Is this the most overused term on MN at the moment?

[BenWillbondsPants]

'You seem to be quite controlling' ...

I've seen it on 4 threads in the last 15 minutes of being on here. Someone says they're not happy about something and they're controlling. Someone says they'd like to change plans and they're controlling. Want to have some input in your child's life? You're controlling. Changed your mind? Controlling.

It's getting rather trying! Apologies if this makes me sound controlling but for the love of god.

I always say it to my TV remote.

DH acting like an absolute

“Have you considered he might be on the spectrum OP?”

That should say absolute bellend

Narc(issist)
Woke used like it's some kind of cutting insult

'Comedy gold' is overused.

God I hate ‘cool wives’

It's been around for a long time. Ages ago I got told I was quite controlling when I was trying to stop my ex being abusive towards my DC by some unpleasant and naive posters.

Thank god it's not just me! I thought I was just turning into an old grouch with my eyes constantly rolling at an alarming pace.

Nip it in the bud is the one that (to use another over worn phrase) grinds my gears.

So many people use it, even when the thing that needs nipping has fully blossomed and produced it's own fruit.

Narcissist.

I just read an article about narcissism in a magazine - turns out a lot people are using the term incorrectly (e.i. to insult anyone who isn’t nice enough to them).

Most of these overused words/expressions are used incorrectly.
At times I doubt my own understanding of the English language and knowledge of grammar.
Sometimes I doubt my understanding of human behaviour and wonder if there’s been some new research I haven’t heard about (like this narcissism business so whenever I see this word I don’t bother reading further as it’s likely to be utter nonsense).
Entitled, privileged, narcissistic, on the spectrum, and all the repetitive swear words addressed at some OP’s or PP’s partner/son/brother/any male relative/acquaintance.
And The Unreasoable questions are sometimes not actual questions, more like the Moaning Corner?!
I missed ‘cool wife’, what does that even mean?

It's the same shite on repeat with the users thinking they are the first to use it.

Massive overuse of the word rude too.

turns out a lot people are using the term incorrectly (e.i. to insult anyone who isn’t nice enough to them).

Or who recently chucked them.

“My narc ex who... I didn’t know he was a narc but now he definitely is because...”

He might be an arsehole. He might be perfectly normal and you were the nightmare.

It’s used as a shorthand that means you’re not allowed to question anything OP says.

Similar to “but I have anxiety”. You take your life in your hands questioning anything anyone who starts their thread with that says. Carte blanche.

"I suffer from anxiety" is the one I see on nearly every thread. I mean - everyone gets stressed now and then or worried in unfamiliar surroundings. But instead of being called worry or stress - it's now "suffering from anxiety".

I am the most stressy person I know, constant butterflies in my tummy, confrontation makes me feel sick. But I never describe myself as "suffering from anxiety", it's just normal human emotions.

I am the most stressy person I know, constant butterflies in my tummy, confrontation makes me feel sick. But I never describe myself as "suffering from anxiety", it's just normal human emotions.

Constant butterflies in your stomach is NOT normal human emotions and sounds exactly like anxiety!

Similar to “but I have anxiety”. You take your life in your hands questioning anything anyone who starts their thread with that says. Carte blanche.

Absolutely agree. My closest friend really does suffer from terrible anxiety and it's a nightmare. It has real physical reactions for her and I've seen the state it can leave her in, so it really pisses me off when someone drops into a thread (normally when it's not going their way) that they suffer from anxiety when they're talking about someone looking at them funny in a café.
Many people genuinely suffer from anxiety but if MN were a true reflection then fuck all would ever get done in this country. There's far too much self diagnosis on these boards as it is.

I noticed a while back that “are you on glue?” appears to be out of vogue on MN at the moment.

Along with all the “anxiety” sufferers, there are also the “OCD” sufferers (i.e. they’re tidy, and clean the toilet every day). This infuriates me as my DD has genuine, psychiatrist diagnosed OCD to the extent that it is a disability. And she’s a messy monkey.

Oh and the emetophobes. Had never heard of it before MN. There are loads of them. Everyone’s stomach is turned by vomit, but there are whole threadfuls of people with emetophobia here.

Yes, I know some may be genuine.

A&E. Now.

I loathe when people who like things clean and organised say they have OCD. It trivialises such a complex disorder.

@NiLunNiLautre YES! Honestly if MN is anything to go by about 5% of the population have neither OCD, anxiety or bloody emetophobia. I have never met a RL emetophobe. Apparently it's not enough to just dislike vomit anymore!

anneloves I don't usually fall out with people but did fall out with a friend a while ago. I was convinced she was a narc - all the signs, red flags agogo! Then after a bit it dawned on me that we'd just been getting on each other's nerves for a while and were better off not bothering.

LaMarschallin
Cool wives are those who can accept that their husband wasn’t a virgin when they met.

I hate the phrase 'wind your neck in', it seems to be everywhere. Seems so rude!

Also enabling. Everyone is enabling everyone else's bad behaviour!!

Good post OP! Love a good rant. Also got to get my ducks in a row now so I can get some sleep.

'Think eye, nose, mouth etc' 'Think golf, football etc'

Just specify FFS. It's in no way identifiable.