Hello Everyone,
The op is my mum (sorry mum). I am a long time lurker on mumsnett and don’t usually post (mostly to see what my mum is posting about me 
).
I know some of what she says sounds far fetched but that is because she mostly posts when she is anxious, needing to vent or wants to know what the best action is. That means we do live average lives, you just see the hectic bit.
I have DATED texts that prove everything everything she is posting, regarding the doorbell and stomping around/someone being in the flat. Once I figure out if I can attach them I will post them on here as evidence (if anyone knows how to do that via phone that would be appreciated advice)
We had a caller coming late at night for weeks straight, I would hear banging, the doorbell would go off. I had to be at work at 6am so you can imagine how many annoyed/worries texts I haven’t sent about this. The thread was deleted as the incident was a police matter that although it was affecting us wasn’t directly aimed at us, we were just caught in the cross fire. So although it was a dramatic time in our lives, it wasn’t that crazy.
The stomping around is frightening me though and I am going to ensure my mum changes the locks. I didn’t just hear stomping I heard the door close.
The reason I assumed it was my mum is because she told me she was going to London but not when she would get back (we are both adults after all, I don’t imagine most mums tell their adult children all the details of their outings). The bbq was meant to be a day time thing that ended up lasting longer, hence me assuimng it was my mum at home not someone else. It wasn’t until She later text back that it wasn’t her that I began to worry.
The McDonald’s incident I didn’t know was posted on here and it seems to of got misconstrued, I was the one who bumped into the man after he followed me into the toilet and then followed me down the stairs. My boyfriend didn’t tell me about him following me as he wasn’t aware at the time but had said he’d done the same to him when he excited the toilet.
A lot of horrible things have happened in our family but I’m sure if you posted about all the dramas in your lives that people would accuse you of making it up too.
The thing that has hurt me the most is the posters saying my mum is making it all up, including the post about my dad physically and emotionally abusing me since I was a child. Please do not trivialise the abuse I went through and try to say it was posted for attention as my mother had left that part out and was then scrutinised for doing so, so therefore she couldn’t of done the right thing either way, she was either witholding info or making it up for attention.
The things we have endured have been very stressful, hurtful but unfortunately true. My mum uses this site to vent these feelings. I know people will always be skeptics but I love her very much and she can be sensitive to this shite even though she know it’s true herself. That’s why this post is a bit ranty and long (sorry)
Thank you everyone telling my mum to change the locks and charge the ring. I’ve been asking her for ages to do it (and before anyone tells me to do it myself I have no idea what I’m doing with the ring and I can’t change the locks to a house which isn’t my own)
Also my boyfriend left the package on my mums bed as it was a Christmas present for me (he’s just confessed) he’s not a weirdo!