I very stupidly looked at my undercarriage with a small mirror ......

[sheshootssheimplores]

Which I haven’t really done for a long long long long time. Prechildren probably 🥴

Wow it looks disgusting. I can’t get it out of my mind. DP was being very amorous last night and I didn’t want him near me as I’m so embarrassed.

I did have to look because I was bleeding from my backside (piles) and needed to know how bad the situation was back there. I have no reason to think I’ve got a prolapse or anything and my pelvic floor is very good, I can run, laugh, sneeze with no accidents. I don’t know though, does a post baby vagina/vulva look a lot different to a pre baby one?

'Bumping uglies' damn autocorrecT!

I looked at mine yesterday 6 months post baby and was upset! It looks so obviously stitched back together now

I don't think men care what it looks like tbh. I mean their danglies don't look up to much do they? like sort of chucked together.

I had a fourth degree tear, piles, and vulval varicose veins.

It's horrifying down there.

Thank goodness for anonymous conversations online! I'm fairly open but it's really not a topic I would discuss with anyone, beyond a flippant comment.
It's good to know how other women feel about these matters sometimes.

There's an old saying...

You don't look at the mantle piece when you're poking the fire. 😜

I can't remember which comedian talked about male genitalia looking like something you'd see hanging out of a shark's mouth, but it made me laugh.

Justmuddlingalong Bless him, he's a keeper!

Silly question here but

Why does it matter what it looks like?

I'm still getting vulval varicose veins and my youngest Dd is 17 😖

Genitals aren't really designed for looking at much 😂 that's why we have nicer looking faces 😉

This is why I can never understand why post baby women wax it all.

I wonder if women felt this way about their genitalia before images of 'perfect bodies' were available online. I find the thought of cosmetic surgery horrifying, except in extreme cases. It's worrying to think of the pressure that young women are under, and that men and women can be put off by very normal bodies.
Very grateful to be old and married, with no intention of having sex with anyone other him ever again.
OP I hope this thread has made you feel better about your body.

I don’t think mine looks too bad (3 C sections here - belly overhang is horrendous) but it’s the white hairs I hate. Where did the dark curly ones go?????

*Silly question here but

Why does it matter what it looks like?*

Because porn has apparently told men that they aren't attracted to women who look like women and made women feel like their own bodies aren't good enough.

There are a lot of things I don't like about being 50+ but having a partner who never got told that he shouldn't be turned on by how a woman actually looks and smells is definitely an upside.

Sorry back again- I can't do link from my phone but if anyone is interested, look up Laura Dodsworth's project The Bare Reality.

Anyone remember how back in the day we used to be encouraged to look at our undercarriage with a mirror to empower ourselves and celebrate our female bodies?

Op your fanny is Amazing just the way it is.

Mine isn't something I'd want a portrait of on my mantlepiece, but I dont want a sculpture of dh's dick either, much as I love it dearly.

Got to say though, pubic hair does hide a multitude of scar tissue sins.

None of them are shockingly beautiful..

Any man who really cares isn’t worth the shag.

I had a weird “tongue” poking out tag pre birth.. now a lot of stitches later (forceps and side facing) I have a scar that wiggles up onto my arse. Pregnant again.. so it can’t have put him off that much lol

I saw Sarah Millican in standup and she went on about how her aunt said “ it goes darker with age, sort of an old meat colour” 20 years married btw.
I guess that’s why they sell a horrible ‘pinking powder’ in order to make your vagina more attractive.

Personally I think anyone getting close enough should think themselves lucky, you shouldn’t have to start applying makeup products ffs.

It is what it is. He’s seen it. Him going in, kids going out....all the changes in between

Your DP clearly still wants to be near you so why are you embarrassed? He has clearly seen it all before you looked and still wants you so just embrace the change!

You know what they say "the worst thing about oral sex is the view" - the area was hardly designed with aesthetics in mind

Nope, a naff bit of design putting the Pleasure centre next to the waste disposal chute;(

Joking apart OP is that blood bright red or a dulled red can you say thats if its not too embarrasing as bright red blood is ,well fine its bleeding locally but if its dulled a bit then thats sometimes bleeding higher up in the system. Thats well, not so good.

I literally screamed when I saw mine after giving birth to my first!
3 babies later and I haven't dared look since!

I haven't dared look! I'm pretty sure I have a fistula between my urethra and vagina.

PMSL @MrsElizabethShelby

Now it looks like old road kill

I've got to submit I've never looked at mine.

Agree with all the comments about genitals hardly being highly aesthetic on men or women, i mean scrotums for eg are really not much in the looks dept and that's being generous :D

I like the poking the fire comment :D

As long as nothing hurts, and sexual function is still working, then is all good, surely?

The midwife told me very firmly not to look at mine after birth. I did, and deeply regretted it (I was trying to see if my stitches were infected - they were, but I knew that anyway from the pain so I don't know why I looked) BUT having seen it a week postpartum means that I am actually quite happy with it a year on - by comparison it's good as new!