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ds just ruined my telephone interview

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stuckinthewrongbody · 12/08/2019 11:40

Just had a telephone interview with a job i wanted so badly DS has just ruined it! i put dd in her cot to have her nap and i gave ds some snacks and his ipad.

I go sit in the back and close the door he follows me starts screaming hitting his toy gun up the door i tell her i would call her back which i did and she just didnt seem interested after.

Feeling very crap about myself dont think i will ever get back in to work at this rate.

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Passthecherrycoke · 13/08/2019 15:50

@Mesmermancer lots of people send them
In sick or phone in sick themselves. They wouldn’t admit it here though.

My sister is a nurse. It’s really, really hard to do this. For a start she does 3 12 hour shifts a week. “Just getting a locum/ bank staff/ supply person in” sounds easy but someone has to show them around, pay the extra cost for them and give them a rotation and quick demonstrations on systems etc if they haven’t worked in that role in that department very recently (because things change all the time)

Sister leaving in middle of shift would lose her parking space which she fights for every day Grin

And also, the hospital would quite rightly ask why she needs to disappear during her 3 shifts a week when she should be able to arrange things on any of the other 4 days a week. But, you know, the partner might be stuck doing it on one of those days

DecomposingComposers · 13/08/2019 15:53

Seriously? Many of my friends and family are doctors and they can usually book annual leave with a weeks notice.

I'm sure they do but what's the impact on the patients? I've been waiting to see a cardiologist. Appointment booked for 2nd August since April. Got a letter 2 weeks before saying clinic has been cancelled and re booked for mid November. Why? Consultant going on holiday!!!

So maybe they can do it but it doesn't mean that they should nor that it has zero impact on their patients.

HeadintheiClouds · 13/08/2019 15:57

Did they actually tell you the rebooking is due to the consultant going on holiday? It’s presumably more the fault of whoever keeps the booking lists than the fact that the guy shouldn’t take a holiday.
As several people have insisted he wouldn’t have been able to do it without several months notice...

DecomposingComposers · 13/08/2019 15:57

What do you do when your children are too sick to go into childcare/school if neither of you can have time off without 4 weeks notice?

My children are adults. When they were young we worked opposite shifts so that wasn't a problem.

Where I work parents can take carers leave or whatever it's called but a partner's job interview wouldn't qualify.

DecomposingComposers · 13/08/2019 16:02

Did they actually tell you the rebooking is due to the consultant going on holiday?

We know a consultant who works at the hospital and he told me. She has only just requested the leave apparently. Why is it anything to do with the person who runs the lists? The clinics are all fully booked. Those of us unfortunate enough to have been booked during what is now her leave period have to be re booked but there are no spaces until November.

DarlingNikita · 13/08/2019 16:09

DecomposingComposers, 'What Bluntness said was howlingly stupid because she said that everyone can take a couple of hours, or a half day off and that simply isn't true.'

Thank fuck someone was able to understand me.

DecomposingComposers · 13/08/2019 16:09

Also, those saying that nurses, teachers, drs etc can book supply or locum staff - how many of those would work for 2 hours? I used to be a bank nurse (like agency) no way would I have accepted a 2 hour shift.

If you work for a company who allows half day leave at short notice, fair enough. But lots of employers don't allow this and if you are working a ling distance away then it's likely to require a day's leave to cover it.

It's the blanket statements that are made on here that are the problem. "Because I can do x, y or z then everyone must be able to". Why is it so difficult to understand that there are plenty of reasons why others can't do it?

DecomposingComposers · 13/08/2019 16:11

@DarlingNikitawhat you said made perfect sense. People just cannot comprehend that not everyone's situation is exactly the same as there's.

madcatladyforever · 13/08/2019 16:19

Oh for goodness sake it's not hard to take care of the situation.
I was a single mum with nobody to help me at all and only a couple of friends and I always managed to find someone to cover an interview.
If I had been in this situation I'd have made sure DS couldn't have got to me even if it meant locking him in his room for half an hour or putting a stair gate up. I'd have rewarded him for it.
You do what you have to do when you're looking for a job. Either that or starve,. He's only 2 you can't expect him to behave.

Dungeondragon15 · 13/08/2019 16:22

Also, those saying that nurses, teachers, drs etc can book supply or locum staff - how many of those would work for 2 hours? I used to be a bank nurse (like agency) no way would I have accepted a 2 hour shift.

Obviously they wouldn't book a locum for two hours. They wouldn't have to take the whole day off wouldn't they. I didn't mention nurses or teachers as don't know much about their annual leave but certainly doctors, pharmacist and opticians can often be covered by locums.

DonnaDarko · 13/08/2019 16:23

I'm probably one of the least judgemental people in the world, but I personally would have arranged childcare.

Cos unless he's eating food, my 3 year old constantly wants to be the centre of attention.

Passthecherrycoke · 13/08/2019 16:33

So now for some workers it’s a day off- a day of annual leave- to cover a telephone interview (45 mins ish?) blimey. I do agree with @madcatladyforever to some extent- I would’ve put them upstairs with a tablet and lots of crap food and the stair gate. Then gone in the garden for the call 🤣

Dungeondragon15 · 13/08/2019 17:05

So now for some workers it’s a day off- a day of annual leave- to cover a telephone interview (45 mins ish?) blimey.

Why would it be so bizarre for a DP to take a day off from his job for his partner to get back into the workplace? The interview might only be for 45 minutes but the result could be that the household income greatly increases as a result. Do you really not think that the working partner should try and book a days annual leave for that?

HeadintheiClouds · 13/08/2019 18:01

It seems a good investment of time to me, particularly in op’s situation where there’s a clear need for the op to be in employment, and no spare cash for emergency childcare.

Passthecherrycoke · 13/08/2019 18:09

In OPs case he’s a scaffolder and is extremely unlikely to be paid annual leave, so that’s not really relevant. It may or may not be worth losing a days pay- probably not.

HeadintheiClouds · 13/08/2019 18:10

Why wouldn’t he be paid annual leave?

Passthecherrycoke · 13/08/2019 18:12

Scaffolders are usually self employed or employed on a day rate. The work is too unpredictable to employ them full
Time.

Gruntvsgunt · 13/08/2019 18:19

I’m not surprised they didn’t seem interested, they may have thought if you cannot organise childcare for a phone call are you really going to be a reliable colleague

Dungeondragon15 · 13/08/2019 18:29

In OPs case he’s a scaffolder and is extremely unlikely to be paid annual leave, so that’s not really relevant. It may or may not be worth losing a days pay- probably not.

Why not? Are you assuming that OP wouldn't have got the job anyway?

DecomposingComposers · 14/08/2019 06:19

Why would it be so bizarre for a DP to take a day off from his job for his partner to get back into the workplace?

Because maybe he cant book annual leave at short notice (I can't as I said. I have to give 4 weeks notice). Maybe she's having multiple interviews and he doesn't have enough surplus leave to cover it. Maybe he's self employed and has to work whenever work is available in order to pay their bills. Maybe too many other employees were already off so he couldn't brake leave. There are lots of reasons why many people wouldn't be able to take annual.leave.

Besides, the original point was that he should have just popped back home during his working day to cover the interview, as apparently all working people are able to do.

Dungeondragon15 · 14/08/2019 09:19

@DecomposingComposers

I was responding to the post "So now for some workers it’s a day off- a day of annual leave- to cover a telephone interview (45 mins ish?) blimey." Nothing has been said about him not being able to get annual. It seems that people just thing it would be too much effort or too much loss of money for OP's interview regardless of whether he can get the day off. OP hasn't said that she has had a lot of interviews and hasn't said that he wouldn't be able to get annual leave.

I appreciate that some people wouldn't be able to get it with a weeks notice but I think that this accounts for fewer people than some people seem to think. I also think taking a day off for an interview (if it is possible) is well worth the investment for most families and find it odd that people think otherwise.

DarlingNikita · 14/08/2019 09:54

Why wouldn’t he be paid annual leave?

Because he might be self-employed?

Honestly, people on here. Either thick or deliberately obtuse, I'm not sure which.

HeadintheiClouds · 14/08/2019 10:02

Anybody might be self employed Confused. passthecherrycoke implied it was almost a certainty that he was self employed just because he was a scaffolder which I queried.
He may be a self employed scaffolder, but it’s not a given Confused

DarlingNikita · 14/08/2019 10:10

No one said it was a given, just 'highly likely', which is true.
But clearly you're just after an argument and the last word.

HeadintheiClouds · 14/08/2019 10:14

Not at all, but I object to being called thick because I asked a question. Op hasn’t said he’s self employed, so nobody actually knows this. Calling someone thick because they don’t know something you don’t actually know either is a very good example of being thick.

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