I very stupidly looked at my undercarriage with a small mirror ......

[sheshootssheimplores]

Which I haven’t really done for a long long long long time. Prechildren probably 🥴

Wow it looks disgusting. I can’t get it out of my mind. DP was being very amorous last night and I didn’t want him near me as I’m so embarrassed.

I did have to look because I was bleeding from my backside (piles) and needed to know how bad the situation was back there. I have no reason to think I’ve got a prolapse or anything and my pelvic floor is very good, I can run, laugh, sneeze with no accidents. I don’t know though, does a post baby vagina/vulva look a lot different to a pre baby one?

I looked at mine a few days after the birth (couldn't tell if I was putting cream on piles or stitches) and got a real shock - it looked like I had been attacked with a hammer, the bruising was horrific.

I don't understand how a vulva can change that drastically just from having children? Mine looks the exact same, what that says about my prechild vag, I don't know. But I quite like it. Why does this thread feel like body shaming? I can't help but feel some of the posts have an agenda behind them. As for the so-called professional here...no words.

This thread has made me feel a bit light headed ! I've never looked and don't think I ever will.

Anyone seen that Family Guy scene where Stewie sees a vagina in a book?

If ever there was a body part where the appropriate aesthetic theory to adopt is "form follows function", it's the fanjo. So long as it does its job, who cares what it looks like?

I was utterly baffled first time I read about labiaplasties in the press - just thought to myself "who the fuck cares what it looks like, surely it's what it feels like that matters?" and then "why did people start caring?" then thought, "Ah, the rise of porn. Thank god I'm an old gimmer and didn't have any of this shit back in the mists of prehistory when I started having sex."

(And yes to the PP who mentioned changing colour post pregnancy - mine's now aubergine coloured, of all things.)

Be thankful you missed the1970s Womens Groups when self examination was the thing.
'Have you got a speculum?'
? Er, no.
'Oh but its absolutely essential. Would you like to borrow mine?'
No, thank you.
'Really, its no trouble, I'll show you how to use it'
No, definitely not. I must be going now
'But you'll miss our meet your vagina session'
I'm not joking. North London has a lot to answer for.

I like mine too, despite the 3 8lb-ers it has birthed 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 vaginal births and 1 episiotomy. Can see the scar and looks different. Doesn’t bother DH or me.
Porn has a lot to answer for with all those bald, neat , bleached skin Fanjos .

Have you checked out "wall of vagina "
Your genitals are normal.

I know a lot of women get their only kmowledge of what adult women's vulvas are like from porn, when in real life, theyre a fair bit more diverse looking.

Plus, I think heterosexual men are just happy to get to see one whatever. They're far less fussy than you think

I think mine is grand, it will have to do now.

@Bellasblankexpression if you have a mole, please get it checked. The same happened me and I had it removed. sometimes things grow faster than normal in pregnancy and sometimes you can't even see because of the bump. I thought mine was grand because that part of my body had never seen the sun, but that didn't matter.
Do get it checked. Good luck!

FermatsTheorem labiaplasty is often necessary due to how it feels, rather than how it looks.

Yeah, mines not good looking at all. Mind, last I checked it, I still had stitched in, only looked as was checking those. Like a bloody car crash tbh.

Hmmm, I realise that (though I'd question that it's often necessary - my impression is that most procedures are carried out for "aesthetic" rather than functional reasons). I view it very much like male circumcision - fine if there's a medical need (tight foreskin, labia getting trapped in clothing) but very much not fine otherwise.

Mine's nice. Well, in my opinion. How could I dislike something that feels so good? I don't think I'd enjoy it so much if I wasn't ok with how it looks.

Try not to worry how it looks immediately after birth (I didn't look for ages actually) because it's likely to settle back quite a lot.

FermatsTheorem when it was available on the NHS (no idea if it still is but I doubt it), it wasn't permitted for aesthetic reasons.

As a connoisseur of the older gentleman, I can confirm that peni & balls often age rather poorly too. Low, low danglers and weird grey skin, but only on the knob. The difference in skin tone can be quite alarming in some men..

I feel compelled to take another look after reading all these replies. In the hope it’s isnt quite as bad as I thought. I had no tearing but I do now seem to have more protruding bits in the opening. Someone mentioned a mind of tongue, that’s what I recall seeing.

Why does it matter? I guess it doesn’t aside from me remembering that I used to be pretty neat down there and now I look a state and when my DP performs oral I’m now quite horrified.

*kind

Okay I’ve had another look. It’s not quite as bad as the last time. The vaginal opening just looks more bulgy and exterior, not tucked up nicely like it used to be. I’m guessing that’s just from two vaginal births?

I think I might need an op on my piles though 🤦🏻‍♀️

So this thread has inspired me to have another look. Honestly it’s fine. Can’t see any major difference from my pre baby vag 🤷🏻‍♀️

Don't know where some of you lot got stitched up but I gave birth 5 weeks ago and from what Iv seen it looks almost exactly the same! Not saying it works the same as it's not been tested yet 😂😂

I cried the first time I saw it after it healed from a nasty tear during DS 1 delivery. Pre birth it was 'neat and tidy' and a soft browny pink. Post birth and my labia minor became huge and changed to a dark purplely almost black, and they both hang down like rabbit ears, only one side protrudes much more than the other. It really got me down and no one ever spoke about it. I mentioned it to my mum and she was totallly dissmissive and the mid wife was awful about it as well. Although my ex could not have cared less. But I did.

So for years I've going around feeling deeply insecure about it. Tits post breastfeeding arent great either, neither is my tummy, but I would not change those, but if I was offered cosmetic vaginal help

So thank you for this thread OP it's been very helpful

Sorry didn't finish sentence properly: if I was offered cosmetic surgery down there I I'd take it.

I like mine. Two big babies through, one episiotomy, one big upwards tear that almost took one labia right off, minor prolapses left right and centre, piles and all! I look at it fairly regularly and always have done because the small booklet I got about periods in school suggested you should do that, weirdly! I looked right after both births and of course it was badly bruised and swollen and stitched up, but it’s healed nicely, and it feels fine, and sex is great. So. I just wanted to throw that in. It’s possible to not be horrified!