Friend blocked me after a gift

[Redshoesandtheblues]

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

Well you sound like a lovely friend who is trying to do things right and it’s really her loss if she doesn’t even want to talk about it.

Extremely odd unless this turns out to be a massive joke and she is on her way to “surprise” you with a visit or something

Don't message her again or husband OP.
If you haven't done anything to upset her (that you know off) leave it alone. It's obviously not you. You sound like a good friend.

She should be an adult and talk to you about what's upset/annoyed her.

Soola that last post was perfect!!Do you want the gift? Before i kick shit outv of it???

Sounds like she possibly thinks you keep trying to beat her gifts. Do you always send something more expensive? She may fee that you're making out she's cheap

All i said was.....Finding to catch her lately and her phone is blocking and unblocking me.

What does that mean? Finding to catch her?

Finding it hard to catch her lately......

I knew i missed out a word, but thought it would be obvious?

Drink it, send it back empty and unwashed

^do this

Lemonshe beats me on the gifts.

I think you should phone him back and just play that song down the phone to him!

Tbh I would want to get to the bottom of this - it sounds like she thinks you have don't something very wrong!

I’d just leave them to it now. It doesn’t seem to me that you’ve done anything wrong but she’s obviously not going to tell you what it was about. Block them both yourself so she can’t keep sending you random stuff.

If she’s got form for randomly falling out with friends then it’s clearly her that’s the problem. I had a friend who was similar to this. She fell out with lots of people but nobody ever said why. It took 12 years before it was my turn and I have absolutely no idea what I did to upset her. I’ve put it down to me doing nothing at all and her just being her usual self. She’s dropped at least 3 other friends in the 4 years since she stopped talking to me. She texted me last November suggesting we meet up and she’d tell me what it was all about but I never heard from her again!

I would need to find out what happened too...

It sounds like it's either a huge misunderstanding which can be rectified,

Or, something has gone on that you don't know about, but is so huge for your friend that she needs to stop contact...
could her husband have perceived any previous contact as you "coming on" to him?

could her husband have perceived any previous contact as you "coming on" to him?

Wondered that too ... if he had created some drama about how he thinks you have a crush on him..

Either way sounds like the friendship is flakier than you thought

Is all very strange. Did the mutual friend ever met her in real life? Have any of you ever met? I think there's a sad lesson to be learned here in not trusting online friendships to be all you would like them to be.

I knew i missed out a word, but thought it would be obvious?

Well, it wasn't obvious to me, hence my question.

I find this whole thread a bit puzzling TBH.

What I would do now is get on with my life and forget all about these people. What a ridiculous couple they are. Don´t go to the bother of packing and paying for postage for sending back her present either. If she wants it, she can 1. pay the postage herself 2. communicate with you like an adult.

Have you opened the gift that she gave you?
Could there have been a little personalised note in there with an important message or something that you've missed?

If it were me I'd just message or email or however you can contact her now saying I was grateful for what I thought was a good friendship, if she ever feels ready to give you a reason for the sudden behaviour change then you're prepared to hear it however you're not going to keep trying with someone who's going to act like this with no explanation.

All this drama over someone you've never actually met?

Just step off the carousel - the whole situation is barking.

Cheeky bitch... I'd feign ignorance and text her next time she unblocks you;

Dear X, I'll send you your gift back this week, please offer me the same courtesy and return my gift card. Regards

So what I’m reading is that you stalked her social media and sent something she’s mentioned. When blocked you start calling.
Do you think it’s possible she was disturbed by the amount of attention you’ve paid and has decided to disengage?

Regardless of previous exchanges she may find your behaviour a bit too much- I’d certainly feel smothered,41 and wants to drop your friendship.

To much drama. I would say