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Can I tell you what a CUNT my ex is

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 21:01

We have a DD together who is 4. He stopped seeing her 5 months ago. Blocked all contact. He blocked my number, her iPad email and every other email connected with her.

She was going on and on all morning asking to call him. I told her we can’t get through. In the end I changed her iPad email and she FaceTimed him. He answered clearly not knowing it was her. Told her he was driving but to call back later tonight, said love you darling!

Then instantly blocked her again.

I want to drive round his house and make him face the poor little heartbroken girl

Go ahead and share that DM, I’ll even give you his bloody name Angry

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LoulabelleAndCo · 13/07/2019 22:29

Love to your little girl. She deserves so much better x

Contraceptionismyfriend · 13/07/2019 22:30

So how does she justify the fact that he hasn't seen her in 5 months?!

InsertFunnyUsername · 13/07/2019 22:31

What a scumbag spineless shitbag.

Yhyh its not always the mother fault for raising a dickhead he could choose that all on his own, but my DM would woop my brothers butt if he acted like that. Your poor DD Sad

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HelloyouKant · 13/07/2019 22:33

He is a speck of dirt on this earth. Thank God she has a wonderful mum like you. She will be ok.

cherylberyls · 13/07/2019 22:33

Of course it's the dads fault. He is scum. But I have been in the same situation and ex MIL did fuck all to help me or her grand daughter. And OP update proves that her MIL is similar to mine was.

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 22:35

@Contraceptionismyfriend, she “doesn’t want to get involved”. She does see DD and calls him from her phone and puts DD on. Mostly why 5 mths on DD is still going on daily about speaking to ex.

He won’t ignore her around his mother. If DD says daddy you don’t pick the phone up (which she has before) he just flat out lies and says “it was in my truck and I missed your call”. All 4000 of them presumably

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PerfectPeony2 · 13/07/2019 22:37

I hate the c word, I’ve never typed or said it in my life but ... he is a total CUNT.

I’m so sorry for your poor little girl. Keep doing what you’re doing, distract her from it. Try not to make it a big deal.

I remember when my Dad left (only bothered to see us a few hours a month). My Mum never said anything bad about him, kept it vague- he is working etc. and we just got on with our lives without him.

She will be okay.

hadthesnip2 · 13/07/2019 22:37

No point involving his mother. He is an adult. Even if she was concerned about her grandchild he could easily block her as well or spin her tales about you.

Btw......its not just men that are cnuts. My ex-wife moved in yet another new boyfriend after another failed relationship. Kids finally had enough & moved in with me. Middle one (dd14) has not spoken to her for 6 months. Eldest (ds15) is trying to keep in contact & told his mum he would like to spend time with her & maybe stay over at weekends (I used to have them eow- 8 years post divorce. They have not stayed with her once since xmas). She's just told them that she is moving away to live with her "dp"- 40 min trip by train & she doesn't drive. She hasn't returned any texts I've sent her in 6 months. There are so many names I'd like to call her.....

Contraceptionismyfriend · 13/07/2019 22:40

@YesyouyouCnut that's appalling. I agree with your new stance. Don't lie or cover for him. Tell her the truth. You wish she had a better father but unfortunately she doesn't.

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 22:43

I’ve told her she deserves a better daddy and I’m sorry she feels sad but I love her very much and daddy is the one missing out.

I don’t know how soon kids forget people, she’s 4 so hopefully not too long

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Wolfiefan · 13/07/2019 22:45

She does deserve better.
Good job she has you. Flowers

Macca84 · 13/07/2019 22:46

He is an utter CUNT. I hate violence, but if I was his new DP and I happened to find out he was treating his daughter like this, I'd be inclined to tear his balls off. Your DD is better off without this prick in her life Flowers

InsertFunnyUsername · 13/07/2019 22:53

If his mother is ringing him off her phone so your DD can speak, but he doesn't answer any other time i honestly would stop that.

Not to be spiteful not that he deserves anything less, but its just playing with the poor little girls heart. So awful

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YesyouyouCnut · 13/07/2019 22:58

@InsertFunnyUsername, I’ve said the same thing to her tonight

It just opens it all up all over again as she only goes there every 4 weeks or so

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golddustwomen · 13/07/2019 22:59

Jesus h what a piece of absolute shite!!!!!!!!!
Your dd deserves 100 x better than that. Good job she has a lovely caring mummy x

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 13/07/2019 23:01

This reminds me of a meme I saw on FB, that applies perfectly to this waste-of-space excuse for a father -

“I’d call you a cunt - but you lack the warmth and depth!”

DeRigueurMortis · 13/07/2019 23:01

I'd suggest you and your DD are better off without either of them in your lives.

A useless father and an enabling grandparent.

If my son behaved like this I'd be furious - not excusing his behaviour or enabling it.

Focus on you and your DD and leave them to their pathetic antics.

Starlight456 · 13/07/2019 23:04

You need to speak to mil. Not through mn.

You need to stop the phone calls . If he wants contact he needs to arrange it directly . If he doesn’t ( as it seems) she needs space to deal with that.

If mil doesn’t agree I would stop contact with her.

As for your dd , she will never forget him , you have bro support her to deal with it.

huuskymam · 13/07/2019 23:11

Cunt is an understatement for him. Blocking your own baby, how low can someone get.

toffeeapple123 · 13/07/2019 23:15

Disgrace

Treaclesweet · 13/07/2019 23:27

Personally I would stop contact with his mum. Why should she get to play grandma when her son won't be a dad?

ShitStormInATeacup · 13/07/2019 23:34

He is a cunt.

Better for your DD to learn that now while she's young enough to heal more quickly. I feel for you and your DD.

I'm not sure how any Mum could justify or ignore her son acting this way. I know I couldn't.

Saltystraw · 13/07/2019 23:47

I don’t understand why you ran to MIL, presumably the dad is an adult. You can’t go running to MIL to fix everything.. at least she does try and connect the 2 for some contact.

The dad needs to grow up and take responsibility

Weenurse · 13/07/2019 23:49

I am sorry you are going through this 💐

dollibob · 14/07/2019 02:34

Just to say my MIL once said or me that if my DH ever behaved in the way was emotionally damaging to our DC she would tear him a new one. So for everyone assuming MIL's are automatically on their babies side - it's not always that clear cut Xx