night's sleep.
To care enough to look after myself.

NameChangedNoImagination · 02/12/2019 00:42

For my mum to know what love actually means.
For my ex DH to go to prison.
For me and my DP to get along and stop incessantly bickering.

helpmefindthisjumper · 02/12/2019 00:43

I need my partner to not have committed suicide in September.

I need to not have lost my job in November.

Realistically I need thousands of pounds and some kinda light at the end of the tunnel.

VanyaHargreeves · 02/12/2019 01:00

Oh and not to lower the tone but some really really good sex Blush

BubblyWater · 02/12/2019 01:04

To be naked and be touched by a man I desire.

Stillfunny · 02/12/2019 01:41

To love on my own with no financial worries.
To lose at least two stone.
To have my daughter live near me.

Thing is , some if these are achievable if I could just not let depression keep it 's grIp on me.

HeyLala · 02/12/2019 01:46

@biggirlknickers
Are you me?

The house, garage, diet, fitness - all the same.

Only difference is my mom is still alive but suffering from Dementia and doesn't recognise me. I'd love to have one last dinner and or cup of tea with her.

X

WhatAMum01 · 02/12/2019 02:08

I'd like to wake up and for my ds autism and learning disabilities to have disappeared like a bad nightmare.
I'd like to wake up and hear him talk and say mummy for the first time and wrap his arms around me and tell me he loved me as much as I love him
I'd like it if my in laws didn't hate me for loving the son they never cared for.
I'd like it if my sis in laws didn't make my life harder than it already is.
I'd like it if they all liked me as I liked them.
I'd like to know what it would feel like to have a dad.not a waster who I never knew.
I'd like it if I wasn't so critical of myself.
I'd like it that I was one of the happy people
I'd like it if after the past five horrendous years it was decided me and my kids and husband would live the best life for the rest of our lives.
I'd like it that I woke up and liked me.
I'd like it if that my mum and me had the same relationship we always had again.
I'd like it that I never felt lonely again.
I'd like my children to have the best lives with a wonderful happy secure mum and dad.
I'd like to not constantly go on my phone all night so I dont have to think.

OneOfTheGrundys · 02/12/2019 02:17

New knees.
For my husbands life limiting, soon to be terminal illness to become curable.

HermioneMakepeace · 02/12/2019 02:50

Plane tickets for me and the DC so that we can go home.
A house for us to live in when we get there.

DamnitCharlie · 02/12/2019 02:58

This thread is so sad. My problems seem trivial now. I would like a full night's sleep, a break from being pregnant, some disposable cash and some immediate family that aren't dead or absolute arseholes. I will have two children soon and would love for them to have some of my family around but not mine at the moment.

loubieloo4 · 02/12/2019 03:14

I need for my amazing dh (39) to be not dying of stage 4 bowel cancer

PurrBox · 02/12/2019 03:14

This is breaking my heart.

Mummaofmytribe · 02/12/2019 03:25

I need DS2 to be alive still. I will never recover from his suicide

SunsetBoulevard3 · 02/12/2019 05:58

@Mummaofmytribe🌹

I’m so sorry.

Millie2013 · 02/12/2019 06:09

Such sad stories Flowers

I’d like my Dad back and I’d also like to be rid of the horrible flashbacks surrounding his death

Some sort of promotion at work, at least a recognition, pay wise for what I do

A little house by the sea

Right now, I’d really like this bloody cough to go!

Mummaofmytribe · 02/12/2019 06:24

@SunsetBoulevard3 Thankyou Flowers

LazyFace · 02/12/2019 06:31

People to start acting on climate change putting pressure on corporate entities. Which is... made up of people.

anxioussue · 02/12/2019 06:37

A hug. The last one was in 2009.

Didiplanthis · 02/12/2019 07:04

I'd like my amazing, brave, strong mum to have responded to one of the 4 hideous cancer treatments she so bravely faced and struggled through to have worked, so I wasnt at this moment in time sitting by her hospital bed watching her die..

BrieAndChilli · 02/12/2019 07:21

A house that’s not falling apart
New teeth
To lose 3 stone
To be much less hairy
A month off to sleep

wondering7777 · 02/12/2019 07:28

Another couple of months off work to sort out the grimy corners of the house, declutter and reorganise.

I’m with you on this one OP!

sam221 · 02/12/2019 07:58

I would like to be able to sleep.
I would like a purpose and meaning to my day.
I would like my father who passed away a long time ago, to tell me it's going to be ok and hug.
I would like to not have anything to do with a certain family member.
I would like to go back in time and advice my younger self, to not give so much of me to others.

myidentitymycrisis · 02/12/2019 08:42

To see my lovely Dad who died nearly 15 years ago, and who I still miss.

For an extended family that weren’t dysfunctional, so that my DS didn’t feel so alone.

To be able to love my DP fully, because I know he loves me

To find a job that didn’t cause me extreme anxiety