Lap dancing and escorts

[watchout]

If you found out that your husband (who had his own business) had been taking the people who buys his business to lap dancing clubs and escorts would you feel it your duty to contact their wives?

Well no. But I would be having a serious word with DH.

I am kind of a ‘ no man put asunder’ type so would not come between husband and wife. Unless she was my sister or best friend.

If you found out that your husband (who had his own business) had been taking the people who buys his business to lap dancing clubs and escorts would you feel it your duty to contact their wives?

If it's being done as part of his business and that business is bringing money into your family, would it affect anything ?

I've only just found out. If other women are at risk with their sexual health I feel a duty to. It's the reason we are getting divorced.

I can name the company

Escorts...yes I would tell them. But I’m reactive, and I also think someone putting their health at risk is fucking lower than low

No I wouldn't but I think that in this day and age it's quite pathetic that business clients are still being schmoozed in this way.

I wouldn't tell the other wives no.
Because I think it was your husband who was the creep. Was he pushy? Did they want to go? Not saying their innocent but your OH seems to be the person getting the most satisfaction from it to keep on doing it.

Oh well if you're divorcing then it's different!! You're not so concerned about anyone's sexual health more trying to cause as much trouble as possible? Any escorts they're with are probably 100% careful so I wouldn't worry about stds.

Are you relying on his income to pay you child maintenance?

I just care about the other mums who don't know about their husbands actions.
I'd want to know. Lap dancing clubs are one horrible thing but escorts?
I feel like publishing my husbands company name on here with receipts, etc.

@watchout for your own sake don't publish anything to do with the company on here. There can be repercussions for doing that, that could hurt you in the long run. Also loads of tabloid hacks go through mumsnet threads looking for a juicy story and could lift anything form here.
Best of luck with the divorce, you're well out of it

I would tell them about the escorts for the sake of their own health

If I don't publish on here how do I tell them?

Your ex sounds like an utterly repugnant misogynist. You're well rid. If I had incontrovertible proof, I might. But then I think sex work is almost always coercive and abusive and any man taking part doesn't deserve an oblivious wife.

@HaHaVeryBunny thank you. I need a voice of reason

@watchout

I think they already know and realize it is just business not pleasure ...

Yes I would.

So what do I do?
I know who (by name) and I know when. I know they have daughters. My proof goes back two years.

Well, I was going to say my first priority would be divorcing him but I see you're already doing that.

I would certainly want to warn them if it could affect their health. I wouldn't necessarily expect them to believe me (whether out of self preservation or otherwise).

@watchout

Do you want revenge? Then publish on here and tell their wives ... go for it!

I knew a man who worked with my husband who was visiting lap dancing venues and prostitutes and I did not say anything but his wife found out and divorced him... They always find out in the end imho

Post the proof to their spouses? If you know names it's not that difficult to find addresses.

I wouldn't do it anonymously because people tend to dismiss anonymous contacts like that. Suppose it depends what kind of proof we are talking about.

Yuck. Lap dancing no. But escorts? Feck yeah I'd tell their wives. But firstly I'd take care of getting as far away from husband the creep as pos.

I've just found out. I'm angry. I don't know what to do.