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Friend blocked me after a gift

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Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 08:51

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

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CoraPirbright · 08/09/2019 11:33

I think you have nothing to lose by contacting the husband. What other pp’s have said may well be true - she might be one of those high maintenance types whose history is littered with ex-friends whose perceived slights caused them to be cut off without an explanation.

OrangeSwoosh · 08/09/2019 11:40

Drink it, send it back empty and unwashed

FredaFrogspawn · 08/09/2019 11:51

Are you sure the negative messages are from her and no one is sending messages from her name?

FredaFrogspawn · 08/09/2019 11:52

Sorry if I missed something which makes that a nonsense theory

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 11:52

Doyoumind, I'm always aware of that aspect.

Its been me who has dropped out of various catch ups, for variety of reasons. All good ones, I hasten to add. And she's been fine with it, as group stuff.

She has friends who have met me, but who are not mutual. Not kept in contact. Probably because I dont use Facebook.

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EnidButton · 08/09/2019 11:52

When I dictated message, he laughed and said, I might steal that for advertising

What was the message?

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 11:56

Can't say Enid, I said i called dibs on it and wanted reward in wine!!

He laughed and said.....gotcha. Good deal.

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GabsAlot · 08/09/2019 12:51

What a strange woman i think the key here is to ask the other ex friend-she cant keep friends-prob coz she overreaacts at everything

Aridane · 08/09/2019 12:53

I clearly have fucked up in someway. But I really dont know how

No, you haven’t!!!

Aridane · 08/09/2019 12:54

Contact the DH - you have nothing to lose - bum’s message is good

Beautiful3 · 08/09/2019 13:01

She's asked for her gift to be returned but spent your wine voucher?! That doesn't seem very fair does it?! I think the friendships now over. I would withdraw from the whole thing. If she can't be bothered to explain her wobble, then there's no moving past this, is there?

Nofunkingworriesmate · 08/09/2019 13:08

Could husband think you are a man and forced her to block you?
Could the message be hacked?
.... you’ve never met in person? Really?

mnahmnah · 08/09/2019 13:10

If she spent the voucher the next day and was delighted with it, then it really doesn’t add up. I think it might be her husband that messaged you. Maybe he’s controlling, jealous or feels embarrassed that he isn’t treating her to such things?

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 13:12

Ive unblocked to get a photo of her enjoying wine from last night.
But then blocked again.

I'm getting angry now.

Im glad she enjoying, but don't stretch me too far.

Im under pressure too, don't need add ons!

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Larlarleighlee · 08/09/2019 13:12

I would send the gift back

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 13:14
  • been....
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rebecca102 · 08/09/2019 13:15

Is this real? You sent her a gift and she blocked you and told you to eff off? Huh!? What's wrong with her

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 13:17

Larl,that is my reaction.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 13:19

She asked for gift back,she gets it.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 13:24

I've only had a gift just over a week.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 13:27

Just in case someone would suggest I had not shown enough interest?
I sent pics and thanks,but explained i couldn't test straight away.

She said she knew that.

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BlackCatSleeping · 08/09/2019 13:29

She sounds like a drama llama. She’s probably enjoying stringing you along. Return or don’t return the gift. Either is fine. Block her and delete her number. Consider it a baffling mystery for ever more.

SleepWarrior · 08/09/2019 13:36

It all sounds very odd and frustrating, you have my sympathy.

However, I think you have to ask yourself how much unpleasantness you'll take whilst still running after her. If a friend told me to fuck off and did this blocking, unblocking etc then eventually I'd have to stop worrying about what I'd done to offend them and focus in how much they have now offended me. Even a genuine misunderstanding doesn't excuse her rudeness. I would want to know she's OK and not having a breakdown or something, but I suspect she isn't given the wine drinking.

If she is prone to taking offence and storming off (albeit virtually) then that might explain the 'can't keep friends' comment. You may be the latest in a long line of baffled and upset ex-friends.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 08/09/2019 13:37

BlackCat you are right.
But I'm usually return the gift sideways, kinda a person.

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Ginkypig · 08/09/2019 13:37

Sorry I must have missed a post somewhere so I think Iv mist something.

ive unblocked to get a photo of her enjoying wine from last night.
But then blocked again.

I thought she had blocked you? If so why have you blocked her?

Surely you wouldn't want to block her because that closes any way to communicate and sort whatever issues have caused her (frankly bizarre) behaviour.
Blocking is what you do when you are done and don't ever want her back in your life.