Coping with a poorly baby. Struggling. DP says I’m overly dramatic

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Can anyone offer me some coping strategies? My partner just keeps telling me I’m being dramatic but I’m really struggling right now.

I have posted before about my DD and her being ill/severe upset stomach.

My 11 month old DD is poorly again. Second spell of diarrhoea in 3 weeks and we’re talking loads of it and loads of nappies. Consistency of gravy, sometimes 2/3 an hour. 5 days now. It has frightened me this time. She looks like she’s loosing weight now.

I do not feel I can go out because I need to be able to change her fast and I can’t get on top of the nappy rash.
I took her to the doctors on Friday night and they said push fluids but I don’t think I’m getting enough into her compared to what’s going out. I can’t imagine how I could be. I’m going to ring the doctors and ask for rehydration salts tomorrow morning.
We live remotely and I’m not seeing anyone because we can’t go to baby group whilst she’s ill.

I am mainly on my own as my partner works seven days a week and long days so it all falls to me. All the washing and cleaning her up. And everything else.

She has had countless other issues and has been investigated by the gastrointestinal consultant; is under paediatric care for reflux. She’s had bloods, elimination diets, stool samples all taken and analysed and nothing can be found.
She’s just a sickly one.

But it’s killing me. I hate this life.
No family or friends who could have her for a few hours; a childminder won’t take her whilst she’s got so a upset tummy, I’ve not seen anyone for a week other than partner who came home, has a beer and went to bed and left at 6am.

She’s been up since 6.30am. She had a burst out the nappy episode and has been deeply upset since. She is currently screaming in my arms and I just need her to fall asleep. I can’t put her down once she is asleep or she will scream again.

Writing this has made me cry.
I hate this.

I appreciate that this all about me and my beautiful DD is feeling worse than me no doubt.
But I don’t know what else to do. I feel like walking away but I couldn’t do that to her.

If you are managing some nappy free time, use the opportunity to put some vtamin E oil on her skin. It is fantastic for healing. I used to buy the capsules and break them open.

I have some vitamin e cream; I’ll try that on her. Thanks!
Still no poo! One extreme to the other!

Make sure the cream doesn't have any fragrance in it.

It’s plain ordinary vitamin E cream, for gentle healing of damaged or scarred skin; she’s had some on this afternoon and her backside doesn’t look any worse for it!

How's she doing now? X

Attention! Attention!
We have a ever so slightly more bulky poo. Not her normal standard by a long measure but an improvement I hope.

Fantastic news! Here's hoping you've turned a corner.

Fingers crossed op! Never thought I’d be so pleased to hear something about a stranger’s poo but I’m genuinely really pleased and hopeful that your DD is turning a corner now. You’ve been an absolute hero!

Great news on the poo OP. Hoping you have a better weekend.

Yay!

Glad she seems on the mend. Just as a thought, my DD one had reflux and lots of episodes of diarrhoea, which I put down to viruses but the paediatrician we were under said both were caused by Cow's milk protein intolerance (no tests for this, unlike allergy).

How’s DD now OP?

@StealthPussy Thank you for asking! I was going to pop back and update this thread later today as I spoke to the Dr again today.

DD is much better in herself, much more her normal energy levels. She is still not right in the nappy department but her backside is healing very quickly.

She is having much solider poos in the late morning and afternoon but loose and horrible in the evening and early morning. The Dr is querying a temporary lactose intolerance and has liaised with the paediatrician who has advised reducing her dairy but not eliminating it; so where she would have a cheese sandwich, she’s having a chicken sandwich and reducing one bottle a day to 120mls rather than 150mls.

I asked the paediatrician for guidance (well left a message with her secretary) and after a telephone conversation with her, I have decided to try her on a probiotic supplement too. The paediatrician said it wouldn’t do DD any harm, but to give it with her usual yogurt rather than in milk as She said it is more effectively absorbed in the gut if in yogurt rather than water as I planned.
Her paediatrician is definitely fantastic!

So we are just plodding along. We ventured out for a wee walk yesterday and Tesco’s this morning (3 hours out and about) so we’re getting there I hope!

What a great update to hear, OP! You've been so strong over the last few weeks. Very best wishes to you and DD

Well done OP, you’ve been amazing!

Glad to hear this. Heading in the right direction.

Gosh op that sounds like a tough time. Sending you the strength to also have discussions with your partner- I couldn’t stay married to a selfish uncaring man once babies come along.

How is your daughter now? I hope she has kept improving

Thank you for asking @MrsAmaretto.

Dd is definitely on the mend, her energy levels are improving daily; her appetite still isn’t where it was and she’s still showing signs of a (hopefully) temporary lactose issue. She is having good nappy days and bad nappy days. More good thankfully.

I have had a letter from her paediatrician, she would like to repeat some of the tests DD had when she was younger in the new year and consult again with the gastroenterologist. Evidently she is no longer satisfied with previous findings and I think that’s a good thing.

DDog has moved back in with us too. Seems delighted to be home. Possibly fed up of MIL’s regime.