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Friend blocked me after a gift

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Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 08:51

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 16:40

Oh, ffs.
No stalking!! I zoomed in on a photo to get full label.

Im not on Facebook.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 16:42

Not real?
Entitled to your opinion.

But don't stress me out any further, if you dont mind.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 16:46

Too late, I saw the deleted posts.

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SoupDragon · 08/09/2019 16:49

I’d certainly feel smothered,41 and wants to drop your friendship.

Would you use the gift that made you feel smothered, tell the person to fuck off and demand a return of the gift you'd sent her?

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 16:49

pigeon and wildlife ,
Sorry you feel that way. But other ways to put it.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 16:51

Im now feeling i have to defend myself here.
There was no smothering!!

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 16:54

Ffs.
She gives more than I give her.
But we don't keep tabs. Its not that kind of friendship.

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Bumbags · 08/09/2019 16:58

I think you just need to take a step back now.

I would have sent a text to husband rather than call him so you still have the option to do this.

Say the phone went dead or something.

Sounds like the friendship is over though but annoying you won’t find out the issues.

WildfirePonie · 08/09/2019 16:59

Apologies from me. I did not mean to cause extra stress.

Motoko · 08/09/2019 17:00

Sounds like her husband is just as bad as her.

From all your updates, I think it's got nothing to do with anything you've said or done, but that she has form for this. I suspect that's why she and mutual friend fell out, and she has trouble keeping friends. Mutual friend wouldn't talk about it, because she's as mystified as you, and doesn't want you to think it was something mutual friend said.

She's now taunting you, with her blocking and unblocking just long enough for you to see a post by her, but not have time to speak to her.
Because of this, I'd forget about her, and if you can block her while she's got you blocked, then do that. You don't need to see her taunting.

Don't send the gift back. She's made sure she's used yours, a gift is a gift. Once she's given it to you, she has no rights to have it back. Plus, it will cost you money and time to return it.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 17:03

Thank you, wildfire.

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BuildBuildings · 08/09/2019 17:07

The both sound bonkers!!

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 17:09

I'm a bit worn out with this.
Trying to work out what is wrong and then getting barrage from keelside when not expecting it. From forum I came onto to try and make sense of it.

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GlitchStitch · 08/09/2019 17:10

If she thought OP was smothering her she'd have kept her blocked surely. All the blocking and unblocking just screams drama llama to me, she wants you to react. I've known a couple of people like this over the years, they can't function without some kind of drama, always feuding with somebody and seem to thrive on it. It does sound like your friend has form and as you don't know her in real life you have no idea of how she behaves on a daily basis or how stable she really is- it may be that friendships get to a certain point with her and she hits the destruct button.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 17:10

Sorry, just feeling bit bruised all round, to be honest.

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SummerHouse · 08/09/2019 17:20

Weirdos everywhere redshoes

I think either way, if this is your friend being bonkers, or if there's been some actual slight (perceived or real), she is not worthy of your friendship. Take your mind off it with a good film. Fuck her and her rude husband.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 17:22

Angelf1sh I think that's way forward and best to approach it.

Its ruined my weekend. I need to get over it.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 17:24

You don't mean literally, do you, summer???

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Thereisasystem · 08/09/2019 17:25

OP, I really feel for you - hugs Flowers

MistyMinge2 · 08/09/2019 17:28

Sounds like you may never know. Nowt as queer as folk!

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 17:30

I've spoken to my sister. Sent her photos and messages and explained about giftcard in between.

Kept it neutral as i could.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 17:30

She replied....you have a great friendship. You both lucky.

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SymphonyofShadows · 08/09/2019 17:32

I wouldn’t be sending the gift back just in case it’s all part of her silly games, fucking weirdo. I do think you need to find out about what happened with the mutual friend though, this could be the tip of the iceberg.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 17:33

So its not obvious what I've done.
I didn't say the background just to keep her mind clear.

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Motoko · 08/09/2019 17:34

Well, that's not a very helpful message from your sister!