Friend blocked me after a gift

[Redshoesandtheblues]

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

I find it weird that you phoned her husband but didn't persist with her directly to find out what was bothering her. Unless I've missed something? If he's short with you too then it's clearly something that's bothering both of them.

When I was single I had a ‘friend’ who sent me a book as a gift which had a title along the lines of “All the things that are wrong with you and why you can’t get a date”! It was before social media so I didn’t block her but we lost touch (this was just one of a string of mildly offensive stuff she did or said to me and other friends) and now I am happily married with children and she is not! But unless you were THAT insensitive with your gift I can’t see why you have been blocked!

It’s all so odd, don’t understand why the mutual friend wouldn’t say what the fell out over.

Honestly I would post back her gift with a note saying as your friendship clearly meant nothing then she can have this back and shove it as far up her arse as it will go. Ps. Glad you enjoyed the wine.

So confused by all of this.....

In my head very simple

Dear A,

Really not sure what I’ve done to deserve a request to send back gift and be told to F off. If my most recent gift to you was that bad I’m unsure why you’d happily flaunt it on Facebook. More than happy to send yours back but seems unreasonable to request it back after using mine.
I’m completely unaware of what has bought this change in behaviour from you but if you won’t even discuss the issue, I guess there is little more to say.
Have a great life and it’s a shame you don’t feel you can talk to me about this.

Done... if she replies you get an answe, if she doesn’t drink a cocktail and make another internet friend.

Im kinda liking clockworklimes approach!,

Because this has ruined my weekend. And my husband's. He's of the clockworklime approach!!

Ha, you lot are funny.

3 things strike me: you said the gift was in relation to something she's about to do in life. It's not rehab or anything is it?
You received a gift from her a week ago. Could she think it's weird that she got you an alcoholic present and straightaway you've got her one? Like you might be trying to get one up on her?
You said this has been an online friendship, was it romantic at all? Could the husband have perceived it as an emotional affair and now he's angry that you've sent her a present as he doesn't know you've both been exchanging gifts?

I reckon it's the husband sending the message and blocking you.

I'll be honest, if the postage wasn't too much, Id send it back.
My pride wants me to do that.

The other side of me is.....eh? Makings of a cocktail? Get in there!!

How odd. It's looking like you'll never know. I'd just put it down to her being a bit weird.

My ex used to work shifts and I thought I was being nice by setting an alarm to wake in the early hours of the morning to send him a ‘thinking of you’ text.

Anyone else think this is a little batshit?

Goodness!! Her husband is happy with our friendship. So scrub that idea.

OP - drink the gift and post back the empties!

I've sent flowers before.

He isn't that happy about it as he hung up on you.
What a mystery!

No hassle from husband.

Flowers are romantic though aren't they, unless for a special occasion (new baby) or as a 'get well soon'?

Try not to dwell on it. Make sure she is blocked

Red I get your don't want to derail or hijack but I've had this. Spent loads of time and energy on someone and even spent 5 days over 2 weeks after work sorting something for her.
One day she posted something on FB about how people are only interested when it benefits them. Then sent me the most horrid private message about how her dc have forgotten me and don't bother mentioning me anymore (I'd seen them 2 days previously) and how I only bothered to visit them to see the new pet. (What I'd been doing the 5 rush hour visits/ driving her about after work).

She was blocked within 30 seconds.

I've since heard she has form.

It certainly isn't you. A good friend would communicate effectively and nicely if they had a problem.

Am laughing at corkscrew still though

You send lovely thoughtful gift to her
She tells you to fuck off, wants her last gift back and blocks you
Repeated block/unblock episodes with zero explanation
She uses gift
Company advises she was delighted with her gift
She unblocks to post a pic of her enjoying your gift
She immediately blocks you again
You call her DH and he grunts and hangs up

This is bonkers and quite frankly really very nasty

Can you send her an email? Explaining the above and how you don't have the foggiest what you've done to be treated so poorly, and that if she refuses to explain you shall assume the friendship is over for reasons unknown.

How bloody hurtful and unnecessary. Like fuck would she get her gift back!

Phone her?