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When life just kicks you down over and over.

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mamasma · 30/09/2019 09:22

Before we start iv been here years under a couple different names...naice ham,cancel the cheque,penis beaker.

I just need a rant,I need someone to tell me it's going to be fine,I just need someone to give me a handhold today,I have no one in "RL"now.

Here I am one week post surgery,struggling but getting there,Holding it together for my DD (5) in a lot of pain but pushing through.

Then DH walks out,Saturday he just walks out and leaves us he can't cope with my health issues(they are extensive but I am very very independent and do everything myself).Yesterday was in survival mode,got through the day was so proud of myself and today iv woke up so deflated.

He's left me with nothing,a house with no food,gas,electric.Im sitting here crying because I don't know what I'm going to give DD for dinner after school I just feel like I can't take anymore.

Please nobody start I don't want handouts etc I just want someone to tell me what I'm supposed to do to get through this day?because I'm all out of ideas.Ideas/suggestions for where I go from here please anybody.

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Pancakeflipper · 30/09/2019 16:14

Do you know anyone at a, local church? Even if you don't get in touch with the chirch. There will be people who can help you. Might be food supplies, might be meals made, might be financial and benefit help if there's a CAP trained person, might be some people to help you cope and get back on track. But they will help

cjt110 · 30/09/2019 16:23

Can you contact your local CAB?

Littlebean13 · 30/09/2019 16:23

OP do you have anything in to eat tonight for you and dd?
Do you have any neighbours you are on friendly terms with to see if they could lend you a bag of pasta, some bread or just anything really untill you get some money? Just explain you cant get to the shop due to you're surgery, i'm sure most people would be more than willing to help

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mamasma · 30/09/2019 16:27

I got a small pizza from a couple doors down for my DD,I cannot believe I'm in this situation it's breaking my heart.I made a promise to myself today that WHEN I get back on my feet I will be donating to a food bank regularly.

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PurpleCrazyHorse · 30/09/2019 18:37

Definitely chat to school and see what options there are for dinners for your DD. Our school has things like jacket potatoes and simple sandwiches on offer most days. By chatting to them, they might be able to encourage your DD to have something or ensure she knows where to get something she does like (possibly having to ask for a sandwich or jacket potato for example). I know it's pretty crap to have to chat about your circumstances like that, but if DD can eat something at school it will take the pressure off a little.

FavouriteSong · 30/09/2019 18:37

Can you contact some of your DD's friends' parents and explain your predicament? I would definitely sort out enough food to tide you over for the next couple of days. Unfortunately I am in North Wales not Scotland, otherwise I'd help out. Your ex is a bastard, leaving you with nothing. Does he actually realise you have no food and no money? And that you have run out of gas and electricity?

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mamasma · 30/09/2019 18:47

We live month to month anyway with me being off sick with this so he knows how dire it is come Monday(normally I can get a couple of things for packed lunch on Sunday night).

I don't know him anymore he's completely changed and I will never forgive him for doing this to our DD

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Ibelieveyou · 30/09/2019 19:56

If we can help find some local resources that can help you op please let us know

DustMyselfOff · 30/09/2019 20:05

Try and make sure to get food for yourself too. I know you know this but if you dont eat you wont heal x

Dowser · 30/09/2019 20:08

Can’t believe a loving husband can do this to his child
I hope you’ve managed to get something sorted mama

TaighNamGastaOrt · 30/09/2019 20:15

Hey op, sorry to hear your 'd' h left you and your dd in the shit. I'm in north east of Scotland, locally stepchange are really good. Also, please speak to your hv or at school ask for help.
I've been on the bones of my arse before, was lucky in that people helped when I asked for it.
Take care, hope you get things sorted. Unmumsnetty hugs for you

RandomMess · 30/09/2019 20:21

Just

Please speak to the school tomorrow as well.

MrsDilligaf · 30/09/2019 20:37

for you along with a big hug x

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mamasma · 30/09/2019 20:46

Thankyou all so much for the advice and handhold I really did need it today,it's been so so rough x

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00Sassy · 01/10/2019 12:57

How are things today @mamasma?

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mamasma · 01/10/2019 14:17

Unbelievable,been on the phone to the bank today and he's not been paying any bills including the mortgage!!so I'm begging to see why he maybe left

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00Sassy · 01/10/2019 14:43

Oh gosh! Have you at least got some food and gas/electricity sorted?

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mamasma · 01/10/2019 14:49

Yes thank god!its easier to fight on a full stomach!

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00Sassy · 01/10/2019 15:24

So glad you’ve got that sorted at least. Good luck, keep going

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mamasma · 01/10/2019 16:39

All thanks to you guys yesterday,I honestly didn't think I'd get through the day so thankyou everyone x

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RandomMess · 01/10/2019 17:12

Have you told the school, you both may need support in the future as it looks like he's done a right number on you

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mamasma · 01/10/2019 18:57

He has truly done me over I'm devastated

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hungrywalrus · 01/10/2019 19:16

Try and call CAB so they can help to structure your loans and payments. Is there any way you can get to the bank? The man has done a runner. I am so sorry

Brizzle1991 · 01/10/2019 19:17

I've been thinking about you all day and hoping that you get the support from everyone that you need, including school, Macmillan, your local community. How can a "D"H do this to you and your child? It beggars belief

Batshitcrazy82 · 01/10/2019 19:28

Hope
You get everything sorted and you are feeling better really soon 💐

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