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Friend blocked me after a gift

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Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 08:51

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 14:39

Ha! skittles thats funny!

But not the missing piece.

She more sane and far fitter than than i am.

Maybe thats it? Im too unfit at mo? Too fat?

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SummerHouse · 08/09/2019 14:40

Look this is about me now and I need to know. You simply must contact the husband. Thank you.

TimeIhadaNameChange · 08/09/2019 14:41

I quite understand how you can be good friends with someone you only know online. I almost went on holiday abroad with a friend I'd known for years, but hadn't met in person. In the end we decided that was maybe slightly stupid so I went to hers for tea so we could meet first. I also have another, very good friend, who does live abroad. We used to talk weekly until life got in the way, but have met up a few times, though only for an hour or so each time, but, were we to get married, for eg, there'd be no question about the other not getting invited.

I'd not return the present purely because, despite having asked you to, she then went and cashed in your voucher. If she gets to enjoy yours, you get to enjoy hers. And why should you have to pay to send it back anyway?

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 14:52

I did it.
I phoned husband.
I know he early starter....

I said warm hello....
He listened, then hung up.

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Pinkbonbon · 08/09/2019 14:52

Could it be her daughter pretending to be her? You said you knew her daughter...maybe she has fallen out with her mum and so is trying to cause problems between you two out if spite.

Soola · 08/09/2019 14:53
Pinkbonbon · 08/09/2019 14:53

Ah guess its not the kid then...

ILoveHumanity · 08/09/2019 14:54

wow I’ve been ghosted by a friend recently and still don’t know why and it eats me up. I am assuming friend is overwhelmed and it’s not personal.

But this is a different level of weird. Im so curious to know the answer after her rage dies down.. but can’t figure out a situation where I would ever ask for a gift back . Weird!

Bluntness100 · 08/09/2019 14:54

Well it's not the gift then,,,

Original poster
Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 14:54

All i said was.....Finding to catch her lately and her phone is blocking and unblocking me.

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Atalune · 08/09/2019 14:54

He hung up on you? What nothing to say at all!

How curious! And infuriating.

Next the mutual friend.

SummerHouse · 08/09/2019 14:55

Oh my feckin' god! This makes it even worse. Confused

ILoveHumanity · 08/09/2019 14:56

Ohhhhh..

What was your last conversation with her about OP?!! This sounds hurtful and confusing. You must be shocked!

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 14:57

I made stupid joke that i could use a phone like hers......it would be great .

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ILoveHumanity · 08/09/2019 14:58

You had this whole long conversation while he stayed quiet and not even said a hello back ? Confused

Maybe it was her who picked up the phone on a Sunday Confused

Newmumma83 · 08/09/2019 14:59

When she unblocks you I would say you have no idea what you have done wrong, you have been sad your friendship is over and on such a bad note despite not understanding why, wish her all the best in her life and next time send it then block her arse and send the gift back.

She sounds nuts 🥜

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 14:59

I was trying to relax him.
He just grunted and hung up.

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Newmumma83 · 08/09/2019 14:59

Ignore the And next time bit x x

Newmumma83 · 08/09/2019 15:01

I had a friend do that to me at aged 18... weirdly she talks to me via Facebook now but I’m all honesty she did me an absolute favour it hurt because she was my best friend for 15 years ... but in retrospect she was a negative force in my life too x

SunshineCake · 08/09/2019 15:01

I hope you get to the bottom of it and are able to move on.

I had a friend of two decades disappear and send a strange message purporting to be from someone else, just because it appears I had told her she had said something that upset me.

ILoveHumanity · 08/09/2019 15:02

Was it definitely his voice ?!

geeee why is the whole family upset ?!

Are you active online on a forum that she knows about (perhaps Mumsnet) and you posted views about something that she has raw emotions about ?! Brexit ?

OhLookHeKickedTheBall · 08/09/2019 15:02

I'm guessing he knows she has form and doesn't want to be involved. Rude though

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 15:05

It was him.
I know that.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 15:06

And i didn't say anything bad either, hence the joke about the phone

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AliciaQuays · 08/09/2019 15:08

Are you sure she even exists? Could he be her?

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