Friend blocked me after a gift

[Redshoesandtheblues]

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

So strange

Mynewbear, she actually in better position than me in most ways, so that angle doesn't work either.

We have not met in real life, that is correct, but mutual friend has met her a few times and all seemed fine and nothing odd.

Sleepyhead you said this...Her life is likely littered with relationships that ended abruptly when offence was taken at a perceived slight.

That has triggered something. She did say she cant keep friends.

I'm gonna go with what many posters have suggested- people have weird triggers and can go cold suddenly and unexpectedly with no explanation. We are a curious bunch. Could be she has a problem with alcohol.

Her having problem with alcohol has been raised a few times.
But she only sent the pictures of her new 'find' a few nights before, so Id be surprised.

We both like and and discuss it. No red flags to date, unless they're mine!!

Yes. I think quite valid. My mate ended up revealing herself as one and this does make sense

Online friends aren't the same as real life friends. People lie about who they are all the time. They conceal the weird or ugly bits of their personalities.

Having moved abroad, a LOT of real life friends became online friends. And, one by one, they have mostly dropped off and we have a quick chat on fb or what's app once a year or so.

It's human nature. Not being able to see people in real life means we don't actually feel as close to them as our shared secrets and stories suggest.

It's therefore an ideal p
format for people who have social anxiety issues or people with a lack of social skills. They can make friends without having to be vulnerable. But the problem with that is that they then disappear off the face of the earth easily.

hidingplace, that makes a lot of sense.
But I'm also very involved with her child - letters, presents, phone calls etc.
So her dropping me, also means I'm losing relationship with 7 year old.

Perhaps it has nothing to do with the gift...maybe you have somehow offended her when you last spoke (and the timing of the gift card is a coincidence)

She's keeping the gift card I gather? But wants her gift back

This is quite stressful!!

I need to let it go and just accept I may never know the reason.

ChangeItChild, yes!!

And yes, gift card has been used! Just checked my emails and had a personal email from wine place, saying.....after all the problems we had yesterday, I thought Id let you know your gift card has been used today. Thanks for your custom. She was delighted.

Well you may never know why she's called time on your friendship but you now know she's a CF and a half.

I'm not getting it, at all!!
If she was that pissed off with me, would she use my gift card?

I think it's strange she has used the gift card after blocking you.
However not sure how you get to this level of friendship when you've not actually met in person? How can you have a relationship with 7yo child when you've never met them?
I would leave her to it tbh. She sounds like hard work - blocking, unblocking, asking for gifts back etc. Might be time to move on.

@Soola your post made me laugh so much 🤣🤣🤣

Yes, Forgot to say how Soolas post made me laugh at time! And the feisty bitch one.

converse its easy done these days! Phone, video chats, pen and ink!!

God OP this would drive me crazy too. It’s just so weird. And WTF she wants you to return her gift but she has used yours. She is so so crazy.

What did the wine company mean by this? after all the problems we had yesterday. Are they aware of your friends weird reaction to you? Did she say anything to them? Sorry if you had already explained this. x

I'm confused.
Im looking at her gift at the moment.
Part of me wants to do as she asks and return it.
Other part wants to make a point and drink the damn thing later.

Use it, she used yours!

NotStayingIn,it was timing difficulties, then difficulty with my post code etc....At one point i was on email and landline to them, and referring to my mobile for details as well. It got very annoying, but I persevered.
The bloke was doing his best.

When I dictated message, he laughed and said, I might steal that for advertising.

So, we got on well and I think he was just carrying on the personal touch.

I was following this yesterday but didn't comment.

I'm not quite sure how you get to be such good friends with someone you've never met either but I think not having met them will always mean you don't truly know them. You know a lot about them but you don't pick up on all the other stuff that happens when you're face to face with someone.

I'm not sure you'll ever find out OP but I can imagine how frustrating that would be.

hard as it may be, i would just step back now and leave it.
She's obviously mad as a box of frogs so stop contacting, stop giving her headspace. let her carry on her merry way.

I might have a chat with the mutual friend she fell out with and see what her story is...

OMG she used it already! Drink that cocktail. Glug it down!