I very stupidly looked at my undercarriage with a small mirror ......

[sheshootssheimplores]

Which I haven’t really done for a long long long long time. Prechildren probably 🥴

Wow it looks disgusting. I can’t get it out of my mind. DP was being very amorous last night and I didn’t want him near me as I’m so embarrassed.

I did have to look because I was bleeding from my backside (piles) and needed to know how bad the situation was back there. I have no reason to think I’ve got a prolapse or anything and my pelvic floor is very good, I can run, laugh, sneeze with no accidents. I don’t know though, does a post baby vagina/vulva look a lot different to a pre baby one?

I don’t think vaginas are ugly! Mine isn’t pre or post babies.... not showing off but I don’t like this negativity and it only makes women more self conscious.

Not sure why anyone would post a link to normalise vulvas in order to reassure PPs only to then say they're unattractive and ugly :/

hmmbop neither does mine. I’d happily trade it for one that does work no matter what it looks like. You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone. Sure people are allowed to feel how they feel, and I feel worrying about colour and length of a vulva is slightly shallow if it’s still working.

Incidentally I don’t think vulvas are ugly. Or penises. It’s like saying a finger is ugly.

I think there should be more images available of post-birth vaginas...medical type ones...so women (and men!) can see what's "normal" after a birth.

There's too much mystery. I had two sections and still never look at my own!

I actually think that's a great idea HennyPennyHorror

I had all these naive expectations about what a post birth body would be like. I was expressly told by Midwives etc that everything would 'snap back' because I was young and in my early twenties.

It was a shock to discover they lied. A big shock.

Anyway, after the last baby something shifted and I now orgasm more easily, so swings and roundabouts

This happened to me too! After baby number 3 I’ve found that I can orgasm from PIV alone, which never happened before!

I decided to look at mine the day after I had my second child (I’ve no idea why, I guess I thought I’d inspect the damage?!). My friend asked me to describe it... I said imagine if your vag was 10 times the size it’s meant to be, there’s been a multiple car pile up down there and you are left with some bits missing in places and extra bits in others. She replied “I’m never having children”.

No one looks at it though, so as long as it still works what does it matter?

Anyway, after the last baby something shifted and I now orgasm more easily, so swings and roundabouts

Me too I didn’t realise how common this was. I was convinced childbirth would ruin sex but it’s actually much better post children.

Well, as they say, ignorance is bliss - never occurred to me to try and look at it before I had children - and it has never crossed my mind since (until reading this thread - but, believe me, I will be able to resist the urge!)!

Exactly the same as some others, I have never looked at mine Pre or post children! Why would you?
Just seems a bit, er, I dunno, strange 🤷🏼‍♀️
Dp doesn’t complain, is always keen to visit my fanjo- he’s the one who has to see it! Ignorance is most certainly bliss - after birthing 3 kids I’m sure mine looks like an exploded pitta bread

Mine looks like a herd of Wildebeests has been through it. On the upside, I just made myself a grilled cheese sandwich at 1am which looks great.

I have never had a vaginal birth, just two CS births.I have never had a look down there and my younger one is 47 now

Married 45 years, 2 vaginal births and I haven't looked at mine since 1981 It hasn't put DH off though, so I'm assuming everything's all right. And I know it's not the intention of this thread but I haven't laughed so much in years. MN at its honest, funniest, self deprecating best.

My undercarriage still looks tidy after two births, but I never pushed a baby through it. My flipping C-section scar on the other hand is gruesome and I have achieved an apron of flesh over it.

If you don't get it one way, I guess it goes the other.

@PennyPitStop19 exactly! Mine isn’t ugly either.

I’m 53 and mine looks more or less the same as it always has other than for a few months after each time I gave birth.

Obviously if women have had tears then they might look different than before but I never tore thankfully.

Does putting on weight make a difference down below? Maybe that’s why some look drastically different??

I had a cs, no natural birth so didn't realise that things can change 'down there', however I have a very unattractive cs tummy overhang.

only non-medical person who gets near my undercarriage is deeply appreciative.

And so they should!

No I haven’t put on weight. Agree with ABC you get it one way- I have zero stretch marks on my abdomen or boobs .

To be honest I never expected my body to be completely the same after growing, carrying and birthing 3 humans. That wouldn’t be realistic.

I've looked at it more often recently as I'm unfortunately single again (cheers xh) and I didn't want to be shy of new men seeing it.

I 'went in' with the attitude that whatever it looks like I'm going to make myself be ok with it.

We're so conditioned to think that vaginas are unattractive, and only barely acceptable if they're 'perfect', but that's nonsense. As a pp said they're no more objectively unattractive than a finger. Much more interesting in fact!

Men should feel bloody lucky to get near them! Incidentally I don't think penii are objectively unattractive either.

But it's really important if there's something genuinely wrong or a woman is seriously distressed by it, that there should be help available. I believe French women are quite into little gadgets to tighten up after birth (seems a lot of hassle though)

I'm sure even mine is different and both dc have been planned sections

As long as there's no pain, and sexual response is still intact then what's the bother?

Don't worry over something that the man you're with won't think twice about. I mean that nicely.

Mens genitals are not attractive. I mean, ever. Scrotums are fundamentally not pretty.

I come miles quicker than I did before kids, it's like things got jiggled around. I haven't had a vaginal delivery though. Emcs etc

Please don't obsess on your bits. If it feels good and you're both happy then who the fuck cares?

On that thought I am v different in looks all over to when I met dh... And so is he. If you love each other / etc then.

Please stop worrying xx