Fun touches to your wedding

[StrongInside]

Hi,

I’m only starting to plan our wedding. Kind of have an idea in mind- everyone wearing sunset colour scheme, lemon and orange slices in water in vases for table decoration among some bright flowers

Let’s share some ideas for quirky, pretty and/or fun ideas to make a wedding setting ‘pop’. Having our day in Scotland so it can rain and be bleak, want something Pinterest-worthy to make the wedding colourful and interesting, without spending too much.

As an example, I made artificial flower corsages using online supplies for a relative and all her female guests (very small wedding, no bridesmaids) as keepsakes from the day. That was their wedding favour instead of getting something noone needs like a mini alcohol bottle or a sweetie.

Thanks!

Op I've totally warmed to you over this thread. I think you're going to have a great wedding and I sincerely hope you have the best day ever ❤️

Graphista, I am going to go with what I plan whether you like it or not. You spent so much time writing your responses, sorry to say they aren’t going to affect my plans.

None of this small group of our nearest and dearest have such a complexion that none of the colours I suggested look horrible on them. What’s it got to do with weight if they wear a scarf🤷🏻‍♀️

Neither my parents, nor the in-laws or our best friends will be peeved at opening their wardrobe and getting one of their tops, dresses, scarves, bags etc. I never, not once, said I expected anyone to buy something new. Each of these people has something colourful, we do hang out with them, you know. NONE of them will decline the invite/ refuse to wear something in one or more of those colours or fall out with us. That’s just stupid if any family does that. These are our parents, siblings, their kids and a couple of best friends. Maybe not every family is like ours, who knows.

I don’t know about our friends, but our parents will certainly want a keepsake from our big day. It’s our business what we spend money on, why waste your breath on it. Maybe we’ll go with something edible, maybe not.

Food and entertainment haven’t been sorted because I am waiting to hear back from a few venues. Would be pretty stupid to sort out catering and entertainment before I know where and when the wedding will take place. Drinks will just be bought at a supermarket nearer the time. Obviously, not all will be fizzy.

No bridal party because it’s a small group.

I was speaking about a hypothetical wedding where someone refused yo attend. In my mind, that could only ever happen with a very distant relative or a person I don’t know well. So yeah, if they refused to come, I would still have my nearest and dearest there who matter the most.

Buzznbells, yes, definitely! Nom nom😊

Kayjay2018, I’ll PM you to find out more about your wedding and to answer your questions. Didn’t want you to think I’ve not read your posts. I’m just hoping for this thread to die already, I got a good bunch of ideas to keep me going.

Dowser, sounds beautiful! Bunting is on my list now.

PamelaTodd, that is actually so simple yet effective- prosecco and juices without a complicated array of ten different bottles of alcohol. I’m leaning towards this now (and some beer for some of our men).
Pom poms are so easy to make, a friend had them hanging at her wedding. Thank you for being nice and helpful! You have expressed your doubts about the dress code with such maturity. How would you make your guests feel welcome and relaxed if this was your wedding?

Our family and best friends happen not to be into ‘booze and sweets’. Those that drink have specific preferences, and what’s a tiny bottle of their favourite gin/rum/wine going to do? They can have a big one at home if they want to. Not the point of my thread anyway.

TheNavigator, that sounded original for sure. Everyone in our group drinks tea. My best friend and I have also had those unfolding flower teas where a ball of infused green tea leaves opens up slowly into a gorgeous flower while you drink. Not going to be everyone’s cup of tea (ha😬) but just reminiscing.

Mehmehmeh19, thanks! Gave me food for thought there.

I do not understand sweet carts at weddings. When I have spent the day eating and drinking lovely stuff (as I expect to do at a wedding ) the absolute last thing I would want to do is go and start gorging on sweets. Same for ice cream vans/carts.

Boosterrooster, I am leaning towards a drinks table rather than sweets simply because at least half of our group don’t have a sweet tooth. But so many pretty ideas out there, eh! Thank you, will do😊

Enbu, you are so kind, thanks very much!

Fingers crossed everyone has said what they had to say and we can all get on with looking after our kids, doing the laundry and whatever else we all do when we aren’t passionately arguing over outfits, Costco cakes and Pinterest😊

We're having a bright butterfly themed wedding - turquoise, coral, orange, yellow, green and hot pink. I designed the invites in these colours. My bouquet is going to be bright and all bouquets/buttonholes/corsages will be tied with bright ribbon. I have bought some apple crates to paint white and then stencil bright butterflies on, for things like confetti or gifts. Our centre pieces are unusual gin bottles with fairy lights inside. My dress is going to be embroidered with bright butterflies. The cake will also follow this theme. The evening venue will be decorated with bright coloured faux flowers. My bridesmaids are in turquoise dresses.
There are lots of ways to incorporate as much colour as you want. We're doing all our own decorations and will customise as much as possible.

I had a tweed/country wedding. Guests were asked not to wear suits (only the grooms mens did) but smart causal, chinos/shirt.

For our entertainment we had a game of rounders, that everyone apart from the very old took part, the kids ran for everyone. We had space hopper races, cricket, badminton, then some fun fair games as well. We put on the invites that if people wished to get changed after the breakfast, they were more then able to, we said that we were having games, it was quite funny to see who things seriously then with bringing shorts and tee shirts. The kids could get mucky then too.

We had Lego men for our favours and the kids had their own room so they could make much noise as they wanted.

We held it in a big country house, one that's more used to the formal type of weddings, but they had a massive lawn/field so it worked for us. We didn't have a evening do, we had the wedding at 12, then set a home time of 7. It worked really well, it was like a big garden party and very kid focused as we have a lot of them in the family

I did go to one wedding that had a cake competition so no formal wedding cake and guests if they chose to could enter a cake.

I've never seen so much cake, and many different types to from the more formal ones from the great aunt Betty types to really Morden ones from friends

Also I did a dessert table and a glitter bar which went down a STORM!!

"What’s it got to do with weight if they wear a scarf" people who are self conscious about their bodies (and that includes people who are so due to weight issues) can feel uncomfortable in bright colours as they can exaggerate body shape. I'm overweight, my dd struggles to maintain a healthy weight is very very slim, neither of us like wearing bright colours, I dot know many people who do.

"why waste your breath on it." SO FUCKING RUDE!

you asked for opinions and ideas - which many of us HAVE taken the time and effort to give you (which includes the benefit of our experience) politely DESPITE your repeated and continued rude, sneery, self obsessed, entitled, ungrateful and downright obnoxious attitude. (Why am I not surprised it's a small wedding!)

So yes I'm happy to leave you to it.

Seriously Wtaf!!

Oh and I think your wedding sounds personal to you and your loved ones, it sounds perfect!!

What exactly sounds perfect!!, given that op is on here looking for suggestions and being horrifically rude about most of them?

The thing with a dress code is that it assumes everyone is buying something new to wear. I have a 'best dress' that goes to weddings and job interviews and funerals, only varying the jacket. I can't afford to buy new each time...

Delilahbucket, what a beautiful-sounding wedding! Hope it goes exactly as you plan.

Countrysidelife, I think that’s what we’ll need to do, have games outside and several cakes, although maybe not baked by our guests because I don’t think many of them bake. Cool idea though.

Startalovetrain, what’s a glitter bar? Do you mean edible glitter? Thank you, nice to hear😊

Graphista, you weren’t particularly nice to me either. You imposed your opinions on me without me ever wanting to hear them, picked apart my ideas and just kept going on and on about everything I have said. It will literally do nothing to change my mind, so why waste your time.

I asked for advice on one thing- fun and pretty decor ideas, and only a handful of responses gave me that advice. I have thanked everyone who has helped. The rest, yourself included, have criticised me and poured negativity over the whole thread. I never asked you to give me the A-to-Z of wedding planning, experience-based or otherwise, you chose to do it. You gave me all these possible ‘what could go wrong’ scenarios and criticised everything I said. It had absolutely nothing to do with my original question. Would be grateful if you could refrain from further comments here, there is really nothing further to say to each other.

HeadintheiClouds, give me one example of me being horrifically rude about a suggestion that was in response to my direct question? One. What’s rude is telling someone their wedding plan is ‘beyond awful’ when: a) These are their personal wishes and thoughts which mean something special to them, and b) when opinion or judgement weren’t asked for with regards to the theme/dress code.

Any kind of ‘theme’ to a wedding is naff, pretentious and downright cringeworthy!

Saying that though, if I was invited I would come dressed as Tony the Tiger as he’s orange just like a sunset.

I don’t care about being rude, I’m blunt and say what I feel.

I'm actually wondering if some posters have actually read the OP posts? The OP did NOT ask for opinions on her colour scheme or asking her family and best friends to wear a splash of colour from this scheme. She asked for ideas on how to make her wedding setting look pretty and fun. Instead she received sneering posts belittling HER ideas for HER wedding, rude responses saying how they'd decline an invitation if invited and how they hated her choice of colours and despite repeatedly explaining that she wants ideas for her wedding SETTING posters have continued to bang on about her sunset theme. Posters have been extremely rude about her choices and yet they are calling her obnoxious?! Why do some people think they know what HER family and best friends will feel about wearing an item from her colour scheme better than she does?
I'm overweight but if one of my sisters or best friends asked me to wear shoes or a bag from a choice of colours then I would, happily, because it's their day not mine and besides everyone else is going to be wearing these splashes of colour too so I'm not going to stand out anymore than my fat arse usually does!
Seriously this is her (and her grooms) special day shouldn't she be allowed to ask the people closest to her to wear sunset colours, knowing they won't be offended, inconvenienced or out of pocket as she knows them so well? Blimey I've worn some terrible colours as a bridesmaid but it never occurred to me to refuse to wear it because it was THEIR wedding day not mine. While some of you whinge about her being selfish and a bridezilla maybe you should look a little deeper at yourselves, apparently refusing an invite to a loved ones wedding because you won't wear a scarf or shoes in a choice of 5 or 6 colours?

SheilaHammond, I couldn’t afford that either. I would never expect anyone to do that. My theme is specific to my invited guests because I know they each have something that will fit the theme (I have seen them wear it). That’s all. Otherwise I wouldn’t be asking them.

Sorry StrongInside, I didn't see your last message before I posted and have pretty much repeated what you've said!
Great minds think alike!! 😆

Soola, I didn’t find you rude. Frank you are, but that’s fine with me. And that would raise a good laugh if you dressed like that😊

Thank you, Buzznbells.

Haven't rttf, but think a fire pit was mentioned earlier? If so, get some of these for extra colour

www.amazon.co.uk/Mystical-Fire-Set-10-Sachets/dp/B001PNY8J0

Favourite fun thing I have seen at a wedding was where each table was given a bag with glow sticks, connectors, novelty shades etc after the reception meal, just before the disco. I left a fairly sedate dining room to go say goodnight to toddler DS in the gap between meal and first dance, and returned to the same room 10 mins later to find lights dimmed and it looking like party central!

Ignore me ^ I’m just a curmudgeonly old snob.

I’m old fashioned and need to lighten up more.

I hope you have a lovely day.

People don’t remember anything so clearly as how you make them feel

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TitilatedOcelot, never seen these before, will need to get them if we are allowed to have s firepit/chimenea on site!

Buzznbells, PMed you earlier. You always manage to lay your thoughts on this topic out better than I do😊 I can’t see many responding to you because I don’t think there is much they can say against your points😉

Thank you Soola! We are all different and that’s only natural. You are entitled to your opinion. Anything from the weddings you have been to that you particularly enjoyed in terms of activities, decor, favours etc.?

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