Lap dancing and escorts

[watchout]

If you found out that your husband (who had his own business) had been taking the people who buys his business to lap dancing clubs and escorts would you feel it your duty to contact their wives?

No wonder, what shock.

I don't think I could forgive him taking men to escorts. I mean, how could a man who supports exploitation of women like that be decent? Even if he doesn't use them himself.

I think I would concentrate on getting yourself out first. That being said, might be best to tell the others while you still feel angry enough and before he sets about manipulating you. Not to say they don't know already of course.

Good luck with it all! Hope he has the decency to leave.

FFS

Get over your 'duty' to strangers' wives and with naming the company.

Your beef is with DH

I'm divorcing him. No question. I have no reason to protect his business partners who think it ok to to watch vulnerable women to strip or perform sex acts.

Please don't publish company names anywhere without speaking to a solicitor.
For your protection, not theirs.

If I can't publish the company name can I name the individuals?

Don’t be ridiculous.

Contacting the wives and letting them know their husbands are cheats is one thing.
Don't be daft enough to do it publicly.

STEP

AWAY

FROM

THE

INTERNET

I'll contact the wives anonymously tomorrow

@watchout

If I can't publish the company name can I name the individuals?

Hi OP

This will likely get the thread deleted, as we don't allow private details to be published on the forum in this way.

We're really sorry for what you're going through - sending love from MNHQ.

Why don't you just focus on divorcing your husband instead of coming across like a demented harpy?

Don't do this I Must Tell The Wives Tomorrow nonsense. It can wait. You can wait to tell them and destroy your DH's business and livelihood.

Calm down. Deep breaths. Think strategically . What do want to achieve other than lash out?

It's not private details

Have reported.

Hopefully MNHQ will take down

Phew

it is none of your business to tell other people, These men will only do it again even if they were divorced. I am a women and would not poke my nose into my husbands affairs never mind another couples.
Women always think they know best very rarely is this true.

I'm just telling the truth

I'm posting anything here

Men win again

It's not a question of men winning, it's a question of you losing

Concentrate on getting your own affairs in order.

I've posted no specific details

How many threads do you need on this?

Just focus on your divorce

Do you have children?

Do you have friends / family you can stay with for a couple of days while you are so upset, angry and, frankly, a loose cannon?

@Ginger1982

Doesn't OP only have x2? Or are there more?

So what is Mumsnet for if the replay to finding out that your husband has been visiting strip clubs is to 'get your own house in order'
I'm not to blame for this