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When life just kicks you down over and over.

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mamasma · 30/09/2019 09:22

Before we start iv been here years under a couple different names...naice ham,cancel the cheque,penis beaker.

I just need a rant,I need someone to tell me it's going to be fine,I just need someone to give me a handhold today,I have no one in "RL"now.

Here I am one week post surgery,struggling but getting there,Holding it together for my DD (5) in a lot of pain but pushing through.

Then DH walks out,Saturday he just walks out and leaves us he can't cope with my health issues(they are extensive but I am very very independent and do everything myself).Yesterday was in survival mode,got through the day was so proud of myself and today iv woke up so deflated.

He's left me with nothing,a house with no food,gas,electric.Im sitting here crying because I don't know what I'm going to give DD for dinner after school I just feel like I can't take anymore.

Please nobody start I don't want handouts etc I just want someone to tell me what I'm supposed to do to get through this day?because I'm all out of ideas.Ideas/suggestions for where I go from here please anybody.

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mamasma · 02/10/2019 19:20

Thank you to everyone this week who has taken the time to give me advice and nice words it really has helped me through!today is just another day I didn't think I'd make it to the end of and here we are!

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RickOShay · 02/10/2019 23:08

You will get there mama. Rembenber to be kind to yourself, just take it day by day. Flowers

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mamasma · 03/10/2019 07:04

I have been on the phone constantly this week,I have never physically said so many words and having to relive the whole thing over and over to every person I speak to

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BishopFrownofStThigh · 03/10/2019 07:07

Do you know where he is? Sorry he dropped you in it like this.

You have amazing resilience though.

Windygate · 03/10/2019 07:23

I think you are coping amazingly Thanks

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mamasma · 03/10/2019 07:25

No I have no idea,he has blocked the house number and my number on his phone so cannot contact him

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Snog · 03/10/2019 07:35

OP this sounds like a really tough situation to cope with when you are already struggling with your health.
do you have friends or relatives in real life who can support or help you?

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mamasma · 03/10/2019 07:54

Unfortunately not,we moved here around 8 months ago about 100 miles from where iv always lived and grown up so I don't know anyone here yet

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NoToast · 03/10/2019 07:59

Hope you're ok today. We are thinking of you, this will pass and the future will be better.

Deathraystare · 03/10/2019 08:07

Unfortunately not,we moved here around 8 months ago about 100 miles from where iv always lived and grown up so I don't know anyone here yet

That's terrible. So many women get isolated by moves. Was it for him?? I was slightly feeling he may just have had a 'blip' but the thing about leaving you with no food gas/electric - what normal person does that??!

You are much stronger than you know. Certainly stronger than your deadbeat husband. Things will get better.

Ginger1982 · 03/10/2019 08:13

Has he cleared out the joint account??

BlueLines · 03/10/2019 08:16

Our school will let children have a sandwich from the lunch menu if they do not want the hot meals on offer, you can ask if this is an option OP.

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mamasma · 03/10/2019 08:25

So as far as I know the account has been cleared out but they are going to have a look and see what it's been spent on,what cash machine it's been taken out of etc as 90% of it was actually my disability benefits!

I get paid on Monday so only have a couple of days left until everything Is mine again if we just last until then.

The school have been fab and have been giving her sandwiches etc and if she feels upset or worried or anything they take her out of class and look after her.

In this situation a whole load of strangers have came around me to help and I really cannot thank everyone enough x

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Electrocute1980 · 03/10/2019 08:33

I've only just seen this thread. What a horrible cowardly thing to do to you and your poor dd. It sounds like you've gotten lots of good advice here. Keep just taking a day at a time, you will get through this and be stronger for it. You can do this. Sending hugs Thanks

delilabell · 03/10/2019 08:34

@mamasma I've just read your entire thread.
I cannot think if words to describe your pig of an ex husband.
You are doing so well to keep going.
If you need anything feel free to pm me.

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mamasma · 03/10/2019 09:05

Thank you everyone.Im somehow learning to adapt after totally breaking down at the start of the week.

Iv never been one for attention I like to sort of blend in to the background so it's been very different in all aspects this week

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AnneKipanki · 03/10/2019 10:03

Have you made sure HE cannot access the new money coming in ?

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mamasma · 03/10/2019 10:10

I set up a completely new bank account just for me as I only had the joint one I could use so it's all new details

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AnneKipanki · 03/10/2019 11:20

Good to hear it @mamasma
Have you spoken to your mortgage provider ?
How are you today mentally and post surgery ?

RandomMess · 03/10/2019 11:52
Thanks

You are doing amazingly well, glad you are getting RL support.

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mamasma · 03/10/2019 12:50

The mortgage provider is phoning me back with answers how long it's not been paid for etc and where we go from here.

Mentally not great and physically very quite sore but keeping going

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Apolloanddaphne · 03/10/2019 16:04

I've just realised i said i could maybe come and help you out then i forgot to respond. I am so sorry. Life took over. I think from where i am in Fife, the other side of Edinburgh would be a bit too far. It does sound like you are getting support from various sources though. I am glad about that. You seem much more positive today.

happytoday73 · 04/10/2019 20:41

You OK OP? Can you cope this weekend

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mamasma · 04/10/2019 21:56

I'm ok,just trying to keep strong with my DD bouncing off the walls this weekend because we are stuck inside!2 more days until I finally get money and I can leave the house 🎉

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MrsMozartMkII · 04/10/2019 21:57

How are you doing lass?

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