What drives you mad about MNers?

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I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

twee is a word I have only seen on MN..is it a uk thing?

No, it's an English language thing. You'll find it in the dictionary.

The double standards a few years ago I was reading a few about a Dad being a single parent and the mum had moved away and made little effort to see the kids claiming poverty and the Dad was advised to facilitate contact
as much as possible driving the kids to the mum's house and giving her money,s couple of weeks later there was a very similar thread only it was the mum who was a single parent,the Dad had moved away making little effort to see the kids claiming poverty, the reply were very different

Aah yes, the anti wedding brigade. The other day on a wedding related thread, someone told her husband that when his children (her stepchildren) get married, she won't be going to the wedding as she dislikes weddings so much.
Yes, because it's all about you, you weirdo!

I’m always surprised when posters start offering unasked for scripts of how to respond to someone the OP is having an issue with: “Text/email/tell them this”. Then other posters pile on to tweak it or back the message writer, and then harangue the OP about whether they’ve sent the unasked for message yet and if not, why not. It always feels faintly bullying.

Also, posting inspirational song lyrics. It baffles me, especially when there are lots of them. I am sure that posters mean well, but I find it oddly derailing.

The We Hate Meghan Markle club are terrifying and a bit unhinged i stay well clear of MM threads these days !

Mrsjayy there's a MM thread about her guest editing Vogue at the moment. It's not pleasant and just another thinly veiled racist thread.

Posters who don’t like being called something and cannot accept that others really don’t mind being called it and will rage and froth in irrational rage if you say it doesn’t bother you.

You can picture them having an apoplectic fit as they smash up their keyboard/device over it!

Examples being -

Referred to as a girl or girls.

Referred to as Miss not Ms.

Referred to as Mum, this one once causing a poster to go berserk at me because when they posted saying how outraged they were at being called ‘mum’ by a doctor when their child was being seen to and they were baying for his blood/his sacking etc, I commented on how it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest!

@cricketmum84

Absolutely. I saw this on a thread recently. The OP didn’t even know the antagonists and she got several “shame on you” comments for not intervening. A woman had started an argument with a group of men, the OP was just standing next to them but got shamed for not sticking up for the woman.

@cricketmum84

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3638715-Smoking-and-commenting-on-strangers-choices

It got in the daily mail. Mumsnetters criticising a woman for not intervening in what they saw as a woman being ganged up on. Mumsnetters then proceeded to gang up on the OP whilst saying that hanging up was a bad thing.

I’m gender critical and I’m not anti trans and so are many other MNers. I don’t know why you are linking the two . And I’ve never seen anyone suggesting that lesbians be excluded from women’s spaces.

As always, if you see transphobia, homophobia, disablism or misogyny you should report it. There are millions of users and hundreds of thousands of posts - MN can’t screen every single one.

• ganging up, not hanging up

People who are all 'LTB! He's abusive!' the moment a woman posts about an argument with her otherwise fine DP, when she wasn't asking about whether she should leave him. Steady on people!

‘Oh by the way - Daily Mail etc. can just FUCK OFF!’

Yeah, that’s going to stop them using your thread as a free news story 🙄

Threads getting pulled because the op says its "identifiable".No it just wasnt going your way

The unnecessary acronyms. DM, DS, etc. Just speak English.

The transphobia. This does not include the whole trans debate. But you do come across some outright bigotry on occasion.

“Namechanged” threads.

The unnecessary acronyms. DM, DS, etc. Just speak English.

Wow! You must spend 90% of your time on Mumsnet in a permanent state of annoyance

The transphobes. Especially when they're fawning all over Glinner. Blech.

This may have already been said, but I CBA to RTFT (no doubt someone has already listed that as a dislike) but it's the posts where someone comes on asking lots of advice, the thread can go on for pages, but the OP never returns to make another comment. The thread may not necessarily be flaming the OP, they just post and disappear.

Posters who say "Bless you". It's meant to sound supportive but it comes over as incredibly patronising.

I hate a Marks and Spencer's bashing thread, it's as if it's super cool to moan to do it. 99% of shops have something hideous in them but when it's M&S everyone has to jump on the band wagon. The thing is in my head the M&S bashers are probably wearing some boring outfit from Fatface or something!

People who think any concern at all about self ID is transphobia, and complain abour the FWR boards being transphobic without even stopping to think whether it is at all likely that a group of women who have campaigned tirelessly for the rights of women and children and gay people and purnup with all the flak that brings on their heads would all suddenly become hateful bigots overnight.

"Bio dad". No, it's just "dad". The correct term for the other sort is "fuckwit", or very occasionally "late".

The ones who are completely out of touch with reality. I've just been on a thread where the OP is struggling with money, still lives at home with parent and can't afford to rent on her own. Some arsehole told her 'it's cheaper to buy your own flat'...as if the deposit is just sitting waiting in the OPs bank account .

Posters who scream transphobia but who are never willing to give definitive criteria of what constitutes transphobia.

Posters who centre men's whims and wants above women and who will not accept that other women have no desire to submit and pander to men as they do.