In labour and struggling!

[codenameduchess]

I've been in labour (via induction) for around 5 hours now, still early and waters haven't gone yet but good god I'm in so much pain already!! Contractions 3/4 every 10 minutes but not as long as they should be. Haven't been checked in hours.

I've had this lovely idea of hypnobirthing, totally calm and serene, no drugs... I'm only just holding off buzzing for meds. Trying my best to hold off a bit longer as I know it gets worse once they've broken the waters.

Any night owls or early risers around for moral support?

@smartcarnotsosmartdriver this could be the start of the December big babies arriving!

No name yet, me and dh are still negotiating 😂

Oh, blimey, OP, what a time of it! Many congrats and hope you get some cuddles v soon.

Aww. Congratulations!! Lovely news!! Well done you! You deserve a cup of tea and toast, as soon as they'll let you!

Congratulations!! Hope you’re all well and your chunky boy is with you soon.

P.s.you don't negotiate over names at this stage! You're the one who carried him, went through labour and were sliced in half. You hold all the power right now. Use it wisely (or even unwisely whilst the mix of drugs,exhaustion, relief and masses of hormones flood through your body). So, lean in towards your husband and hiss, "we are calling him Davros!"

I feel utterly lost without him near me. He's in the best place and being looked after well with his daddy.

I’m sure you feel lost, he really is in the best place though. Try and get some rest, hope your postnatal ward isn’t too hellish.

@codenameduchess I think it is, our boy is making his entrance on Wednesday. You're an absolute trooper to go through all that. He's absolutely in the best place and he has his daddy, you get some rest you've been through the mill.

Why are you holding off from pain relief.
You don’t get any awards for being brave, you know.
Have something it’s what they’re there for
Congratulations. and for baby

Oh sorry I didn’t see your update. A boy how fab.

I was at uni with a guy called Chunky. I don't think I ever found out his real name in all the time I knew him.

I hope your boy improves all the time and you can be with him soon.

Congratulations

Do keep us all updated @smartcarnotsosmartdriver ! Baby duchess weighed in at just under 9lbs, I've never seen such rolls on a new born 💕 I'm sure you'll have us beat haha

@Awwlookatmybabyspider I was planning on/hoping for a drug free, relaxed hypnobirth. So pleased I went off plan and got the epidural! After 12 hours I was just so, so tired. But did up to that with TENS, relaxation and gas & air.

Fingers crossed baby responds to the treatment and I get him back soon, really can't settle.

Awww been following today, congratulations and well done Lovely, sounds like you have had a bit of a busy day!

Try and get some rest while your little boy is being cared for in SCBU, I know it's easier said than done, but once he's next to you, you won't get much chance.

Best wishes and hope you both have a speedy recovery!x

Congratulations 🎉🎉😁

Been to see baby finally, still in scbu but much improved all round. They are doing another set of tests soon and then again later in the morning so I'm desperately hoping he will be back with me soon.
He could be on antibiotics, and in hospital for another 5 days still.

Congratulations!

Huge congratulations!! What lovely news hope he keeps improving and I hope you're doing ok too!

Congratulations! I hope he continues to improve and is back with you later today

First attempt to get him off cpap failed, so he's back on. Having another try soon and I'm going to go and do skin to skin when they take it off.

pity party alert I can't say anything out loud or I won't stop crying...
Had a few skin to skin cuddles today and he has done well with them, but every time I'm given a timeframe for him being released from scbu the goalposts change and there's something else. Last night he was being taken for a couple of hours, then for the night, then until 10 this morning, then until 3 and now it's tomorrow at the earliest. I was supposed to be bfing him today then that changed and formula has been pushed.
I know it's all for the best and he's getting good care, I just feel so useless that I'm his mum and I can't pick him up or feed him. It's been a long few days, I haven't slept and now separated from baby while being on a ward listening to everyone else's baby crying and being fussed over has all gotten on top of me a bit.

@codenameduchess that's not a pity party that's completely legitimate feelings! I can't imagine what it feels like but my mum was in a similar situation when I was born. I was early and needed some help. She was on the ward with everyone else's baby, she said she woke up all night every time someone else's baby cried. The good news is he's a big boy, the consultant told me last week that it gives him the best chance possible! I mean harder to get out but much more robust when they get here. I have absolutely everything crossed for all of you.

Oh codename Huge congrats to you. Not surprised it's all getting on top of you Fingers crossed he'll be back with you tomorrow and you'll be getting all the snuggles you deserve. Have you anyone you can talk through your feelings with? IME it's better not to minimize or hold your feelings in with situations like this

My labour and whole situation sounds similar to yours OP. Induced, 5 days later went to labour ward did 23 hours had emcs baby was taken to special care straight away with breathing issues and treated for suspected sepsis and bad jaundice (she had xrays, bloods, lumbar puncturrs) we left hospital after 11 days but she is now a beautiful healthy 6 month old. It does get easier, take care of yourself you'll have your boy soon just know your both in the best place xx

Congratulations OP, I was rushed off my feet today but lovely to see your little bambino has arrived (and he doesn't seem to be so little )

My DC3 was taken to Neonatal, unexpectedly after birth (was very floppy and wasn't feeding) and I remember those early hours and days of negotiating a baby in Neonatal.

I knew she was in a good place, with round the clock care and I knew that she was well looked after but yes not having your baby with you is rotten..... cry if you want to. No-one will judge.

I'm sure it will all be sorted soon and this will all be distant memory in weeks to come.

In the meantime don't you feel guilty or worry about anything. You got baby here, you'll spend a lifetime looking after him. Get yourself well and strong

Oh and whilst my baby never actually breastfed (due to feeding issues) I pumped for her for 6 months.

Didn't start until day 2 or 3 I dont think? Managed to get and maintain a good supply and the Neonatal staff were very helpful and supportive of this.