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A place to say what you need but can’t have.

121 replies

biggirlknickers · 01/12/2019 19:58

I need (but can’t have):

A couple of moths off work to catch up with sleep and reset my body with regards to good food and exercise.

Another couple of months off work to sort out the grimy corners of the house, declutter and reorganise.

A couple of thousand pounds in savings.

A car that isn’t about to break down, a sofa that isn’t 30 years old, a wardrobe instead of a rail, a garden and a cleaner.

A chat with my mum (died 20 years ago) - I’d like to know what she thinks of her grandchildren and if she thinks I’m doing an ok job bringing them up. I’d also like her to cook me a lasagne, read me a story and tuck me into bed Sad.

I want all these things but can’t have them and can’t even tell anyone I want them, because I have to be the strong one, the wise one, the breadwinner and the capable one. So I’m saying it here.

What do you need but can’t have?

OP posts:
Redcherries · 02/12/2019 09:24

To get paid, fought long and hard through the hardest year we've had, finally at a stage of recovery but I can't relax until I get paid, I miss having a monthly salary so much sometimes.

Namechange8471 · 02/12/2019 09:25

A baby

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 02/12/2019 09:28

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Dowser · 02/12/2019 09:44

LouBIe, mummy, didi
Such very sad stories.
No words just a virtual hug .

RickOShay · 02/12/2019 09:53

I can do a hug @anxioussue.

HigherFurtherFasterBaby · 02/12/2019 09:57

Also need anxiety to fuck off. It is wrecking my life. Front line medications are no longer working; diazepam withdrawal is beyond horrific and I’m very ill at the moment.

Agoraphobia can do one as well.

For my step sisters Dad and Grandma to still be here (she’s young and they both died of cancer within 3 months of each other this year).

To be able to Just Do normal every day things.

I need to not drop out of Uni midway through the year because that will mean I can’t ever go back and it will mean battling to get disability benefits because if I can’t study I certainly can’t fucking work.

Trewser · 02/12/2019 09:57

A childhood that made me feel secure
Someone wise to give me advice

Lots of money and a cleaner!

Goodnightjude1 · 02/12/2019 09:59

To have my baby back. He/she would have been due tomorrow.

RickOShay · 02/12/2019 10:03

I really hope that everybody finds some peace. Flowers

Dreamersandwishers · 02/12/2019 10:16

This is such a kind thread . 💐

It’s so good to have somewhere to say this:
I want my mum back for one day so that I can apologise, tell her she was right and that I am so grateful for showing me her strength. That I love her.
My sister & I were such bitches and favoured our Dad, but we’d have been nowhere if not for mum.

halexanderamilton · 02/12/2019 10:27

I'd like to go back to the happy and positive days when we had the Olympics in 2012. Life has unravelled since then, personally and nationally, and I look back on those days with a rose tinted hue.

I'd also like a permanent job with a reasonable wage and not be on constant stressful short term contracts.

I'd like my ds to truly be happy and accepted.

I'd like the chance to step back and handle a couple of situations in a better way.

Blingismything · 02/12/2019 10:36

My Mum

imfreeezing · 02/12/2019 10:36

a game of cards with my Dad
my joints to stop aching
a body double to go to work for me so I can get my coursework done and not be so frigging stressed

ssd · 02/12/2019 10:37

Extended family who actually give a rats arse about us rather than every last thing being about them.

ssd · 02/12/2019 10:38

Mum and dad back

2beautifulbabs · 02/12/2019 11:34

I need some sleep to catch up on

A chance for me and my DH to have some quality time together without our DC

Thousands in the bank to be able to move house easily without too much financial stress

A chance to clean right through the house properly and declutter

Time to be able to exercise to lose weight from having had my children

keepingbees · 02/12/2019 11:48

Some friends.
Some support.
Better physical and mental health.
A windfall to get me out of my current situation.
A time machine to go back and change my shit life choices.
To hear that my ex has either been hit by a freight train or that he's confessed or been arrested for the things he did.

MadMadMad · 02/12/2019 11:53

For my mum not to have dementia, it is heartbreaking
To lose at least 3 stone without having to give up the nice things I like to eat and drink
To turn back time and make some different work decisions

On the other hand I have
A wonderful husband
Fantastic children
A good standard of living with no money worries
A warm and comfortable home with food on the table (partly why I am overweight!)

stitchwitch85 · 02/12/2019 12:16

My best friend to get well - she is almost bedbound with a chronic illness and it's so unfair.

Another good friend's mental health to get magically better.

My much older husband to be around and healthy for all the years of my life, so I don’t have to worry about what I will do when I lose him. I can’t face the thought of it.

Less emotional: a fuck-off massive grant for my church, so that we can do all the building repairs needed and can then fully concentrate on the outward mission of the place.

Also, someone to take all the horrible anaglypta off the vicarage walls and do us a nice paint job. And a new landing carpet to replace the current snot-green one would be nice!

rhubarbcrumbles · 02/12/2019 13:14

My Dad to know who I am. My Dad to realise that I have visited him several times and not to complain to me that doesn't love him because just visited him once for a few minutes and then never went back when he is talking to me but thinks I am and not me (if that makes sense!).

Tswiftscat · 02/12/2019 18:11

To talk to my partner who committed suicide almost 3 months ago.

To have a mum who I could talk to about my problems (she has late stage dementia and doesn't even know who I am).

A month off work with lots of lie ins as I'm not sleeping well.

Bunnybigears · 02/12/2019 18:17

Ignoring the millions of pounds I could really do with I need:

More hours in the day.

More interested and involved grandparents for my children.

A husband who doesn't have short term memory loss.

ShouldI101 · 02/12/2019 18:29

I would like my own bedroom. My own space to close the door and be by myself.
But DH would be really sad.

Inebriati · 02/12/2019 19:38

rhubarbcrumbles That makes sense. Can you give him a page of photos with everyone's name and how they are related to him, and see if that helps him?

looselegs · 02/12/2019 19:58

My beloved Dad who went to heaven 18 years ago

My plans back-my husband can't work anymore due to health reasons,and I get that he would love to be able to because he loved his job.But I'm self employed so if I don't work I don't get paid.So all the plans I had to reduce my hours in a few years time when I'm 55 have gone out the window.I pay all the bills apart from the food so there's no way I can wind down a bit. I can't see me doing anything like that now, ever.