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My crazy life

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Ohdearieme1987 · 02/11/2019 22:48

So- my life is crazy and way out of balance. For background, I work 60plus hours a week, as does my Husband. We also have a 3.5 daughter. But our life is totally mad- neither of us can cut down hours ( I own my business) and my husband is a director of another company. We have a cleaner and someone to help with the ironing. But still everyday is a struggle- my clothes are dirty or wrong and I eat badly. My house is a mess, my social life is dire and it’s all a bit too much. Anyone have any ideas/ advice/ anything?!

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Ohdearieme1987 · 02/11/2019 22:56

That bad!

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MsPotterPepper · 02/11/2019 22:57

Your poor child, how much time do you actually spend with her?

MyKingdomForBrie · 02/11/2019 22:59

Try The Organised Mum method? Half an hour per day to do all the house stuff.. don't know what else to suggest! If you can't cut down work time then you need to reprioritise the other waking hours in your day.

Ohdearieme1987 · 02/11/2019 23:01

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AlunWynsKnee · 02/11/2019 23:01

Housekeeper to sort out food and laundry?

AnneLovesGilbert · 02/11/2019 23:02

You’d find a way to cut down your hours if you had to. And it sounds like you have to. When do you see your daughter?

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Ohdearieme1987 · 02/11/2019 23:03

I’ll have a look at The Organised Mum. Sounds good. I manage the gym twice or three times a week, but that is it. Sometimes manage friends. We have just moved house so it might be that all that craziness is not helping...

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AnneLovesGilbert · 02/11/2019 23:04

Charming Hmm

Do you speak to everyone like that? You could have mentioned that in your OP.

JMAngel1 · 02/11/2019 23:04

Charming

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Ohdearieme1987 · 02/11/2019 23:05

Just to clarify- even though it is nothing to do with my original post- and not a concern of mine. I spend 0730-6pm M- F with my child and evenings and weekend too.

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Ohdearieme1987 · 02/11/2019 23:05

Why would I mention it? It’s nothing to do with what I was asking?

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upups · 02/11/2019 23:06

You maybe could have mentioned that your daughter goes with you to work in your post. As your reply was rather rude. I thought the same thing when you said you both work 60+ hour weeks

HeatedDryer · 02/11/2019 23:07

How do you run your own business whilst interacting with your child? Genuinely interested, I know I couldn't do it.

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Ohdearieme1987 · 02/11/2019 23:07

The reality is though- that many people work 60 hour weeks and have children who don’t come to work with them. They do not deserve to be judged for this.

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Susue999 · 02/11/2019 23:08

You asked for advice and I understand why you are defensive but people are just asking questions to help understand your situation. Is it difficult spending time with your child whilst you are at work. I can imagine that would really add to my stress/guilt levels.

BrieAndChilli · 02/11/2019 23:09

What job do you do that you can take a young child along with you??
I only ask as if you are looking after a child and working at the same time you won’t be fully focused on both. Would it be better to put her in Nursery so you can focus solely on work meaning you might finish earlier as don’t have to split your attention?
I’m not being ‘judgemental’ or a ‘bitch’ but I used to work from home and on the days my kids were home (and they were older and more able to get on with playing/getting themselves snacks, it was very obvious to me I didn’t get as much work done and wasn’t as able to fully get stuck into stuff.

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Ohdearieme1987 · 02/11/2019 23:09

I don’t want to be too outing. But I interact/ educate and play with my child ( and others) all day long.

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BrieAndChilli · 02/11/2019 23:10

And equally it wasn’t much fun for them. I couldn’t sit and do painting/crafts or take them out to the park.

BrieAndChilli · 02/11/2019 23:12

Ok so I assume you run a nursery or similar? That’s not really taking your child to work. That’s more you work where you child goes to childcare?
I think when people say they take their child to work it conjures up the picture of sitting in the corner of an office or workshop while the parent gets on with things.

mynameisigglepiggle · 02/11/2019 23:13

I think it's a case of priorities sometimes. What matters more at the moment gym or house?
You have to meal plan - work out a two week plan then do an online shop every week based on that. You can just do a repeat shop when you need it.
Put washing in machine at night but on time delay do it's ready when you get up.
Spend 20 mins a day on each room tidying then it's done.
You might have to take a couple of days leave to get things straight to start off with.
I've got three kids and work full time with nearly an hour commute each way so I know it's manic but it just needs a bit of project managing. Good luck!

giggly · 02/11/2019 23:14

I’d assume it’s a nursery. But as you see we’re so fucking rude I seem to be all out of advice Grin

IWorkAtTheCheescakeFactory · 02/11/2019 23:15

Sounds like you’re a childminder. Could you take on an assistant to give you a chance to stick some food in the slow cooker/throw some laundry in the machine or whatever’s it is you’re struggling with?

MsPotterPepper · 02/11/2019 23:15

Well- funnily enough, you judgemental bitch- she comes to work with me. So 60 hours plus.

Do you mean that you're just in the same building as her? How much time does she actually get to spend with you being her parent?

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Ohdearieme1987 · 02/11/2019 23:16

I can’t imagine doing it with three. Well done you.
Although we are planning number 2 when number 1 heads to school- so will add to the craziness. I guess having always been active - that life without the gym seems a bit dire for me. My husband is great - but we all leave at 0715 and get back at 07PM. Dinner just gets later and later and then we are all knackered!

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