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Friend blocked me after a gift

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Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 08:51

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

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wowfudge · 10/09/2019 07:50

Bloody hell - you don't need to screenshot the thread! I checked myself and I'd made a mistake. My bad.

MyOtherProfile · 10/09/2019 08:14

Wow don't overreact! I was trying to be helpful. It's easy to miss stuff on a long thread.

Lobsterquadrille2 · 10/09/2019 08:16

@CandyLeBonBon not sure that this was meant for me as I agree.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 10/09/2019 09:50

Delatron,no gifts every month from either of us!

Just a surprise treat every now and again. No regularity or routine and definitely no expectations from either of us.

Though its usually the other being stressed about something that prompts the gift, simply to say 'Cheer Up'.

It really is that simple.

And no offense could be taken from message with gift. It sounded like a advertising slogan, hence why the wine person laughed and said he might steal it. It was signed offon my usual way, though, so not as if Id suddenly gone impersonal.

Im trying to put some of your questions to bed.Brew

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CandyLeBonBon · 10/09/2019 10:04

Sorry @Lobsterquadrille2 that comment should have been to @wowfudge Blush

wowfudge · 10/09/2019 10:21

Are you posting under two names on the same thread Candy?

I think posting a screenshot of part of a thread is an overreaction.

CandyLeBonBon · 10/09/2019 10:28

No I'm not and I didn't post a screenshot. I mistakenly referred to a different poster in reply to a comment you made. Nothing more.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 10/09/2019 10:48

Stop squabbling!

Ive worked out main options from certain replies.

A.Im a nice person who has a friend going a breakdown and is worried.

B.Im a stalker.And she's worried. Rightly so.

C. Ive offended her.

D. The husband is an issue.

Can't you just tell I've tried to stop thinking about this?🤣

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Atalune · 10/09/2019 10:49

A. I think it’s A

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Redshoesandtheblues · 10/09/2019 10:49

*through breakdown

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MutedUser · 10/09/2019 11:08

If I was a betting woman I would say D or B 😆

CandyLeBonBon · 10/09/2019 11:09

No squabbling here op. I was correcting a mistake I'd made and have been accused of sock puppeting! Confused

CandyLeBonBon · 10/09/2019 11:10

I'd say A too

JealousOrFair · 10/09/2019 11:11

E. Friend is pranking you?

MyOtherProfile · 10/09/2019 11:23

I posted the screen shot, not candy, and I actually thought I was helping clarify someone else's question (and in fact my own because I was wondering if I had remembered correctly). Odd response but I'll leave it there.

MyOtherProfile · 10/09/2019 11:26

F. You're a nice person and friend is odd.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 10/09/2019 11:28

Oh...ok...
E. I'm being pranked.
Very very doubtful. But possible....?

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Redshoesandtheblues · 10/09/2019 11:29

F.friend is odd.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 10/09/2019 11:30

Same comment applies.

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Pineapple70 · 10/09/2019 11:36

29 pages in and you're none the wiser!
F - She just falls out with people over nothing after a while.

It's happened to me ages ago. I met a new neighbour who had been really upset by a friend. I helped to cheer her up. Then I watched this friend fall out with a long series of other friends. I was always far too careful not to offend and determined not to be the next, then one day called on her and she wouldn't speak to me. Never completely understood why, it was just my turn.

Someone else I know had a lot of trauma from childhood and has abandonment issues. She just ditches friendships over very little. Upsetting and confusing for all concerned.

beluga425 · 10/09/2019 11:37

G - she's a Russian bot

hennythe100footbird · 10/09/2019 11:44

I shouldn't give it any more thought if I were you OP. I had a friend do this to me in RL, it was 6 years ago and I still have no explanation so to why. Even mutual friends have no idea!

My suggestion would be that you've served your purpose in life and you are now surplus to requirements for whatever reason.

Move on and find yourself some nicer, more reliable friends.

Good luck ThanksThanks

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Redshoesandtheblues · 10/09/2019 12:14

Henry has provided a G...

G. Surplus to requirements.

Hmm
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Redshoesandtheblues · 10/09/2019 12:17

Im getting the options mixed up now!

Never expected to start an A to Z .

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CandyLeBonBon · 10/09/2019 12:23

Russian Bot is my favourite so far!