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Can I tell you what a CUNT my ex is

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 21:01

We have a DD together who is 4. He stopped seeing her 5 months ago. Blocked all contact. He blocked my number, her iPad email and every other email connected with her.

She was going on and on all morning asking to call him. I told her we can’t get through. In the end I changed her iPad email and she FaceTimed him. He answered clearly not knowing it was her. Told her he was driving but to call back later tonight, said love you darling!

Then instantly blocked her again.

I want to drive round his house and make him face the poor little heartbroken girl

Go ahead and share that DM, I’ll even give you his bloody name Angry

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Verastsnhope · 14/07/2019 02:51

When he surfaces again, send him this. What an arse. Your poor wee lassie 🤭

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Helmlover1 · 14/07/2019 08:54

Normally, when I read posts like this I always try and see things from the other person’s point of view but in this situation I really can’t.

Even if he hated your guts and never wanted to speak to you ever again..harsh but fair enough. But to block and remove his 4 year old child from his life, that’s just sick and evil.

It’s been said before but you’re both honestly better off without him. Concentrate on building a happy life for you and your daughter without sadistic people who clearly get off on emotionally destroying other people.

Zaphodsotherhead · 14/07/2019 10:39

I presume his new girlfriend doesn't know he has a daughter and he's trying to keep that fact from her?

No jury in the land would convict you, OP.

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nrpmum · 14/07/2019 10:46

I don't see my daughter (of which there are reasons). He does sound like a complete waste of space. However please be careful what you tell your 4 year old daughter. Even without your frustrations she will see him for what he is.

Wrt mil I can kind of understand why she doesn't want to get involved. It really is between you and him.

nrpmum · 14/07/2019 10:47

And as an aside I doubt very much he's worth doing time for, and guess where your daughter would end up if he's still alive and kicking!

ohdearmymistake · 14/07/2019 10:49

Please keep all evidence of him blocking contact, refusing to stay in touch with his DD, everything.
Just in case one day he decides to come back in to her life and it ends up in court or some such thing you can prove it was him that walked away.
Sadly, when she is older as hard as it will be for your DD at least she will be able to see it wasn't you that stopped him from seeing her.

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YesyouyouCnut · 14/07/2019 10:50

She knows he has a kid. In fact two kids he doesn’t see. He had another one after DD and left that one from the offset. He at least saw DD regularly until 6 months ago. Coincidently when he met the new girlfriend. I’m not blaming her, ultimately it’s up to him not her.

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MrsSpenserGregson · 14/07/2019 10:50

*Can I run him over?

If you were on a jury you wouldn’t convict would you? I’ll try and get a woman heavy jury*

I wouldn't convict, no. Bless you and your DD. He really is a cunt.

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YesyouyouCnut · 14/07/2019 10:52

@nrpmum, I’d be interested in what you think I should tell her? I genuinely mean that.

So if she asks

When can I see daddy
Can I call daddy
Is daddy coming to my party
Why doesn’t daddy see me

What would your response be? Am I supposed to lie to her/for him?

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Pinktinker · 14/07/2019 11:03

Wow, what a catch... Two children he has no contact with, one from birth and the other he has suddenly decided to block and essentially discard at four years old. I can totally see what his current GF sees in him, his parents must be so proud too Hmm.

Who on Earth is heartless enough to sit and block their own child? He must be sociopathic, it’s the only logical explanation.

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YesyouyouCnut · 14/07/2019 11:10

I this point I don’t even care about posting personal stuff tbh.

This is a screenshot from my old iPad which he hasn’t blocked. First three messages delivered. Last one didn’t. He literally just blocks any kind of contact.

I thought I’d feel calmer today but I don’t!

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YesyouyouCnut · 14/07/2019 11:10

I mean he hadn’t blocked it until I messaged him and he realised and then blocked it

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imaflutteringkite · 14/07/2019 11:19

XDP did this to his 2&4 year olds. Then he moved 400 miles away. He still doesn't answer the phone to them. My 4 year old adored him, now he's 11 he sees him for what he is. I have never slagged him off, your DD will realise who is there for her.

OdeToDiazepam · 14/07/2019 12:03

It's his loss. What an absolute waste of oxygen

HairyFloppins · 14/07/2019 12:16

By the sounds of it your DD is better off without him. She has her mum who loves her and she will be fine. Sorry he is an arsehole. Bless your little DD.

Crinkle77 · 14/07/2019 12:19

Yes he is a massive cunt. I'm going to get flamed for this but knowing that he had blocked contact initially why did you then get your daughter to try and make contact with him using a different e mail address? Surely you must have known that your daughter would be even more upset once he realised who it was and blocked her again. He is an arse of the highest order but you haven't helped the situation.

TheyCallMeMellowYellow · 14/07/2019 12:19

Jesus 😦 how could anyone do that to a 4 year old? Cruel bastard.

I hope she forgets all about him soon enough.

MistyMinge2 · 14/07/2019 12:24

I will never ever understand how someone could do this to a child. I hope karma Bures him in the bollocks well and truly.

He is a massive cunt.

Ultimately your daughter is probably better off without him flitting in and out of her life and messing with her head.

Angry
stanski · 14/07/2019 12:25

Karma will get him back

MistyMinge2 · 14/07/2019 12:25

Bites not Bures (not sure where that came from)

Beechview · 14/07/2019 12:26

He’s disgusting.
Please reaffirm as often as you can to your dd that it’s not her and his behaviour isn’t because of her or anything she’s done. He just has his own issues to deal with that are nothing to do with her.

Fluffycloudland77 · 14/07/2019 13:13

I’d stop her seeing the grandma, she’s complicit with the sperm donor and long term prolonging the distress she’s feeling.

Your both best off out of their circus.

TeaForTheWin · 14/07/2019 13:28

I wonder if he will come scuttling round again when he breaks up with current girlfriend. I'd be tempted to move far away so that he can't just change his mind a year from now and waltz back in ready to start the whole cycle again tbh. No way would he get the chance to break my daughters heart all over again.

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YesyouyouCnut · 14/07/2019 19:58

UPDATE

LO AND MOTHERFUCKING BEHOLD

He just called. And emailed saying he wants to speak to DD.

I didn’t put him on, didn’t answer and didn’t answer the email. I’m guessing his mum has indeed read this thread. This is unprecedented

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YesyouyouCnut · 14/07/2019 19:59

Or maybe he’s read the thread

In which case: what they ☝️ all said you utter prick

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