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Would you charge a family member for a rasher of bacon?

155 replies

heatherblue · 29/07/2019 23:57

Our adult son lives a few minutes drive away. He messaged me today asking if we had a spare slice of bacon, he needed one for the recipe he was planning for tonight and wouldn't have time to shop after work. Sure, I said, I'll swing by and leave it in your fridge. Told DH where I was going and he said "Is he paying for it?" and he wasn't kidding! Gobsmacked.

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SinkGirl · 30/07/2019 08:31

Christ on a bike.

Under no circumstances would I ever ask someone to bring a piece of bacon to my home and leave it in the fridge!

Dowser · 30/07/2019 08:32

I gave my son a whole year yesterday. He was convinced he was going to be 39 at he weekend.
When I told him he was only going to be 38, the gratitude on his face was heartwarming.
He was posively beaming and punching the air.
Why wouldn’t I be generous.
It was only a year but it meant so much to him 😁
It’s so much nicer to give than receive 😂😂😂

Iwantacookie · 30/07/2019 08:32

Ide take him the whole pack.
Poor lad sounds like he doesn't ask for alot.
Ide take my son's a pack of bacon.

Iwantacookie · 30/07/2019 08:32

I wouldn't charge either.

NoLeopard · 30/07/2019 08:33

If my adult son asked for one rasher of bacon to be delivered the following evening then I might take a moment to wonder whether I'd overdone the mothering bit somewhere along the way! Although if he was halfway through cooking and then realised, I might have sent dp round with it. I'm not completely heartless Wink

Bobbybobbins · 30/07/2019 08:34

I totally misread the title as 'Would you CHANGE your family member for a slice of bacon?' I thought wow they must really like bacon 😂

haloumi · 30/07/2019 08:34

I'd give my son MY OWN kidney if he asked for it.

A slice of bacon seams a bit tight! ;-)

TwistyTop · 30/07/2019 08:39

I think your son and your DH are both being ridiculous

LadyInParis · 30/07/2019 08:41

Oh my God, if this is how families are in general, then I'm not unusual for having a fucked up family. She gave birth to him, he's her child grown or not and if she wants to take him something then what is wrong with that?! As she said he doesn't do it regularly!! Jesus.

My grandad once refused to pick me up to take me to my mum's grave for her birthday, and also wouldn't wait for me to walk to him as he was leaving whether I was there or not. The grave was very far away that I couldn't physically walk there and I never asked him for favours really either.

That's the extreme I know, but this is a massive fuss over nothing, if she is happy to do it, and he doesn't take the piss with favours, both of which appears to be the case. People going on about her taking her son a bit of food is a bit much no? Going on as if he's asked for the moon! Aren't we supposed to love our children and help them, and vice versa? Your husband is a knob

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2019 08:42

Odd, isn’t it? I’m sure people would have responded differently if it had been a packet of bacon!

LadyInParis · 30/07/2019 08:45

Odd indeed. By the way I'm not saying op has a fucked up family, I mean that by the sounds of some posters, their idea of family is so messed up. For example @Ullupullu post. Feel sorry for your kids, you sound like cruella deville, jesus!

Rockbird · 30/07/2019 08:47

I would absolutely take the bacon, and ask if there was anything else needed while I was at it. They're my kids. I do the same for my parents and they are there for me. It's called family.

gingersausage · 30/07/2019 08:48

@SabineSchmetterling that’s what got me too. It’s not the bacon or the doing favours, it’s the getting the bloody car out to drive one single sodding slice of bacon over to someone’s house instead of just saying “don’t be daft, make something else”.

I do way too much for my adult children (according to the MN collective) and yet I think this is just ridiculous. I would happily get a supermarket shop delivered to them if they were skint, or have them over for tea, or let them raid my cupboards if they needed something for a recipe but I would draw the line at delivering a single item in the car.

LadyInParis · 30/07/2019 08:49

@BertrandRussell Im so shocked at people lecturing you about driving your son to the station 😂🤔 how bloody odd! Is this the parenting style now? He's a big boy now, so he can piss off and never ask me, his mother, for anything ever again? I hope that these kids stick those posters with this attitude in horrible homes when they are old and leave them to it too. They are adults too no?

NoLeopard · 30/07/2019 08:53

Completely agree gingersausage

LadyInParis · 30/07/2019 08:54

@gingersausage Why? Genuinely curious as to why you wouldn't? If you had to take a car full of things, or one tiny item, it is still talking the car out right? I don't understand this? So as an example, i presume you would take for example a car full of belongings or something, if say he was moving and needed the help, but one piece of food and it's a no? I mean where would you draw the line? If he needed a full shop and was sick for example, would you take say two bags of food? One? But one piece of bacon and it's a no?

sansou · 30/07/2019 08:56

Chinese garlic stems = pak choi? A single slice of bacon won’t be necessary for stir fried garlic greens - better without it imo.

c75kp0r · 30/07/2019 09:00

Would work ig you took 3 rashers round and he makes enough for you and dh as well...

Soola · 30/07/2019 09:00

My favourite Bacon video

BlamesFartsOnTheNeighbour · 30/07/2019 09:01

Well my son is only five so it's academic at this point but if he was sick and had nothing in, of course I'd take him some food. If he could cook something else, no way I'd take him a single piece of bacon. I try to live by green principles and not make wasteful car journeys.

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2019 09:02

“@BertrandRussell Im so shocked at people lecturing you about driving your son to the station”
To be fair, I don’t think anyone did lecture me!

llangennith · 30/07/2019 09:03

Hmmmm. I misread the title as ‘would you CHANGE a family member for a rasher of bacon’.

Me too!😂

Guardianangelwhereareyou · 30/07/2019 09:05

I think your son may have inherited his Dads‘ careful’ gene .im all on for doing favours esp for my
Family but this is ridiculous.

listsandbudgets · 30/07/2019 09:08

I wouldn't charge my DCs or even my neighbours for a rasher of bacon ( Not that there's much risk of them asking since they're strict Muslims)

Sounds like there's something deeper at play here than bacon OP. Is he constantly making requests like this. It may be your DH was trying to make a point. Your ds is an adult he needs to be able to bring home his own bacon

LadyInParis · 30/07/2019 09:10

@BertrandRussell You're right, sorry ! I think someone just asked about why you would do that and you said why wouldn't I. Or something. I think I need to find another thread, my hormones are a bit mental at the moment! Grin

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