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ds just ruined my telephone interview

253 replies

stuckinthewrongbody · 12/08/2019 11:40

Just had a telephone interview with a job i wanted so badly DS has just ruined it! i put dd in her cot to have her nap and i gave ds some snacks and his ipad.

I go sit in the back and close the door he follows me starts screaming hitting his toy gun up the door i tell her i would call her back which i did and she just didnt seem interested after.

Feeling very crap about myself dont think i will ever get back in to work at this rate.

OP posts:
BlackCatSleeping · 12/08/2019 11:55

Sod’s law, eh? Kids are quiet all day, but as soon as you need them to be quiet they play up. Don’t let it get you down and good luck with the job hunting.

TheFaerieQueene · 12/08/2019 11:55

I’m sorry, but you can’t blame a 2 year old.

ShirleyPhallus · 12/08/2019 11:56

How is your DH working 7 days a week? What does he do?

ButlinsIsShite · 12/08/2019 11:57

Feeling very crap about myself dont think i will ever get back in to work at this rate.

Beating up the OP won't help her. It won't magic her another interview, it won't magic her child care. I'm sure if child care was an option she'd have used it.

All that beating her up can do is make her feel shit ter

Original poster
stuckinthewrongbody · 12/08/2019 11:58

@ShirleyPhallus scaffolder.

His mum is usually here to help out if i have interviews and things but shes on holiday atm so im stuck.

OP posts:
gearandloathing · 12/08/2019 11:58

If your judgement is so poor to arrange a telephone interview with an unsupervised child in the house, I would not give you a job either.

Original poster
stuckinthewrongbody · 12/08/2019 12:00

@ButlinsIsShite thank you x

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Pamplemousecat · 12/08/2019 12:00

As a mum I do sympathise OP, I really feel for you. You were just doing what you thought would work best at the time. However as a professional recruiter I wouldn’t have been impressed I’m afraid. I would have thought you disorganised and wasting my time. Definitely, next time try to arrange a baby sitter for an hour or a school aged teen to come and watch him. He’s too young to be left . It will reduce your anxiety too re not getting disturbed and you will feel calmer and more focused. Don’t worry you’ll get there. You sound keen to get back to work which is half the battle- well done 👍

FAQs · 12/08/2019 12:00

You got an interview so sure you’ll get another, maybe email them a follow up email, I wouldn’t mention childcare though. Just a it was good to speak with you, following the call you feel the job is exactly what you are hoping for etc.

I work from home and have had the dog bark at the worst possible time during a call or the doorbell go for a neighbours parcel. I just pretend it hasn’t happened and no one mentions it.

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 12/08/2019 12:00

Beating up the OP won't help her. It won't magic her another interview, it won't magic her child care. I'm sure if child care was an option she'd have used it.

Its not about beating her up ffs. Hmm The people suggesting using childcare are doing so because that's what the Op needs to do next time she gets an interview. You cant blame a 2 year old for being a 2 year old.

The problem is this situation occurred because neither the OP or her husband prioritised the interview enough to get someone to look after their children. Its actually very helpful to suggest this is what she does in future as it will increase her chances of getting a job.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 12/08/2019 12:00

I'm sorry, Stuck, that's rough. DS is too young to understand, really.

Did you complete the interview with her, despite her sounding disinterested? It may be worth sending an email, keeping it professional but thanking her for her time and apologising again for the interruption. Try and style it out. You've got nothing to lose, really Smile

I hope the news is better than you're expecting!

Tonnerre · 12/08/2019 12:01

Given that many children don't go to nursery, it seems unlikely that being out of nursery in itself makes your son bored and fed up.

StoppinBy · 12/08/2019 12:02

2 year old's are pretty good at ruining phone conversations unfortunately.

I am sorry that your interview went badly, I hope that one day you can laugh at it (maybe even with your new bosses Wink . They say every cloud has a silver lining so maybe your silver lining is that a better job is waiting just round the corner.

WarmSausageTea · 12/08/2019 12:02

Congratulations, OP, you’ve roused the Arsehole Squad. Seriously, some deeply unhelpful, unpleasant comments on this thread.

I hope you have better luck with your job search in future.

purplewhitegreen · 12/08/2019 12:02

If your judgement is so poor to arrange a telephone interview with an unsupervised child in the house, I would not give you a job either.

ODFOD.

The OP has explained her nursery has shut and her MIL who usually helps out is away.

Sometimes you just have to take a chance and go for it, and this time it didn't work out.

A little empathy wouldn't hurt FFS.

Xmasbaby11 · 12/08/2019 12:02

Wow, he's only 2. You can't trust a 2yo to be quiet away from you for any length of time.

It sounds like the problem is just timing - nursery closed and family away. Just wait for the support to be around and know next time to organise help.

VenusTiger · 12/08/2019 12:03

Sounds like, you’re not ready to go back to work with a baby and toddler especially with no help or OH who works every day Confused
If you can cope money wise, stay at home with them

HeadintheiClouds · 12/08/2019 12:04

You wouldn’t have been offered the job on the strength of a telephone interview, though, if they’d been interested they’d have wanted to meet you face to face.

How would you (will you) have organised childcare for that?

Original poster
stuckinthewrongbody · 12/08/2019 12:04

@Tonnerre he has been at nursery since hes 1 hes nearly 3 now im pretty sure he is bored and fed up and missing his friends and teachers.

Ive never done a telephone interview with DS here before as i said hes always been at nursery and his shut down last week i have no one else to help me out.

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Vasya · 12/08/2019 12:05

Sorry OP, that's tough. It was a bit daft to expect a 2 year old to look after himself while you were in an interview, but it sounds like you're managing a lot on your own.

If this one doesn't work out and you have another phone interview, hire a babysitter for an hour to keep the kids entertained.

coconuttelegraph · 12/08/2019 12:05

Given that many children don't go to nursery, it seems unlikely that being out of nursery in itself makes your son bored and fed up

That doesn't make any sense, the children who don't go to nursery are used to being at home no doubt they might need a period of adjustment if they started going to nursery 3 days a week.

It's not always possible to get childcare, I remember doing a similar phone interview with a small baby, I just had to move as far away from the noise as I could, I did get the job, sorry that it didn't work out for you

Flamingosnbears · 12/08/2019 12:05

Sounds like it could be a case of overthinking it, try not to beat yourself up about it though she's the one with the problem if she doesn't understand your a mum with little ones they're not dolls you can just switch off.

Nesssie · 12/08/2019 12:07

Ah sorry OP sounds frustrating, I bet any other time he would have happily amused himself! That's typical kids though!

Chin up, and on to the next one.

Pomgirl · 12/08/2019 12:08

I am a recruiter, I completely understand when phone screening children may be there etc, you can’t expect people to arrange childcare for a call. Terrible of the recruiter to be uninterested whilst you sorted your son. Maybe blessing in disguise if that’s there attitude towards working mums!

adaline · 12/08/2019 12:08

I would be seriously annoyed that my DH was working 7 days a week and doing no childcare he chose to have children too so why should it all fall to you?

Well, as OP is currently not working, I assume they need his income to pay all the bills?

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