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Would you charge a family member for a rasher of bacon?

155 replies

heatherblue · 29/07/2019 23:57

Our adult son lives a few minutes drive away. He messaged me today asking if we had a spare slice of bacon, he needed one for the recipe he was planning for tonight and wouldn't have time to shop after work. Sure, I said, I'll swing by and leave it in your fridge. Told DH where I was going and he said "Is he paying for it?" and he wasn't kidding! Gobsmacked.

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Dieu · 30/07/2019 00:57

My mum wouldn't do this in a million years, but then she's not massively obliging. I do think it's a bit much for a grown adult to ask this though.

IamtheOA · 30/07/2019 00:59

I totally would do that for my children ( on account of the love) ...for free

bwydda · 30/07/2019 01:01

Of course not! I also don't agree with ops that it's unusual to ask. Before I go shopping or abandon a recipe, I'd ask my mam/dad and indeed they me. We live close so it's easier?

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 30/07/2019 01:09

Must admit I'm more gob-smacked about you taking it round than I am about your husband asking if son was paying for it.

Gingerkittykat · 30/07/2019 01:09

How far do you have to travel to deliver a single rasher of bacon?

I would be getting DS to improvise with what he has got in the fridge already.

Thegreymethod · 30/07/2019 01:16

@HeddaGarbled how can you make that assumption when you don't know nothing about him?! What an odd reply

Thegreymethod · 30/07/2019 01:20

Only on Mumsnet do people begrudge doing the tiniest favours for their children!! OP said he lives a few minutes away he hasn't asked her to travel the country!! Get a grip those saying they'd give him the bacon but not deliver it Confused

PyongyangKipperbang · 30/07/2019 02:09

My parents and I often ring each other with a "I dont suppose you've got a couple of carrots/an onion?" type request, I'm mid 40's and they are late 60's. A slice of bacon probably wouldnt be available in either fridge but the request wouldnt cause any issues. We dont pay each other as it all evens out.

Your issue here is that your husband is as tight as a gnats arse.

SadOtter · 30/07/2019 03:25

Assuming he isn't making these requests regularly no. If it was every other night I might ask if he was paying for it in a jokey, sort yourself out kind of way. I wouldn't ask my parents because its an hour round trip but I remember walking to Grandmas to pick up an onion or whatever as a kid or to drop bits to her, and when mum and I go shopping together we often split bits, like I wont use a whole bag of spinach, she won't use a whole pack of goats cheese, it works out somewhere along the line, its just what families do isn't it?

isabellerossignol · 30/07/2019 04:05

I think if you only need a tiny amount of something it makes perfect sense to ask someone else if they have it. My sister and I live close to each other and often share things. Aren't we always being encouraged to cut down on food waste? I don't think it makes us entitled arseholes.

I don't think I would begrudge my offspring a favour like that as long as it wasn't a regular occurrence.

Shoxfordian · 30/07/2019 05:45

Is your dh always so tight? Sounds ridiculous

MaybeitsMaybelline · 30/07/2019 05:51

Ridiculous, I wouldn’t think twice if my mum called in the middle cooking and asked if I had an onion.

Bookworm4 · 30/07/2019 05:54

Can we have more examples of your DHs meaness?

floribunda18 · 30/07/2019 05:56

I read the thread title as change your relative for a rasher of bacon. Not for one rasher, but DH for an entire pack of streaky bacon might be tempting.

IceniSky · 30/07/2019 05:58

I wouldn't mind, but my DSIS use to go 'shopping' at my parents 😄. They sorted it out after several instances.

marcopront · 30/07/2019 06:00

I read the thread title as change your relative for a rasher of bacon. Not for one rasher, but DH for an entire pack of streaky bacon might be tempting.

I was expecting a ltb type question about someone eating your bacon.

KatherineJaneway · 30/07/2019 06:29

No real backstory other than DH historically being "careful" with money

It's called tight.

cantfindname · 30/07/2019 07:07

I was once in my neighbours house when her husband walked in after work. She immediately rounded on him " Have you had a tin of baked beans out of my cupboard?" "Yes," he answered "I had them on toast for lunch" She then proceeded to tell him he owed her 27p for the beans and as I left she was trying to calculate the price of a slice of bread!!

She was a truly lovely lady in so many other ways but god was she ever tight.

MrsMozartMkII · 30/07/2019 07:10

I'd deliver to son. And I'd laugh at anyone who suggested charging.

What's family for if not to help out on the odd occasion.

Pipandmum · 30/07/2019 07:14

I was going to say he could come get it but then you explained he didn’t drive (you should have said that in the first place)!
So of course I’d give my child bacon, of course I wouldn’t charge for it, and under the circumstances I would deliver it.

SimplySteveRedux · 30/07/2019 07:32

Depends on the size of the rasher. Sun got to your hubby?

hadthesnip2 · 30/07/2019 07:32

Convenient that you had some bacon spare.....or did you go out & buy him some and then deliver it to him.

No problem doing favours for family members but there comes a point where the recipient would say..."darn it, I've run out of bacon. Just have to make do or cook something else"

CherryBlu · 30/07/2019 07:35

No I wouldn't charge but I also wouldn't call my Mum and ask her to deliver one slice of bacon to my house. I would pop to a shop at some point through out my day. Lol

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 30/07/2019 07:36

I'd be wondering how son gets his shopping? It's not the bacon rasher as such, just that if he doesn't drive and buses are difficult to get to you, OP, is it tricky for him to get to shops on his work route too?

Or does he online shop for food? These questions would be in my head.

If your husband is fond of low-level twattishness then I wouldn't even bother answering him when he displays that. He might stop without an audience.

SabineSchmetterling · 30/07/2019 07:36

Your DH would be utterly mad to charge him for 1 rasher of bacon but I am Shock at the environmental impact if you are driving there and back for the sake of 1 rasher. When I read your OP I thought it was fine but assumed the son lived a few minutes walk away. Your update about buses and son not driving make me think it’s further though. How far are we talking?
Perhaps your DH means is he paying for the fuel rather than the bacon?