Friend blocked me after a gift

[Redshoesandtheblues]

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

Or does that mean you were unblocked by her long enough for her to post a picture then she reblocked you again?

If that is the case then she is a nasty piece of work, that is behaviour specifically designed to cause hurt and you are better off without such toxic people in your life.

Mist! Bloody iPad that was obviously meant to be missed something.

Wow what a bizarre situation?!

SleepWarrioryou've summed up where I am now.
Ive been doing best to work out.
But......sorry to sound callous. But I can't waste time guessing.

Has she sent the message to the wrong person by accident?

Ginky .....yes,confusing!
She blocked me, unblocked, then blocked again.
Then unblocked again. And then blocked again.

Even I'm struggling to follow that.

I need to move on.

Next time she unblocks you block her

Drama over

It doesn't sound callous though, you sound like a kind and nice friend who was initially desperately worried that you'd somehow hurt her feelings...but now doesn't want to be a doormat.

I'd bet a lot of money on this being the same story as mutual friend. She didn't tell you because it's really not clear what to say: Oh we fell out I guess, she blocked me. Why? I don't really know!

When you tell that story you run the risk of people thinking you must have done something awful but have your head so far up your are that you can't see it!

I'd contact mutual friend and ask for her opinion on what's happened. She may volunteer her own tale of bonkers friend, in which case you can write it off forever because it just wasn't your doing and there's nothing you can do to fix it. And of course, why would you want to given her unkindness now. But mutual friend may help you get some closure.

I'm not sure what media platform you're she's unblocking you and blocking you on, but normally you can block someone even if they've blocked you. It's to stop this happening as a form of bullying. May be worth doing that for your own sanity.

Ok your friend tells you to fuck off.
She requests you return a gift she got you.
She unblocks and blocks you every ten minutes.
She has used the gift you sent her.
She ends friendships with others.
You've never actually met her but say you have no secrets from each other.

And you're worrying about her and can't decide whether to return her gift? Bloody hell just keep the gift and block her once and for all. This is bonkers.

Ginky, think i may have missed out a block/unblock episode.

If something had gone awry somewhere along the line, a true friend would know it was out of character and contact you for clarity.
I personally wouldn't have any more to do with this drama queen. Cut your losses and try to put her out of your mind. No-one needs this sort of crap in their lives.

No secrets between us.
I know that's a bold statement, but we confide in each other a lot.

You can live in the same house as someone and not know everything about their life and any secrets they are keeping, so how on earth can you believe this to be true about someone you’ve never met?

But I'm also very involved with her child - letters, presents, phone calls etc.

Weird. Really weird. How involved can you be with a 7-year-old you’ve never met, and whose parents you’ve never met either?

SleepWarrrior , I think that's the way to go.

But friend on holiday at mo so cant ask.

I asked before in general terms......

Reply......Do not take this any further.

Having read/ followed the whole thread from the outset, you have, to my mind 3 options.

1. contact mutual (ex) friend and ask what her thoughts are. Same with husband. You have nothing to lose and you may get a finite answer.
2. nothing - leave her unblocked and place the ball in her court.
3. block her and chalk it up to experience and in the words of the Disney Princess - “let it go, let it go!”

However if you are determined to not contact any mutual informants then really you have option 2 or 3 at your disposal.

Fww I suspect the same thing happened to the ex friend.

Time to find closure and evict her from the brainspace of yours she’s renting.

Let me help you with your (hopeful and generous) overthinking. Ready?

She’s had a series of mini strokes. She isn’t herself and never will be again. Luckily, she has folk, who aren’t you, to care for her in her stroke-ridden future. You did nothing wrong, and she doesn’t recognise you any more so no point in hand-wringing any more. Which releases you to go on to a life of new friends and meaningful avenues for your kindness.

Be free. You’re welcome.

It's mind boggling what some do for seemingly no reason.

I have a friend who will happily go from 'best friend' to cold for no reason, she will be happily chatting away, posting messages in social media about how I'm her best friend and how long we've been friends for etc to then not answering massages/calls and blocking me from everything... the first couple of times I asked her husband, contacted mutual friend and wrote letters etc, really worried about her.
She eventually turns back up like nothing had happened, I just let it go now, when she's there we talk when she's not we don't, I have stepped back back don't invest to the same level that I used too.

What I do know though by accident is that when we've been at the height of our close friendship is when she's been sending other people messages about me, quite hurtful, spiteful messages and since I found that out I've never felt the same about her.

Just to make clear, I got blocked again before i could even answer.

I'm now being very childish and kicked her gift around the room a few times.

Ffs.
I usually kick the cat!

Joke!!!!!

Ta Tits,maybe.......
But doubt it.

OP what platform is she blocking and unblocking you on? On some you only get to do this a certain number of times.

Look, she has obviously got enjoyment out of your gift, so perhaps now is the time to open and enjoy hers to you - and post a pic of you doing so 😀