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Think I’m pregnant again! :(

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Breastfeedingworries · 27/08/2019 00:49

I’m really panicking, I’m a single mum to 9 month old. I had unprotected sex March this year and had morning after pill. It was very complicated and confusing upsetting time for me. (Please don’t judge)

I look pregnant again, I don’t feel differently. But I’m just connecting things and having a massive panic. I’ve drank gone out and lived life. I feel so stupid I put myself into the situation but I was so lonely. I really liked the person and thought we would be more, known him years. (He isn’t father to my dd)

I’m literally scared witless. I love my dd but I do not want another child! I am only now getting my life together!

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PointlessUsername · 27/08/2019 00:54

Take a test.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 27/08/2019 00:55

You need to do a test before you can get involved in panicking.

Aquamarine1029 · 27/08/2019 00:56

You would then be at least 4 months gone? You haven't had any symptoms?

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Breastfeedingworries · 27/08/2019 00:59

It might have been February, I’m so mixed up! I did a test after morning after pill that said negative though at the doctors. So I hope it’s just me imaging things. I had a c section so parts are numb.

No symptoms expect for appearance and the feelings tonight. With my dd I had sickness every day. I don’t feel movements like it the same but I keep feeling something now. I don’t know if I’m going mad. :(

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Breastfeedingworries · 27/08/2019 01:01

My mum asked me today if I was too. I just can’t believe my luck if I am. Alone with two and barely no gap.

I have had some random sickness at different times but I’ve had nights out. So put it to that. :(

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JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 27/08/2019 01:05

How long after the sex did you have the MAP and how long after the MAP did you do the test?

Islandermum · 27/08/2019 01:05

You need to take a test. How long after having sex did you take a test?

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Breastfeedingworries · 27/08/2019 01:21

I got the morning after pill literally the next day. Then had another appointment and took a test at the doctors. I look big, I’m slim build and I lost all my baby weight breast feeding but I’ve felt self conscious I’m big again. I literally put it down to drinking. I’ve found things hard and whenever I’m free I’ve drank and smoked. I’ve been very down. My mums just reminded me I had the implant after the morning after pill issue. Wonder if that’s bit of the weight gain too.

I love my dd to bits and I’m happy too but this would ruin everything. I wonder if I’m being silly and going mad. If nothing else I’m going to get some counselling reguarding drinking. (Should add it’s not when I’m in charge of baby)

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Islandermum · 27/08/2019 01:24

Sounds like a good idea r.e help for drinking. We all get into hard times but it's how we recover that makes all of the difference. Don't stress now, get a good night sleep. Get a test tomorrow morning. You've managed to get through everything else life has thrown at you so far, this time won't be any different x

StudentHelp · 27/08/2019 01:25

Take a test - you might be worrying yourself silly over nothing

LittleDoritt · 27/08/2019 01:26

If you had the MAP, a negative test and then had an implant fitted you are highly unlikely to be pregnant. You should test in the morning though to put your mind at rest.

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Breastfeedingworries · 27/08/2019 01:35

I think I just felt actual movement 😞 feel horrible about this but I’m thinking I actually am.

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Breastfeedingworries · 27/08/2019 01:45

Thanks for the support. I will take a test tomorrow. :(

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avocadochocolate · 27/08/2019 01:51

Oh dear Op... if the test is positive, please make a GP appointment as soon as you can. You would obviously need both medical care and a chance to talk things through.

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Breastfeedingworries · 27/08/2019 02:19

Dds Dad is so good and things were going so well. I was starting to get a break and he’s wonderful pays and has her every week ect. I’ve told my mum and she’s had a feel of my tummy, she says she can’t feel uterus, and that my tummy isn’t hard or anything. I’m losing sleep over this and tomorrow is going to be so tough. I’ve text a few friends for support and I’m very lucky I have parents and close friends but I am terrified. Worried i’ll Never meet a man too and will be alone. Single parent of two children both short flings. Looks appalling :(

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dalmatianmad · 27/08/2019 02:23

Its very unlikely from what the have said.
Have you had a drink tonight? Wondered if that was making you overthink? Flowers

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Breastfeedingworries · 27/08/2019 02:39

Sorry drip feeding I’m just all overs and very tearful. I have had other symptoms. Bad heart burn which I got with dd, I’m not exactly the same. Had really bad back pain for awhile. Also I stopped all drinking and smoking with dd. This isn’t a healthy pregnancy, I’ve drank and smoked. So I feel terrible too, as I didn’t know. I can’t believe this can happen and you don’t know but I didn’t. I got morning after pill implant fitting. I’ve worn my Matt leggings few times as jeans have felt tight.

I’ve decided if I am I’m going to have to come to terms with it and make the best of it. I will have to bounce back. I’m unsure about the father issue but I’m going to be kinder to myself this time. I won’t rush and tell him, i’ll Wait long as I can so I don’t have the stress of him on top of stress i’ll Put on in myself. He has one son already in Australia, who he rarely sees and a bad relationship with the mother. He does pay for him though and I do believe he’d support me money wise.

My dd would have a sibling, I will still get help as only got two. I’ve got great friends and family. A baby isn’t a curse, they get easier as they grow older. When they’re 5/6 and playing together it might be the best thing ever.

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Emelene · 27/08/2019 02:52

Take a deep breath, and do a test as soon as you can. Then you will know either way. Be kind to yourself. Thanks

Cleopatrai · 27/08/2019 03:14

He has one son already in Australia, who he rarely sees and a bad relationship with the mother

This doesn’t sound too good.

You sound like you have quite a few people around to support you. & you are right if you do find out you are pregnant and decide to keep the child, your daughter would have a sibling which would be lovely ! Flowers

Trixibell79 · 27/08/2019 03:19

Please make a GP appointment- a HCG test could be negative if you are that far along as levels drop in later pregnancy. Also you need the support. Good luck

Tiredtessy · 27/08/2019 03:51

You've probably just put on weight from booze
Y nights out! Have you had periods?

toadabode · 27/08/2019 04:15

Wow you sound extremely chaotic and irresponsible

Skittlenommer · 27/08/2019 04:20

Wow you sound extremely chaotic and irresponsible

Was thinking the exact same!

Russell19 · 27/08/2019 04:24

I think it sounds unlikely you are pregnant. Instead of getting carried away and worrying just do a test asap and book a doctors appointment. Best wishes!

BobbyPuck · 27/08/2019 04:37

A bloated stomach and bad back can mean other serious condition - go to Dr.

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