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ds just ruined my telephone interview

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stuckinthewrongbody · 12/08/2019 11:40

Just had a telephone interview with a job i wanted so badly DS has just ruined it! i put dd in her cot to have her nap and i gave ds some snacks and his ipad.

I go sit in the back and close the door he follows me starts screaming hitting his toy gun up the door i tell her i would call her back which i did and she just didnt seem interested after.

Feeling very crap about myself dont think i will ever get back in to work at this rate.

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Penguincity · 12/08/2019 11:42

Ds did not ruin your interview, you not organising childcare ruined your interview

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stuckinthewrongbody · 12/08/2019 11:44

Very hard when you have no help and OH works 7 days a week

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catspyjamas27 · 12/08/2019 11:45

How old is your ds? If he's tiny you can't really expect him to understand. But if he's say over 5 it sounds like naughtiness and attention seeking.

I can imagine it was really frustrating though Flowers

Ballygowenwater · 12/08/2019 11:46

Sorry you’re upset but there’s no way I would attempt an interview with a small child in the house without someone else to supervise them. It’s really unprofessional and the interviewer will have thought so too.

purplecorkheart · 12/08/2019 11:46

How old is your ds?

GrapefruitGin · 12/08/2019 11:46

Sounds really unfortunate OP. Could you be focusing/overthinking too much and perhaps it really wasn’t as bad as you thought? Don’t be disheartened, maybe next time have someone look after your children as you will never be able to put your complete focus into the phone call if you’re home alone with them.

CuckooCuckooClock · 12/08/2019 11:46

I’m sorry that’s really disappointing.
How old is ds?
Maybe you could practice getting him to sit quietly on his own without bothering you so if you get another interview it won’t happen again.

zebra22 · 12/08/2019 11:46

Why didn’t you get a babysitter to take them out for an hour. I would have been annoyed too.

Hiphopopotamus · 12/08/2019 11:46

Yeah. It’s really hard but you have to treat a telephone interview like a face to face one and organise childcare. You wouldn’t take your kids into a face to face interview with you and put them in a corner with an iPad. Unfortunately you have to treat telephone interviews with the same level of professionalism

BogglesGoggles · 12/08/2019 11:47

I always ensure that I have childcare organised for interviews. It’s not surprising that she wasn’t interested after realising that you hadn’t bothered to clear your schedule to speak to her.

SamStephens · 12/08/2019 11:47

I wouldn’t stress it too much if they knew you have kids and were trying to organise an interview around them. If the interviewer was that uninterested in a disruption like that imagine how shit they’d be if you had to leave work early for a sick child or the like! Sounds like a bullet dodged.

Wiltshirelass2019 · 12/08/2019 11:47

@stuckinthewrongbody does your OH really work 7 days a week? So he has zero days off ever?

BackOnceAgainWithABurnerEmail · 12/08/2019 11:47

It was childcare for how long? 15 mins? 30? I think you didn’t plan it. Surely you have a friend or neighbour or local nursery or crèche?

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stuckinthewrongbody · 12/08/2019 11:48

The thing is he's usually very well behaved, he is normally at nursery three times a week but they suddenly shut down last week tuesday so he is probably getting bored and fed up now.

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Greysparkles · 12/08/2019 11:49

If you can't sort childcare for an interview then how on earth are you going to cope actually working??

ButlinsIsShite · 12/08/2019 11:49

Ds did not ruin your interview, you not organising childcare ruined your interview

That's helpful. Hmm

Shit OP that's really shit. I'm sorry. It's hard when you have no help, something some people don't realise that not everyone has nannies/ parents/ money to sort these things out.

ButlinsIsShite · 12/08/2019 11:50

If you can't sort childcare for an interview then how on earth are you going to cope actually working??

Maybe she'll be able to afford it then? Hmm

Xmasbaby11 · 12/08/2019 11:50

Mine would have been the same at pre school age. It's hard but you were not realistic about his behaviour. You know your own ds and have to find bulletproof ways to keep him out of your way. In your situation I'd invite a friend or relative over and ask them to keep ds out of your way.

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stuckinthewrongbody · 12/08/2019 11:50

@Wiltshirelass2019 yes hes got a lot of work at the moment so will be 7 days a week for a month or so now.

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stuckinthewrongbody · 12/08/2019 11:51

@Greysparkles he will be going back to nursery as soon as i find a another one.

DS is 2

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Nicknacky · 12/08/2019 11:52

What will you be doing for childcare when you get a face to face interview?

IAskTooManyQuestions · 12/08/2019 11:52

I love the fact posters pile in, safe in the knowledge they have a slew of mums, aunts, sisters, cousins, friends, neighbours who can help. Some people simply do not have that back up. They'd never find themselves in that situation.

Viva la sisterhood, kick someone when they are down and trying to better themselves.

Not everyone has infinite access to childcare or finances to enable it.

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 12/08/2019 11:53

Ds did not ruin your interview, you not organising childcare ruined your interview

Maybe not a helpful comment but its the truth. You should have treated a phone interview in the same way you would a face to face interview and sorted childcare.

I would be seriously annoyed that my DH was working 7 days a week and doing no childcare he chose to have children too so why should it all fall to you?

ButlinsIsShite · 12/08/2019 11:53

NO idea what the OP's situation is but if nursery shut down, I wouldn't have been able to pay for and arrange child care at the drop of a hat. Just wasn't a possibility. Not everyone has a safety net.. It's disappointing so few people see this and assume people don't "care" as much as they do because their lives aren't as easy.

Wiltshirelass2019 · 12/08/2019 11:54

@stuckinthewrongbody that’s sounds really hard. Could you perhaps give them a call back and just explain lain the situation and say how much you want the job? I’m sure they’ll understand xx