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Can I tell you what a CUNT my ex is

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 21:01

We have a DD together who is 4. He stopped seeing her 5 months ago. Blocked all contact. He blocked my number, her iPad email and every other email connected with her.

She was going on and on all morning asking to call him. I told her we can’t get through. In the end I changed her iPad email and she FaceTimed him. He answered clearly not knowing it was her. Told her he was driving but to call back later tonight, said love you darling!

Then instantly blocked her again.

I want to drive round his house and make him face the poor little heartbroken girl

Go ahead and share that DM, I’ll even give you his bloody name Angry

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 21:14

Bump because I’m furious

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MamaRaisingBoys · 13/07/2019 21:21

Your poor dd, that’s awful. She’s better off without him in her life anyway by the sounds of it but that doesn’t make it any less hurtful. What sort of prick does that to a baby?

Drogonssmile · 13/07/2019 21:22

What a twat Angry your poor DD. Not surprised you're furious OP.

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Mythreefavouritethings · 13/07/2019 21:23

Disgusting. Give her a big cuddle and keep doing what you’re doing. It’s heartbreaking but you both deserve better. You’re doing all the paddling while he lies back and basks in the sun. I’m sorry.

soberken · 13/07/2019 21:23

He's a prick. Here is your chance (as little as she is) in building resilience. Obviously age appropriate.

He is a bastard of the highest variety.

Lllot5 · 13/07/2019 21:24

You’re right he’s a cunt.

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 21:24

Can I run him over?

If you were on a jury you wouldn’t convict would you? I’ll try and get a woman heavy jury

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HarryDaylight · 13/07/2019 21:25

She's better off without him as he's a shit father.

worriedandannoyed · 13/07/2019 21:27

I thought my ex was bad but there are no words for such a horrible man!! Why doesn't he want to see his lovely daughter? I can't imagine how sad you are for her 😢 is he with someone else?

Gooseygoosey12345 · 13/07/2019 21:27

Cunt is the right word. She's better off without him. At the very least she won't be waiting at the door every other weekend for him to turn up and then he lets her down. Not talking from experience at all... fucking useless dads Angry

Gooseygoosey12345 · 13/07/2019 21:28

Also, I would find you innocent if I were on a jury. Even if there was CCTV and recorded messages of you saying you were going to do it Grin

martinidry · 13/07/2019 21:28

Somehow I think that the answers you're going to get will make for a unanimous verdict.

YANBU. Your ex is a cunt and your daughter is better off without him.

niceupthedanceagain · 13/07/2019 21:29

Massive cunt

CheesecakeAddict · 13/07/2019 21:30

Wow he really is a cunt!! Your poor dd 😔

IncrediblySadToo · 13/07/2019 21:31

I’ll hold him still for you!

He is indeed a nasty WANKER.

‘Cunt’is too kind- they’re warm welcoming & fun!

Your poor poor DD😢

Do you have a Dad/brother,m/cousin/friend who could step in a bit and give her some Dad type input?

I also think it’s now fair enough to start being more honest with her about his short comings and make sure she realises this is about HIM lacking, not her!

I don’t understand people who can do this to their children.

I wish upon him all the evils others will post shortly.

Do NOT go around though, nothing good will come if it & you could potentially land yourself in trouble.

Scarydinosaurs · 13/07/2019 21:33

Wtf??

Are you still in contact with his family? Why on earth is he doing this? Is he paying maintenance?

TeaForTheWin · 13/07/2019 21:36

Give her lots of cuddles! And make sure she know it isn't her fault.
He's an ass, hopefully he will stay away for a while and she will forget him. Maybe get her a pet (provided you can look after it) and she can channel her love towards it and receive some love from it to help heal her wee heart.

Northernlurker · 13/07/2019 21:36

What an absolute sod. Would be unfortunate if somebody leafleted every pub and bar in a five mile radius with his photo and the information that he ignores his own child.

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 21:38

He pays maintenance

I’ve copied this post to his mother! She might be along soon

She read the message and then ignored

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 21:39

Yes he has a new partner

I’ve stopped lying to dd. First few months I made excuses for him. Now I’m just going with “sometimes adults are silly like children are, I think daddy is being silly and it’s better to just let him get on with it and stop trying to call, daddy can call you if he wants to”

No idea if that’s the best thing or not!

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Northernlurker · 13/07/2019 21:40

Clearly the ability to ignore things or people you should take note of was genetic......

IDontGiveABagOfDicks · 13/07/2019 21:43

Angry Yep, cunt.

The worst thing is that a year or more down the line he can demand mediation/court because when these deadbeats want to talk, we have to jump immediately but the can ignore us/their child’s existence for as long as they like with 0 consequences and will likely get contact.

It boils my piss.

TeaForTheWin · 13/07/2019 21:44

Auch, what can his mother do? I mean he's not five anymore. She's probably given up too.

Northernlurker · 13/07/2019 21:47

Well my mil would rip dh limb from limb but I guess we're all different.

roundbottomflask · 13/07/2019 21:47

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