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Friend blocked me after a gift

973 replies

Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 08:51

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

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BedraggledBlitz · 07/09/2019 12:52

How odd. Its especially weird to ask for a present back. Very twattish.

over50andfab · 07/09/2019 12:52

She’ll probably unblock you again, in which case perhaps get a bit more blunt? No point suggesting a fresh start as I think you need to discuss and hopefully resolve what’s bugging her

Hadalifeonce · 07/09/2019 12:52

I think this friendship is dead, mourn and move on. Even if you do find out the reason for this ridiculous behaviour, the friendship will never be the same again.

DarlingNikita · 07/09/2019 12:53

She's nuts if she thinks you'd be in a position to send back a DIY cocktail set.

No mutual friends. Had one, but they fell out a few years ago
Do you know the mutual friend? I'd be very curious as to what happened there...

Tonnerre · 07/09/2019 12:55

I did ask what was going on. She told me , 'nothing'

Sounds as if you need to be very explicit. If she unblocks you again, ask specifically why she's annoyed with you.

wildcherries · 07/09/2019 12:55

Why would you want to start again when she treats you this way? It's appalling and rude behaviour. I'd leave her be. She doesn't value your friendship and has shown you as much. Let her go, it sounds like her loss.

AnneKipanki · 07/09/2019 12:57

Send the cocktail set back with a new recipe ; slow comfortable screw you.

GrumpiestCat · 07/09/2019 13:04

If your gift was very expensive and required a certain amount of detective work she might have felt it was OTT and perhaps is feeling a bit overwhelmed with your interest in her. It's possible she's finding the friendship a bit claustrophobic and wants to nip this back and forth gift giving in the bud. I don't like saying it because you sound very kind, I'm just trying to think of what might be going on.

It's very odd her wanting her gift back though, I mean if she did want to cut things off she should be returning YOUR gift!

Dustyroad63 · 07/09/2019 13:06

Is she usually this childish.
Because if someone I knew offended me I'd talk to them about it and want an explanation or to clear the air kind of thing.
Just to block and tell you to fuck off is mystifying.
Your head must be going round and round mine would be.
[ flowers] hope it gets sorted.

EmmaC78 · 07/09/2019 13:07

She doesn't sound worth the hassle to be honest. I wouldn't bother messaging again and just move on.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 07/09/2019 13:07

Even if that were the case GrumpiestCat it's still a very extreme, and bloody rude thing to do

Bumbags · 07/09/2019 13:08

This has intrigued me

howyoulikemenow · 07/09/2019 13:13

She's not a friend. A friend wouldn't a) block you b) tell you to fuck off and c) not explain why when you asked.

Just leave it. She's too immature to communicate. If you leave it then whatever it is will fester and she will likely get angrier and tell you of her own accord.

NeedSomeTimeInTheSunshiiine · 07/09/2019 13:15

I'd email with Milliefiori's response. 'Fresh start' is very vague and won't get you anywhere...

But don't engage in any discussion about sending back a DIY cocktail kit, that's daft!

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Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 13:20

Annekipanki that made me laugh!

Grumpiestcat I didn't have to go into stealth mode for information. Photo was clear, but it took up my time as company phone was on an answerphone,so I had to keep phoning back. Just time consuming really. Nothing to make her feel uneasy, I promise!

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BrendasUmbrella · 07/09/2019 13:20

She must have misunderstood your gift in some way. Really if she's that tetchy and petty, better to just let her friendship go.

ArgumentativeAardvaark · 07/09/2019 13:23

I still don’t get what you mean by blocked? Are your emails bouncing back?

ArgumentativeAardvaark · 07/09/2019 13:24

And you still haven’t explained if this friend is someone you used to live in the same country as?

BlondeBumshelll · 07/09/2019 13:26

This is weird as fuck.

Drabarni · 07/09/2019 13:27

what was the last gift she bought you that she wants back?

EmmaC78 · 07/09/2019 13:29

Drabarni the OP has already said what the gift was further up the thread.

ClemDanFango · 07/09/2019 13:30

Why would you want a fresh start with someone who treats you like shit?

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Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 13:31

Sorry, we WhatsApp pals. Only use emails at work for specific reasons.

We internet pals from a forum site. But very close, or I thought we were.

Planning to see each other next year.

We text, write and phone regularly.

I can't think of anything else to add.

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SauvignonBlanche · 07/09/2019 13:31

Sounds most peculiar!

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Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 13:32

Im bemused. And worried.

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