Would you be angry at this?! Or am I overreacting

[MammaTo1LittleBear]

So little one is now 8 months and he's going through the sleep regression I think

Last night he refused to drink his bedtime bottle, was up at 11 for his bedtime bottle, then woke at 1 for his usual 1 am bottle, woke at 2, woke at 4 (which he normally does but he usually comes in with us) and wanted to get up. Partner said "well I'm not getting up with him" even though he didn't have to do any work from home. Luckily I'm off work today.

Partner has not long got up he made him some toast and didn't ask if I wanted any and he took baby for about 5 minutes and then he's just gone out without offering to take baby so I could sleep

Would you be angry at this and what would you have done?

To be honest I’d be raving
You both made him so you should either both get up/take it in turns
It’s not fair on you to do it all
And to just bigger off out is very u

This morning when I got sons outfit partner said turn the light off and let me sleep

Then he didn't get up until 10:20.

He could've offered to take baby with him

So he's still not back and I'm exhausted

Baby is refusing to nap as well 😕

Anyone else???

Where the hell is he? The selfish prick. If this were me I swear to Lucifer I would kill him.

No you are not but I suspect this is a pattern of behaviour since he has been born

Given it's the weekend, presumably he's taking all the night feeds tonight then? I say that as someone who's DH apparently doesn't hear our 10 month old at night so I feel your pain.

He's not much of a partner, a partner should share the load.

He's been a dickhead, no question! But why didn't you ask (or tell) him to do what you want him to? Or wake him before 10:20, if he thinks it's ok and you'll just do it all then he'll carry on.

He was similar when I pregnant and we were staying at his mum's I was heavily pregnant and could hardly walk and I asked him for a drink and he said "in a minute" while playing on his phone

But then when baby was born he was amazing and helpful.

He's gone to town.

He said to me to get up with son..I woke him up at about 7.30/8 but he said turn the light off and he went back to sleep.

Also don't think he'd agree to doing all the night feeds. Last night he stayed up late and he must've heard baby crying but he still didn't make his bottle. And he will probably be staying up late again on the xbox

This can only happen if you allow it. This is deal breaker stuff for me. He either pulls his weight with feeding/sleeping or he packs his stuff and leaves.

So I asked him if he could give baby his bottle he said no he's busy although he was only on his phone!

I would be proper raging. What a selfish arsehole.

How old are you both? He sounds like an idiot teenage boy who didn't want a kid and isn't interested. And he sounds like someone who isn't going to change. Maybe life would be better off without him in it.

What a selfish bastard. Can you imagine many years of this?!

@LittleMissEngineer normally he doesn't get up much during the night but because he refused his bedtime bottle he wanted it at 11pm. But he doesn't have his 1am bottle but we are trying to get rid of it as he's only drinking 2-3oz.

He usually gets up at 5-5.30 and has done since he was very young.

The time baby wakes here is irrelevant. The fact is your partner seems totally disengaged from parental duties and doesn't understand that, actually, he has a rôle to play here. Ask him - on what level does he think it ok to play on his phone instead of fulfilling his rôle as a dad?

He's 17 but will be 18 in few weeks and I'm 18.

Sometimes he is so good with son though and looks after him and distracts him while I cook etc.

He's just said why am I being so moody and that he hasn't done anything wrong.

Gosh you're both so young. What a lot to deal with - do you have any family support?

So he is an idiot teenage boy who didn't want a kid.

You're only 18. You don't need to be tied to him forever. Seriously think about this... If you didn't have a baby, would this be the man you married?

Take time to think about what you want for your life, and don't stay with him if it's just unhappiness and anger... a few random occasions of him playing dad do not a father make.

You both sound knackered tbh.

Having a baby is lots of work.

He does need to do shares of night feeds. Can you up the ounces of the last night feed so maybe he sleeps though til morning. Might stop little one needing to top up? It does sound like hell be dropping it soon though.

Have you got friends or family that could help nearby just so you could get a power nap?

How well does little one sleep during the day?