Strangers commenting on my appearance

[SparklesandFlowers]

Went for a walk with some friends and our children in buggies. There was a man we we chatting to before we set off, I don't know him, I think he was a stranger to everyone. After the walk I saw him again and he pointed at me and said "You caught the sun". I was red but because I was hot. I certainly haven't caught the sun as I know I burn easily so I wore a hat and carried a parasol the whole time. I tried to be assertive and told him I'm naturally red and that I get red when I'm hot, angry, embarrassed, drink red wine and other things.

I'm just upset he felt it necessary to comment on my appearance. I wish I'd said "Do you mean to be so rude?" but I'm never assertive enough. Why do people feel the need to comment on others' appearance? I know I'm red, I don't need it pointing out.

If you see this man again you must go all out to seduce him and get married just so that you can the

LTB

God forbid a normal human man makes a pleasant comment to a normal human woman.

lol, I thought you were going to say he told you your arse looked massive in that dress.

Christ, how bloody precious are you OP?
People....that's men and women, make innocuous comments like that all the time. They're meaningless throwaway comments.
I've said it myself. It's no big deal.

I remember once while I was walking through a bit of a drizzle a man I'd never seen in my life before said "Nice weather for ducks" as we passed. I had to stagger over to a lamp post to hold me up as my knees were buckling. How dare he suggest I looked/waddled/quacked like a duck!!!
It was many years ago but tbh you never really recover from that kind of trauma.

You should have called 101 to log it, Eileen. That sort of behaviour can escalate.

He’ll be wishing people a Happy Christmas before we know where we are.

“Good grief. What a prickly person you are.”

That’ll be the heat 😏

shumway
Bet he wouldn't have said it to a man. It's like the cheer up love / give us a smile comments.

I agree it is similar to this!

I, and many women, have spent years with unsolicited observations from men. So for me it would be an unwelcome comment.

Just because worse could be said doesn’t make other comments on someones appearance acceptable.

I’m a woman and I said it to a man last week. I was caught in a situation where I had to make spontaneous small talk and that’s what came out of my mouth. Luckily the man in question was very polite and accommodating of my awkwardness and responded ‘Yes, I have haven’t I’. I knew it was a tactless thing to say but I just panicked.

Bet he wouldn't have said it to a man. It's like the cheer up love / give us a smile comments
I hugely disagree on this.
It is the type of comment that when you e been talking to a person and then bump into the shortly after and its awkward not to say something so you just say anything. It's like when you keep bumping into someone in the supermarket aisle, you've had your chit chat and then bump into 10 mins later.
I've seen and heard similar man to man and woman to woman. I've done it myself over the years.
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What was said was in context to what was going on.