Would you be angry at this?! Or am I overreacting

[MammaTo1LittleBear]

So little one is now 8 months and he's going through the sleep regression I think

Last night he refused to drink his bedtime bottle, was up at 11 for his bedtime bottle, then woke at 1 for his usual 1 am bottle, woke at 2, woke at 4 (which he normally does but he usually comes in with us) and wanted to get up. Partner said "well I'm not getting up with him" even though he didn't have to do any work from home. Luckily I'm off work today.

Partner has not long got up he made him some toast and didn't ask if I wanted any and he took baby for about 5 minutes and then he's just gone out without offering to take baby so I could sleep

Would you be angry at this and what would you have done?

He said he will change and be more helpful

I’d be cautious about believing that - he already had a chance to change and help out more but he didn’t step up.

But I can understand you wanting to make it work. If you decide to give him another chance, then be really clear what you expect from him. And at the first sign he’s slipping back to old habits then leave. Your little one will always have a relationship with their daddy, but you need to make sure that you are living in an environment where you are both supported.

It’s very easy to say “I’ll help”

But he has proved over and over that his promises are empty

Just want to give you a big hug, I was 20 when I had my first child, his dad was older than me but he was also completely useless... I left before my ds's 3rd birthday. Its hard but you have to put yourself and ds's welfare first, do whatever feels right for the both of you xx