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What drives you mad about MNers?

572 replies

omafiet · 27/07/2019 16:07

I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

OP posts:
Chochito · 28/07/2019 23:22

Moaning about wedding gifts

Moaning about "having to" attend weddings

Treating schools as childcare

MrsVanCleef · 28/07/2019 23:24

Racism

BertrandRussell · 28/07/2019 23:28

Gollywogs and the remarkable number of black posters and posters with black husbands and/or friends who love them, collect them or at the very least see no problem with them.

Patroclus · 28/07/2019 23:39

The one who think skint means 'unable to fit in an extra riding esson this week'

MsMaisel · 29/07/2019 00:14

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blacksax · 29/07/2019 00:29

His crime? He was eight minutes late to pick her up

To be fair #StillCoughingand Laughing and if it is the thread I'm thinking of, the OP had been trapped on a delayed train for about 5 hours on the hottest day in July since records began, and was feeling awful and desperate to get home, her DH knew what time she would eventually get to the station, and then couldn't be bothered to try and be there waiting for her when the train arrived. I think she was justified in being a bit pissed off.

ithinkiammelting · 29/07/2019 00:45

Posts with people who for some reason seem unable to realise that their dc is indeed a little bit broader in the beam than they need to be, and are really angry that they've been sent an official letter telling them so.

Deianira · 29/07/2019 00:51

Too many of them are super racist and get cross if you point this out or explain the issue, rather than reflecting on whether they could do better. Then you see them being super racist again on another thread. That drives me mad. And MNHQ doing very little about it drives me madder.

Mermaidoutofwater · 29/07/2019 01:26

The sheer number of women who give up paid work because ‘DH and I discussed it and that’s what works best for our family’, i.e. ‘D’H doesn’t fancy the dreary parts of parenting. As evidenced by the posts from the same women years later bemoaning their lazy, unpleasant H and lack of ability to get any kind of paid work, let alone have a career which would enable them to leave.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 29/07/2019 01:32

To be fair #StillCoughingand Laughing and if it is the thread I'm thinking of, the OP had been trapped on a delayed train for about 5 hours on the hottest day in July since records began, and was feeling awful and desperate to get home, her DH knew what time she would eventually get to the station, and then couldn't be bothered to try and be there waiting for her when the train arrived. I think she was justified in being a bit pissed off.

But that’s precisely my point - she wasn’t ‘a bit pissed off’. She said she couldn’t even bring herself to speak to him and it was going to ruin her weekend (this was on Thursday). As I said, over-dramatic.

Isatis · 29/07/2019 01:36

To be fair #StillCoughingand Laughing and if it is the thread I'm thinking of, the OP had been trapped on a delayed train for about 5 hours on the hottest day in July since records began, and was feeling awful and desperate to get home, her DH knew what time she would eventually get to the station, and then couldn't be bothered to try and be there waiting for her when the train arrived

Well, no, it was a 2.5 hour journey involving more than one train, there was no suggestion she was trapped, she didn't ask her DH to collect her, she told him to; and he was 8 minutes late because he was hoovering the car as she would have been angry if he hadn't. And, because of that 8 minutes, she was planning to be furious from Thursday to Monday.

A perfect illustration of one of the phenomena noted in this thread, i.e. the way people simply don't take in the facts of what they're responding to.

OkPedro · 29/07/2019 02:01

Nope twee is a word I have only seen on MN..is it a uk thing?
I’m far from a terf but I can’t help but laugh at pps saying there is transphobia here. Saying that it’s not possible to change sex isn’t a phobia..
Mn is a parallel universe to me..

Cosentyx · 29/07/2019 04:18

The sheer number of women who give up paid work because ‘DH and I discussed it and that’s what works best for our family’,

Even worse, most of the time it isn't even an 'H' but a 'partner'.

ArabellaDoreenFig · 29/07/2019 08:15

That anyone who doesn’t make their children follow the kind of diet recommended for a very obese diabetic inactive 60 yr old* is in fact going to make their child obese. The healthy eating advice on here is often downright dangerous.

*ie my dear dad

dustarr73 · 29/07/2019 08:30

Posters who fudge some details,and then forget and get dragged for it.

Going through a posters history so you can use it against them.

Grammar and spelling police.

The Log It with 911 people.Its their first port of call.

isabellerossignol · 29/07/2019 08:42

This is not going to make me popular at all. Buy...at this time of year I'm in a state of permanent bewilderment as to how people get so angry about the school holidays and staggered starts at primary school. In my area of the UK, the holidays are three weeks longer, kids don't do a 9 to 3 day at school until their fourth year of school, and there are no holiday clubs, breakfast clubs or after school clubs. And yet I've never heard anyone in 'real life' complain about it, it's just accepted that that's how it works.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 29/07/2019 08:42

I can’t believe I forgot this one - the posters who pipe up with ‘I live in Sweden and this isn’t an issue’, or ‘Don’t come to Greece if this bothers you OP - it’s the norm there!’, ‘This happens in the US all the time; don’t get why people are making it into a problem here’. All fascinating I’m sure - but when the OP clearly lives in the UK, beyond irrelevant.

My most hated of all on these is ‘Of course under Scottish law, XYZ...’ Do you want the OP to buy a time machine, go back to before her issue occurred and move to Inver-sodding-ness?! If the OP happens to have a time machine, perhaps it might be easier to go back and make sure whatever problem she’s facing doesn’t happen in the first place!

isabellerossignol · 29/07/2019 08:43

GrinGrin what an epic cross post

MamaLazarou · 29/07/2019 08:53

My pet hate is when people say, "Oh, here comes the so-and-so brigade", or
, "The X brigade will be along in a minute to tell you they think this is acceptable". It's just such a lazy and boorish way to dismiss the opinions of people who don't agree with you.

BenWillbondsPants · 29/07/2019 09:00

@MamaLazarou totally agree. I always think when I see that that the poster just isn't capable of having a reasonable debate about the subject. I always ignore a thread after I see that.

Tavannach · 29/07/2019 09:16

The posters who address "You lot" as if MN was a homogeneous group separate from themselves.

The people who are so strict and disciplinary with their children that you wonder if their kids have any joy in their lives at all.

The transphobia on the feminist board, which makes it impossible to have a rational discussion.

Stillstrawberrywater · 29/07/2019 09:18

Mum's who make it difficult for Dad's to see their children

BusterGonad · 29/07/2019 09:19

@probstimeforanewname and @AE18 you two are exactly the type that I'm talking about. It's crazy.

bumblingbovine49 · 29/07/2019 09:25

The ones who copy and pate a paragraph or sentence from another poster then put
"^ This", drives me mad.

This
[Sorry couldn''t resist )

M0RVEN · 29/07/2019 09:27

My most hated of all on these is ‘Of course under Scottish law, XYZ...’ Do you want the OP to buy a time machine, go back to before her issue occurred and move to Inver-sodding-ness?! If the OP happens to have a time machine, perhaps it might be easier to go back and make sure whatever problem she’s facing doesn’t happen in the first place!

I don’t think they are suggesting a time machine at all. They are usually just pointing out that the law on many things is not the same across the UK. Often the OP doesn’t actually say where she lives, or just says “Uk” .

Then many posters proceed to give legal advice without checking and just assuming that the Op lives in England, so their advice is often very wrong.

This is a big issue on house buying, school and university, divorce and inheritance threads. Less so on benefits and tax.

And it’s Scots Law BTW, not Scottish law.

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