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Would you charge a family member for a rasher of bacon?

155 replies

heatherblue · 29/07/2019 23:57

Our adult son lives a few minutes drive away. He messaged me today asking if we had a spare slice of bacon, he needed one for the recipe he was planning for tonight and wouldn't have time to shop after work. Sure, I said, I'll swing by and leave it in your fridge. Told DH where I was going and he said "Is he paying for it?" and he wasn't kidding! Gobsmacked.

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BertrandRussell · 30/07/2019 07:39

I have never, I think, met anyone in real life who regards doing favours for people they way most mumsnetters seem to. It’s very odd.

SabineSchmetterling · 30/07/2019 07:41

I’ve re-read you OP and saw it’s just a few minutes drive. I think that’s less mad. Not sure why you or your son wouldn’t just walk that distance though. Why would he need a bus?

ptumbi · 30/07/2019 07:41

I quite often use a single rasher just for flavour in (for eg) a Ratatouille, or a bean casserole etc- to serve 5! (actually I'd chuck in however many rashers I'd had left over; 1, 2, the whole pack) Always smoked bacon though.

And of course I'd take my son some bacon. Even one rasher.

I was once over at a friend's for a takeaway night and her husband charged their dd for a slice of Pizza! He calculated the cost of a single slice. She was about 17. I was Shock

soulrider · 30/07/2019 07:47

Driving an unwalkable distance to deliver a single slice of bacon is slightly ridiculous. I'm presuming it's not easily walkable otherwise son could come pick up bacon himself

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2019 07:48

I’m about to take my ds to the station. It’s 5 minutes drive. Maybe i’ll just tell him to walk.

carbuncleonapigsposterior · 30/07/2019 07:54

It's ridiculous to ask for payment for a rasher of bacon, unless absolutely skint, ask husband just what he would do with the 20 to 30 pence charge, what significant difference would a small amount of money make to his life and balance that against son being pissed off at such a mean spirited request.

Equally ridiculous request by your son, asking for said rasher to be delivered

Loveislandaddict · 30/07/2019 07:55

Unless you are passing, surely it’s a bit extravagant to deliver one rasher of bacon? Surely there’s a corner shop that’s sells bacon, or a local garage?

WrongKindOfFace · 30/07/2019 07:58

I wouldn’t charge, but I also wouldn’t drive to deliver a single slice of bacon. Can he really not pop into the corner shop on his way home?

Abhann · 30/07/2019 08:01

The bit where your adult son calls you for a rasher and you solemnly drive it around to his house because he somehow can’t buy his own is the weird part of this story.

Morgan12 · 30/07/2019 08:01

MN would probably have a heart attack if I listed the stuff my mum does for me.

Wouldn't deliver the bacon 😂😂😂😂 I've no words honestly. Get a grip.

Mary1935 · 30/07/2019 08:04

Yes you’ve done your son a favour, no problem really, just ignore your husband as you obviously have been able to do for the last 20 years. If he’s a tightwad I’m sure he’s committed greater crimes.

PollyPelargonium52 · 30/07/2019 08:05

Some people are more pennypinching it seems. It is the same when some people think that others should pay for a 'phone call. Although that is a bit old fashioned these days but it comes from that era.

SabineSchmetterling · 30/07/2019 08:10

Is there any reason why he shouldn’t walk Bertrand? I live a five minute drive from a railway station and have never done that journey in a car, neither has DP and we’ve now lived here for 7 years. There is another station a two minute drive away that we use more often and, again, neither of us have ever done anything other than walk that distance.

AmateurSwami · 30/07/2019 08:11

I have never, I think, met anyone in real life who regards doing favours for people they way most mumsnetters seem to. It’s very odd.

Your husband sounds like mine. Seems to have a weird competitive relationship with our ds. He’d definitely say the charge for bacon thing and not be joking.

AmateurSwami · 30/07/2019 08:12

Meant to say I wholeheartedly agree with the part I bolder 🙈

Soola · 30/07/2019 08:12

Of course I would pop round with an ingredient if I was free and absolutely ridiculous to charge them!

thegreylady · 30/07/2019 08:13

I wouldn’t charge my dc for anything they asked me for! If I have it it’s theirs.

TheJellyBabyMadeMeDoIt · 30/07/2019 08:18

MN would probably have a heart attack if I listed the stuff my mum does for me

Same.

But then again I help her and dad and will continue to do so. It's what people do in normal, functioning, loving families.

Unless you're on Mumsnet of course.

BustedDreams · 30/07/2019 08:21

Goodness no. I wouldn’t be a delivery though either. 🤷‍♀️

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2019 08:24

“Is there any reason why he shouldn’t walk Bertrand?”

No reason at all. He often does. Or he cycles. He asked for a lift this morning. Why would I say no?

BlamesFartsOnTheNeighbour · 30/07/2019 08:24

Fucking hell no wonder the planet is going to hell in a handcart if people are driving all over the place delivering single strips of bacon. I'd tell him to save the recipe for when he had some bacon in.

Dowser · 30/07/2019 08:25

Course I’d give them bacon.
Who’s going to wipe my bum when I can no longer do it myself ? 😂😂😂

LadyInParis · 30/07/2019 08:25

@TenPastEleven Grin Me too and I don't even eat meat! Well, apparently I do now with all these pregnancy symptoms (and no pos on urine, had bloods done today to see) anyway I'd swap them all for one rasher. For the lot of them Wink

Ullupullu · 30/07/2019 08:28

I think your DH is being sarky about how much you pander to your ickle darling son. Most adults can adapt recipes or get their own ingredients. Leave him to it.

Yogagirl123 · 30/07/2019 08:30

Haha 😂 thought would’ve crossed my mind! But then I am a bit soppy over my boys and DH is even worse, no way would they be charged.