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Can I tell you what a CUNT my ex is

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 21:01

We have a DD together who is 4. He stopped seeing her 5 months ago. Blocked all contact. He blocked my number, her iPad email and every other email connected with her.

She was going on and on all morning asking to call him. I told her we can’t get through. In the end I changed her iPad email and she FaceTimed him. He answered clearly not knowing it was her. Told her he was driving but to call back later tonight, said love you darling!

Then instantly blocked her again.

I want to drive round his house and make him face the poor little heartbroken girl

Go ahead and share that DM, I’ll even give you his bloody name Angry

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Longdistance · 13/07/2019 21:47

Calling him a cunt is being generous, I have no words...

Starlight456 · 13/07/2019 21:47

I think you need to accept who he is .

I think you desperately want him to be the dad you want him to be.

You can’t make him , his mum can’t make him. And putting your dd on the I pad isn’t going to make him . If anything you have allowed him to hurt her all over again.

My Ds hasn’t seen his dad since he was 3 . At that age when he asked he was told if his dad wanted to see him it was up to him to get in touch.

Now older he is told we focus on the people who are involved in our lives and support us.

JemSynergy · 13/07/2019 21:49

What an arsehole.

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Contraceptionismyfriend · 13/07/2019 21:49

Jesus fucking Christ what an absolute scum bag. I hope he gets crotch rot.

Honestly OP she is better off without him. And I hope his parents are proud of the shit show they dragged up. He was better off dribbling down his mothers leg.

I'm honestly disgusted.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 13/07/2019 21:51

He’s a scumbag. Your poor daughter.

What’s he hiding or hiding from OP?

Jb291 · 13/07/2019 21:52

Hugs and strength to you OP. You and your little one are absolutely better off without the heartless twat. What kind of evil monster cuts off communication with a four year old child.

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 13/07/2019 21:53

It's so difficult, isn't it? When I had a similar situation with grandparents, I said "I don't know why they don't want to see you, because you are fabulous and I'm very proud of you" then I distracted then with icecream/wifi/Netflix depending on which child it was.

Frankjrjr · 13/07/2019 21:53

Poor sweetheart Sad

Havingarethink · 13/07/2019 21:57

You know what really annoys me, the fact that she may forget about this hurt when she is a teenager and he wants to be in touch again.
I am speaking from my own personal experience BTW, as a child of such an arsehole . The difference is, there was no such thing as MN (for guidance) or Internet /social media when my mum was raising me. Basically, catalog all of this for when the inevitable happens.

Passmealargewine · 13/07/2019 21:57

I would happily push him into the road for you when you drive past.
I thought my stbxh was a cunt (& he is) but jeez. Your daughter has you fighting her corner though & one day she will fully understand

carmenbea · 13/07/2019 21:59

This makes me so angry. Why would someone do that to a poor child??? I would go absolutely mental. Complete and utter lowlife cunt

troppibambini · 13/07/2019 22:01

I'm so sorry you and your daughter are going through this.
When my daughter was four and used to go and see her dad he used take her to the pub and sit there and get drunk. I found out this and some more awful stuff from my daughters half sister (ex's daughter from previous marriage) so I stopped letting her go to his house.
Four months later (fucking four months?!) he got in touch and asked to see her so we went to soft play, he stunk of alcohol and vomited all over the table when we were having lunch.
I took him to his house after telling him he was a disgrace.
That was the last time we saw him. It was 11 years ago.

Some people are just utter cunts.

Knowivedonewrong · 13/07/2019 22:02

I hope he gets cock rot and it falls off!
What a loser.

fblake · 13/07/2019 22:03

What an arsehole. Doesn't deserve your DD. He'll end up old and alone x

Leftielefterson · 13/07/2019 22:03

My heart breaks for your daughter OP. You must be in a hell of a mess too. I just can’t get over how mean some people are.

cherylberyls · 13/07/2019 22:05

Have you sent this Mumsnet post to his mum did you mean?
If you have and your reading this YOU HAVE RAISED A CUNT AND THIS IS PARTLY YOUR FAULT

Wereeaglesdare · 13/07/2019 22:09

I know it hurts. And he is a cunt. But you will raise your DD strong. You will have enough love to compensate for this wanker. Your right to stop making excuses for him. You tell her that some families just have a mummy and those mummy's have soo much love for their babies that they can do the job of both. Your daughter will adore, respect and admire you. You will be her world and I speak as someone who was raised by a very strong woman and just her from the age of 4. He has missed out and she will learn to just not miss him. To her he will become just another person. You will be her hero at the end or the day and the only person she needs to rely on. You sound like an amazing mama. Don't give this loser any more opportunities he does not deserve your effort.

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 22:14

Yes I sent her the link to this post

👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼 Hey MIL

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Sexnotgender · 13/07/2019 22:16

Who does that to a little girl? What an absolute monster. How can he live with himself.

Rivkka · 13/07/2019 22:20

I'd be ashamed if my DS did that.

I really hope his mum does read this and tells him what a prick he's being.

Wolfiefan · 13/07/2019 22:20

If my son behaved like that to his child I would happily kick him into next week.
He is an absolute arsebadger.
Raise your DD to have the confidence to know she deserves a whole lot better. You love her to bits and know how special and amazing she is. Shame he never will.

Wonderstuff7 · 13/07/2019 22:23

You must be furious. What a bellend.
She doesn't need that in her life. I just don't get how a father could do that.

I'll be on the jury too Wink

Contraceptionismyfriend · 13/07/2019 22:26

Does MiL have any contact with your DD?

pallisers · 13/07/2019 22:26

If you have and your reading this YOU HAVE RAISED A CUNT AND THIS IS PARTLY YOUR FAULT

Seriously? it has to be a woman's fault. How about his dad's fault? Or how about mostly his fault? Not excusing MIL if she is excusing him but the one blocking his own child is the cunt (and that is fairly awful) and it isn't any woman's fault that he is doing that - that's on him.

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 22:26

I know exactly what will happen. She’ll call him. He’ll say he hasn’t blocked DD. She’ll call me and say he hasn’t blocked her, I’ll tell her he’s lying and he has blocked her she’ll say “I don’t want to get involved”. I’ll send her screenshots of the blocked messages. She’ll ignore.

End of story

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