Fun touches to your wedding

[StrongInside]

Hi,

I’m only starting to plan our wedding. Kind of have an idea in mind- everyone wearing sunset colour scheme, lemon and orange slices in water in vases for table decoration among some bright flowers

Let’s share some ideas for quirky, pretty and/or fun ideas to make a wedding setting ‘pop’. Having our day in Scotland so it can rain and be bleak, want something Pinterest-worthy to make the wedding colourful and interesting, without spending too much.

As an example, I made artificial flower corsages using online supplies for a relative and all her female guests (very small wedding, no bridesmaids) as keepsakes from the day. That was their wedding favour instead of getting something noone needs like a mini alcohol bottle or a sweetie.

Thanks!

Good lord, some people need to get a life! Lengthy angsty posts on why your wedding choices are awful when you haven't even asked for their opinion.

OP I couldn't get past the first couple of pages of sneery posts so apologies if drinks are sorted but what about some layered cocktails as welcome or signature drinks? Tequila sunrise would look fab with your colour scheme.

A fun thing at a wedding I recently went to was baskets in the bathrooms full of useful things, the girls basket had plasters, nail files and nail polish, breath mints, deodorant, hand lotion,spare tights, foot pads that you put in your shoes to make your feet stop aching, bottles of water, slipper socks and sleeping masks. The boys basket had similar elements but included condoms and schnapps (the sinks were in a corridor between the two bathrooms and all the guests were drinking the schnapps on their bathroom breaks
We also had disposable camera on the tables that turned up some fantastic non posed shots.

I think people got their backs up a bit because the OP was actually quite rude about other people's weddings from the start.

Oh and because she used the word 'quirky'

I do really hope that I don't know you in RL and will be invited to this wedding....do you want a Wedding OP or a Marriage?! They're two very different things!

I've messaged you OP.

I haven't read the whole thread, so don't know if you been persuaded to abandon the asking guest to wear sunset colours?

If you haven't please be aware that a large percentage of you guests will ignore that request and will turn up in whatever they would normally wear to a wedding.

Are you going to not allow them to be in the photographs? Or seat them in a different area so it doesn't mess up your scheme?

Cocktails as an arrival drink are a really good idea. I bloody hate champagne on an empty stomach.

Graphista you're being rude yourself here.

Fair play stronginside, I think you've been pretty gracious and at least returned to engage rather than taking your ball and going home like a lot of people do when majority opinion goes against them.

I do love it when people get married, as I said upthread I just don't particularly like "weddings", especially ones where everything is controlled and it feels a bit contrived so the focus isn't on celebrating the marriage, but on dress codes etc and getting exactly the right photos. I also think people set themselves up for disappointment when things inevitably don't go 100% to plan.

I genuinely think you may enjoy yourself more if it's a bit more relaxed and you see it as a celebratory meal/party than a Pinterest style wedding? I do hope you have fun whatever you choose though. We all have different tastes after all.

(DH and I would love to do an Elvis re run in Vegas for our 20th, which I know lots and lots of people here would shudder at, but we love tasteless kitsch and regret that pregnancy prevented up eloping to do this originally the key thing is not to make people come with us and insist on everyone donning Elvis wigs for the photos )

Although to be fair, I know my friends would probably love to wear Elvis wigs, just like OP knows her friends would like cocktails and games.

Oh god brides who dictate to family are bad enough but don't dictate to your guests as well!
What you gonna do if someone turns up in Navy - kick them out?

At a friends winter wedding we all lined up with sparklers after the ceremony rather than confetti. We were then led from the ceremony venue to the reception venue by a bagpipe player.

Another friend turned their bride and groom speech into a bit of a quiz and gave out bottles of limoncello to winners.

Littleblurry, I think half the people checked out after the first couple of pages, can’t blame you. Yes, a drinks table to mix colourful drinks will be a fun thing to have, thanks.

Xiona75, laughing at the condoms bit, what sort of wedding was this😃 Thoughtful bride and groom, those baskets must have come in handy.

Propertyofhood, that’s not accurate, read back through the first page. Everyone piled in to tell me how they wouldn’t attend such a wedding, how awful my theme was. Now that was rude, but clearly we won’t agree on this part.

B00kworm86, the very fact that you are asking me that proves we definitely don’t know each other in real life. Just because I want something that isn’t plain doesn’t mean that’s all I’m looking forward to.

Swissmilk, no, haven’t been persuaded a single bit. If this was a dilemma for me or I had any shadow of a doubt about my ideas, I would have posted in AIBU😊 I was just looking for fun and pretty ways to make my wedding day more interesting. Given that it’s only our parents, siblings and a couple of best friends, who we know very well, I know for a fact that they will all be happy with wearing something colourful. They do that anyway, whether on holiday, to work or when we catch up.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles, thank you! Most people focused on their preferences rather than respecting mine and the vast majority who gave their personal and/or professional opinions here didn’t take into account how close we are with our guests and how well we know them. Neither my Mum nor best friend nor the rest of our small wedding party will roll their eyes, refuse to wear something colourful or decline their invite. That might have happened at a bigger wedding with guests we hardly know, sure, but our situation is completely different. Hope you make your Vegas dream a reality!😊

Kidsmakesomuchwashing, our family are 90% of our guests. Wouldn’t do it if I knew any of them preferred all grey or black. All of them have something bright at home and I will have some pashminas anyway to keep them warm.

BriocheBriocheBrioche, like the sparklers idea. My partner and I don’t like wedding speeches so I guess a quiz is a fun alternative. Thanks!

My theme is specific to my invited guests because I know they each have something that will fit the theme (I have seen them wear it). That’s all. Otherwise I wouldn’t be asking them.

Bollocks. Earlier on you were saying they could buy a bag or a scarf from Primark. you've just made this up really late on in the thread.

Actually OP stated on page 3
I know for a fact that none of the invited have a bland black and grey wardrobe, so no concerns there.
Implying that if their clothes aren't bland then they are most probably colourful so
not really bollocks she made up really late in the thread?!

I'm not sure how small you mean by small, so this might not work depending on table size...

I was thinking that rather than oranges/lemons you could have jars of lemon curd, marmalade, quince jelly etc. (basically any jams/jellies/chutneys) that fit your colour scheme. Less risk of water going everywhere/glass breaking and people could take them home if they wanted.

Or, rather than using them as a centrepiece you could have them as names/favours.

You could probably get wedding labels to stick on them.

A collection of jam jars as table centrepieces? I shouldn’t laugh...

I mean, I'd personally have flowers.

But I've seen a tall vase with single sunflower get knocked over and smash (I also hated looking at the calyx, no petals the whole time). I've also seen people with just one spirit bottle, and thought that at least preserves taste nice. And they can be lovely colours.

And I did mean "Pinterest-friendly"ones, not jars of Branston's. :p

Ah, sorry. It just conjured up a pretty funny picture, but I take your point.

That's ok, I've just imagined a tower of Robertson's jars and it made me smile too!

I'll have a think OP about other fun stuff I've seen or heard about.

I'm struggling a bit with the colour scheme though — I think of sunsets as being pretty, but muted colours, rather than bright? Am I going in the wrong direction with that thought?

Fun touches for a wedding:

Make sure everyone has enough to eat and enough to drink.

Scrap the speeches - honestly, no one cares. A quick "Thank you for coming" from you or your new husband will suffice.

No one will care about chair sashes, table runners, favours, candelabras, giant LOVE letters, lights up dance floors etc. Honestly, don't waste the money or the adrenaline worrying about it. If you must have the perfect photos of yourselves with the props then get a photo shoot done at a later date. Weddings are stressful and expensive enough without adding to it. A happy, relaxed bride makes for a fun wedding.

Gerbera daisies come in all colours under the sun and you can buy them in bulk. I wanted a bright wedding so I collected up jam jars, filled them with water beads, added little battery powered waterproof lights and popped daisies in.

Remember to work with the realistic budget you have. Scrapping on food to make a "Pinterest worthy" wedding will not make for a fun time.

I don’t know about colour schemes or ideas but bloody hell do I want cake now.

CollaterlyS1sters, my point was in response to people speaking about large expenses I am putting onto my guests, especially if these guests don’t like any of the proposed colours and will never wear the new outfit again. I know everyone who is invited does wear some colours, but IF they wanted to get something new it wouldn’t cost them as much as people were making it out to be, because they could just accessorise with a bit of colour.

Have you seen those colored smoke bombs?

They look great in photos.

Scrap the speeches - honestly, no one cares

I love the speeches!

Buzznbells, 😙 Yeah, that’s exactly what I meant when I mentioned their existing clothes.

PolkadotsAndMoonbeams, that’s an interesting idea, very practical if guests could take these home. Will have a look into what flavours and colours would work. We will have around 20 guests, I think, including children. Thank you for actually answering my question, it’s rare on this thread👍
Re: sunsets, I was probably thinking a tropical sunset, although we do get pretty colours in Scotland too. Purple, darker blue would fit in nicely, it doesn’t all have to be red and orange.

LadyFlumpalot, I agree about the speeches. I am not even sure we are having a first dance in front of everyone.

RJnomore1, you and me both😬Just don’t tell people here where you get yours from.